But that question doesn’t even reveal the woman’s motives either.
Granted, the car question is weird b/c you can see what a man drives when he picks you up for a date. However, if I saw a man in a Mercedes truck, but he still lives in an unfurnished apartment, I would think that his priorities are out of wack for my taste.
If a guy rents, I would ask him if he plans on owning. His answer would tell me if he’s interested in building assets to offer his children or if he doesn’t think about the future as much as I do.
Now the funny thing is, I can ask these questions & totally be a part of the FIRE movement, for example, which would mean that I’m actually a frugal woman. But YOU wouldn’t even consider that b/c any questions regarding stability are automatically linked to being a “gold digger” rather than a woman searching for someone with similar values in regards to money, savings & investing. Given that finances are the #1 reason for divorce, why shouldn’t it be up for discussion?