Has Anyone Else Just Given Up And Lost Hope On Dating/Love?

[BigMan]

Im 23, breh. Women my age are either lookin for ruff necks or "mature" men.
While that's happening, even though Im young, I know should be a better man. No chick is really checking for an Asocial dude with no dating experience, awkward and no car. My chances could had been better in High School maybe

bro i'm is/was in a similar position....just get some goals and figure out what you want
you can fix being asocial, awkwardness and no car

 

[SunZoo]

Yeah, maybe. I could be more, but I just think I haven't reached my goal yet if that makes sense.

You're 23 fam....



You say you haven't reached your goal...what exactly is your goal?

 

[kwazzy100]

bro i'm is/was in a similar position....just get some goals and figure out what you want
you can fix being asocial, awkwardness and no car

Im learning how to drive now.
As for being Asocial . I can be fixed, but it's a bytch to fix. I've tried talking to more people, but I don't feel like I connect with people as much as I expect.

You're 23 fam....



You say you haven't reached your goal...what exactly is your goal?

Mostly being stable enough to take care of myself instead of struggling daily. Financially and emotionally. Not the most confident guy. I don't know how other strong black men do it

 

[BigMan]

Im learning how to drive now.
As for being Asocial . I can be fixed, but it's a bytch to fix. I've tried talking to more people, but I don't feel like I connect with people as much as I expect.



Mostly being stable enough to take care of myself instead of struggling daily. Financially and emotionally. Not the most confident guy. I don't know how other strong black men do it

I'm 23, almost 24 , as well

You should focus on that car because that's easy. I'm also antisocial but honestly you just need to put yourself out there and force yourself to be social. You'll find it's usually not as bad as you think. Try networking with people in your class or with similar interest /hobbies like you

As far as confidence, fake it til you make it
That's what I do

 

[SunZoo]

Mostly being stable enough to take care of myself instead of struggling daily. Financially and emotionally. Not the most confident guy. I don't know how other strong black men do it

Slow down baby bubba.

Those are more so ideals, things you think you need to be with a broad range. Goals are things that you can map out steps to and keep track of progress. Not struggling isn't a goal, it's a counter-intention.

Leaning how to drive is a goal, one that is in progress for you. Why do you want to learn how to drive?

I would assume it's to be able to get around and have some independence. If you just said "I want to be independent" without coming to the conclusion that XYZ will help me achieve that end, it's just an ideal, one that you don't embody and see no path to. If I were in your shoes and had someone to kinda point me in the right direction, I would say control of your emotional state should be the next ideal you break down into goals and skills that you can acquire, just like you're doing with driving. Your state or emotional baseline affects everything...anything you try to accomplish from a weak state of mind will seem like a struggle. If someone had told me that when I was 23 I'd be a fukking billionaire by now.

Relax, you got plenty of time, as does OP. Shoot for a better mood, better internal dialogue and all that other shyt falls into place naturally.

 

[SunZoo]

@DatLBCGuy562 I know I said my peace in PM but I'ma apologize in this thread as well to keep it g. I could have said what I wanted to say with way more tact than that.

 

[Bledswole]

Lots of great post in here

 

[StickStickly]

I mean it's one thing if a person is petty abd argumentative but if it's to the point of no cooperation and mental illness that's not okay

But breh you can't expect a woman to be June Cleaver 24/7. Women are human. At some point you have to accept that not everyone is going to be perfect all the time. Don't accept crazy, but stop thinking like it's all or nothing, black and white.

 

[Bledswole]

I think men should be eating more than ever honestly these women now a days are so shallow and insecure .

Like one breh said unless you super ugly and outta shape you should have a decent roster and definitely should be hitting a chick or two on the regular

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

I think men should be eating more than ever honestly these women now a days are so shallow and insecure .

Like one breh said unless you super ugly and outta shape you should have a decent roster and definitely should be hitting a chick or two on the regular

Me getting sex or any old woman is not the issue. Finding a woman of QUALITY and SUBSTANCE is the issue. I'm past wanting meaningless sex, if that's what you mean by "eating"...

 

[Bledswole]

Me getting sex or any old woman is not the issue. Finding a woman of QUALITY and SUBSTANCE is the issue. I'm past wanting meaningless sex, if that's what you mean by "eating"...

Yea that's what I mean by that.

But shiddd it's guys out here who can't even get p*ssy on the regular,how the hell they gonna get a chick to like em enough for a relationship?

 

[Fandroid]

I mean it's one thing if a person is petty abd argumentative

that's not "one thing"

being petty and argumentative is sihtty social trait, point blank and should not be put up with.

 

[StickStickly]

that's not "one thing"

being petty and argumentative is sihtty social trait, point blank and should not be put up with.

Depends on the scale. Some people can be reasoned with, some can't

 

[Fandroid]

but once again, this shyt is just specific to America/Western dating....I don't think the dating game is so deceitful and romanticized elsewhere.

So you concede that #BoatGang is superior?

 

[Karb]

Breh....

fukk outta here with this armchair psychology.

"Happier than I've been in a long time" is now "resentful"?

nikkas...

You said that her face is ugly at least three times. You'll probably end up hurting that woman