Has Anyone Else Just Given Up And Lost Hope On Dating/Love?

[DatLBCGuy562]

I feel OP's pain.. You're competing with a bunch of shyt now. You competing with endless social media options, You competing with feminism, you competing with men in your own area, you competing with studs, you competing with your own ego. The endless options is why people feel entitled to not really bring a effort or A game into a situation. Muthafukkas figure "Oh I don't have to really be on time, I can flake, I can be half ass because I have other folks in my DM wanting to get at me"

Plus you have single women who act like they don't even want to be picked up or go out anymore.

But what you can do is make as many female friends as you can and eventually one is gonna choose... Either that or they gonna put you on to someone. Plus don't make finding the one as a priority

Great, introspective post family. Appreciate the input man. Wish I could rep you, but I don't have the ability at the moment. I feel you family. I was 20 years old in 1999. That was before dating sites and social media really existed. It was easy to meet women and really get to know them because their attention wasn't being pulled in a thousand different directions. It's funny because you can pick the bitter bytches out super easy now. You see these two "women", who I now have on ignore, constantly attacking me and trolling me for sharing my experience and asking a simple question? They started going off like I insulted them personally? That's their guilty conscience speaking. That means I struck a nerve. Those are the bitter, argumentative, man hating, single mom chicks I was referring to in my OP. They exposed themselves without even realizing it because they saw themselves in my words. And that's how it is when I date. I pay attention to subtle clues and ques. And when women start talking, I listen closely. And they unknowingly and subtly reveal things about themselves and it throws my vibe and my interest off. I honestly think it's social media man. Everybody feels like a star and like they can do better due to Instagram likes/attention. fukked up the game...

 

[mag357]

Yo... this is always on my brain about women... U really just have to lock in on yourself..make urself the best version of urself possible. U will become consumed with that objective. women will come and go... no sweat to you at all..
God made you a man. be greatful for that everyday.
If u have the urge to have sex... make it only about that. And if God wants to put 1 of those "good women" in ur life... then it shall be..
Peace to you tho brother

 

[Organic Trees]

Finding a decent female who is also loyal/respectful is hard af.. especially in my age group(25). Most of the females in my city either wanna thot or got too many issues

 

[the bossman]

But if you're in California, I'd gladly meet up with you so you can get everything off your chest. Hit my inbox. And we'll arrange a sit down since you're such a tough guy. Until then, ignore.

the ol let's take this offline and cashmeoutside threat. breh must've really struck a nerve

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

Yo... this is always on my brain about women... U really just have to lock in on yourself..make urself the best version of urself possible. U will become consumed with that objective. women will come and go... no sweat to you at all..
God made you a man. be greatful for that everyday.
If u have the urge to have sex... make it only about that. And if God wants to put 1 of those "good women" in ur life... then it shall be..
Peace to you tho brother

Much love and respect to you breh

I'm not really tripping like that. Just asked a question to spark some dialogue and receive some feedback, and these coli armchair psychologists are in here accusing me of everything under the sun and breaking down my personality and mental state

I have definitely had my share of women. I can get a woman tomorrow if I choose. I just simply stated it's harder to meet QUALITY women as you age because more baggage comes along with dating older women. And I stand by that.

I think that's a blessing in disguise though. Women require time and attention. Time and attention that I could better use by putting it towards stacking bread and stepping my fitness game back up to par. So there's definitely a silver lining in every gray cloud. Great perspective my dude. Appreciate it fam.

 

[hatealot]

Yep. The 80-20 rule is in full effect now. If you're ugly or average looking, the hoes gon call you a creep and say it's street harassment.

This isn't a attack on you but this is complete bullshyt, I don't know if this is some online shyt that is spreading or this is really occurring with very young folks nowadays but approaching women in appropriate places will at most end up with a "no thank you", "I have a boyfriend" and then you keep it moving. The biggest complaints I hear from women who I date or who are friends is that men are no longer approaching and the women who are very attractive are being completely ignored because men are scared or intimated to step to them. The only factor I can say for men who getting zero play is that there must be some strong negative factors in play here, either alot of insecurities, very poor fashion sense, or they are not physically attractive at all in any kind of way.

 

[mag357]

thats why i laught at them
they ay they gonna be 35 - 38 on yacths fukkin bytches but wheres the proof? which person 35-38 on thecoli is living that lifestyle?
its a fantasy land coli nikkas sound depressed behind all the ego

The thing is...that lifestyle is obtainable... I live something similar... i dnt have a fukking yacht or no shyt like that. 35 but i get to be with who ever i want. making money, travel alil, and chill...
But the thing is when ur in ur mid to late 30's, that lifestyle isnt really as attractive as i thought it would be... Then i think about being married with kids... and everytime i see a dude like that, his soul looks unhappy lol.
So like i posted a min ago... my objective is to become the best ME i can be. Get to a point where i dnt need p*ssy, and if i have an urge for it... get it... keep it moving and get back to the business of ME.
In conclusion lol... Both types of lifestyles are heavily overrated

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

the ol let's take this offline and cashmeoutside threat. breh must've really struck a nerve

Not at all. I'm not used to this internet shyt. I like to box. On the real. So when people play tough, I like them to PROVE tough. And this dude was in here talking mad shyt like I stepped on his dog or fukked his sister, trying to get daps from these bitter hoes in here, so I simply presented him the opportunity to get it off his chest in person. We can film it. See how many daps getting put flat on his back will get him

 

[Rockstar Mom]

the ol let's take this offline and cashmeoutside threat. breh must've really struck a nerve

Hes hurt. The females didn't even say anything bad to him and he crying and putting us on ignore, but still talking crazy. But he'll go back and forth with the men. I see why he has women problem.

 

[SunZoo]

nikka stop. You don't know me. And I don't have to front for the internet like most of you bytch nikkaz and act super tough like I'm not vulnerable and like everything in my life is super perfect all of the time. I don't go back and forth with internet trolls looking to get a rise. But if you're in California, I'd gladly meet up with you so you can get everything off your chest. Hit my inbox. And we'll arrange a sit down since you're such a tough guy. Until then, ignore.

I know enough from the shyt you said in this thread. And it's fine to be vulnerable fam, I'm glad you are actually. But you're a bit old to be coddled while you give all responsibility for your happiness to other people only to blame them for not being "gems" like you aren't walking around with a lump of coal mentality.

I'ma be honest with you, I said what I said to make you mad purposely. Anger can get you up off your ass quicker than melancholy, you're welcome. But I mean you no harm, and I'm not saying what I'm saying because I'm a 'tough guy'. I'm saying it because you already have so much momentum behind being a miserable and are now adding to it. If you had some real nikkas in your circle, they would be telling you what I'm telling you.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Yo i just tries to dap a post in here and it asked me are you sure u want to do this?

Couldnt get it to do it again

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

Men will usually be alone and sad and women miserable in a relationship. Pick your poison.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

This isn't a attack on you but this is complete bullshyt, I don't know if this is some online shyt that is spreading or this is really occurring with very young folks nowadays but approaching women in appropriate places will at most end up with a "no thank you", "I have a boyfriend" and then you keep it moving. The biggest complaints I hear from women who I date or who are friends is that men are no longer approaching and the women who are very attractive are being completely ignored because men are scared or intimated to step to them. The only factor I can say for men who getting zero play is that there must be some strong negative factors in play here, either alot of insecurities, very poor fashion sense, or they are not physically attractive at all in any kind of way.

When women say they aren't getting play/looks/attention whatever that means they aren't getting it from the ONE person or TYPE they want it from. If a woman isn't interested in you, you're literally a nobody. But someone is approaching these attractive women. Perhaps an idiot, but in the real world even an idiot is someone. The other shyt in the post I somewhat agree with. I still think the 80/20 is real among women. A lot of them can't pursue that thinking for various reasons.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

When women say they aren't getting play/looks/attention whatever that means they aren't getting it from the ONE person or TYPE they want it from. If a woman isn't interested in you, you're literally a nobody. But someone is approaching these attractive women. Perhaps an idiot, but in the real world even an idiot is someone. The other shyt in the post I somewhat agree with. I still think the 80/20 is real among women. A lot of them can't pursue that thinking for various reasons.

Yup
Women live in they own reality
You cant take most of what they say serious

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

This isn't a attack on you but this is complete bullshyt, I don't know if this is some online shyt that is spreading or this is really occurring with very young folks nowadays but approaching women in appropriate places will at most end up with a "no thank you", "I have a boyfriend" and then you keep it moving. The biggest complaints I hear from women who I date or who are friends is that men are no longer approaching and the women who are very attractive are being completely ignored because men are scared or intimated to step to them. The only factor I can say for men who getting zero play is that there must be some strong negative factors in play here, either alot of insecurities, very poor fashion sense, or they are not physically attractive at all in any kind of way.

Or they dont have a social circle