Dating women over 30 is basically a job interview
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You will find that alot of them still wear the thot uniforms or bear battle scars in some form or fashion giving you clues@skeetsinternal , I was knocking down a 30+ sorority girl who had a stamp, evidence of the belly pierced, etc.
She thought she was a prize.
I wouldn't. I think its rude and presumptuous the very first time you meet a person to be asking them questions about their professional life and financial standing.
Granted I'm under 30 and my professional life and financial situation aren't anything to shout about; my only asset is a car that I paid cash money for and I've got some savings in the bank and that's it. But even if those aspects of my life were hitting hard and I was really successful, I would still be upset if that's the first thing somebody asked about me.
We are all humans with soul and wit (well, more or less for the second part), and we deserve to be treated like what we are. I don't mind being asked those type of questions but not right off the bat, you've got to acknowledge somebody as a human being first and foremost. Ask about what makes them happy, what gives them satisfaction, what they're passionate about. shyt even ask about current affairs, politics and economics, art and music, literature and philosophy. There's plenty of subjects to go through where you can acknowledge the other person's humanity and show that you value their thoughts, their feelings, their soul and wit. And then go in for the million dollar questions about profession, property, and money.
All of that can get done on the first date as long as you've got an hour to have a conversation. You can't spend an hour getting to know each other as one human to another before asking the million dollar questions?
How many dudes do you think in today’s fukk on the 1st date or ghost her culture, would abide by these “humanizing” principles?This is a great ideal but unrealistic in dating game where a$$holes abound. A lot of women don’t play 21 questions but they are also the ones making dudes wait for sex as they get to know the dudes. You can take all the time in the world getting to know a guy and build a nice slow burn relationship but nothing but fun and friendship is on the line. But most guys don’t like that either.
They feel THEIR time is being wasted or they being friendzoned.What a lot of dudes really want is for women to drop drawers in the first couple of outings without women having any expectations of the males.
If men were a-okay with long extended courtship without even a sniff of vagina, I would totally support chicks piping down on the interrogation. But so many men want to mess over women as quickly as possible so it is what it is.
I personally don’t do the interview shyt b/c it just seems unnatural, but with the games so many dudes play, I don’t blame any chick for doing it.
Piff Perkins
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Pandering on this fukking site is killing me.
Pandering? Am I a simp too lol? I don't even keep up with the Coli politics. I don't know who the popular woman posters are. I'm just calling it like I see it. This forum is full of (allegedly) black men who constantly express weirdo views on women. It's like they know they lost the game of life so they've doubled down on creating arbitrary standards for women in order to make themselves feel superior. 30 and single? Something must be wrong with her. Smashed multiple men? Must be a deviant. Listen to thot rap? Can't be a mother. Meanwhile these dudes are working minimum wage jobs and spending their free time playing PS4 all night. And you wonder why women aren't chasing you?
Turn that hyper critical, super negative mirror on yourself and tell me what you see. I see a lot of struggling late 20s or 30+ yo men who are bitter and have decided to blame women+society for their struggles. It's corny, dog. You wouldn't date yourself so why would a woman.
richaveli83
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So date men, problem solved.
perfectblack999
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Pandering? Am I a simp too lol? I don't even keep up with the Coli politics. I don't know who the popular woman posters are. I'm just calling it like I see it. This forum is full of (allegedly) black men who constantly express weirdo views on women. It's like they know they lost the game of life so they've doubled down on creating arbitrary standards for women in order to make themselves feel superior. 30 and single? Something must be wrong with her. Smashed multiple men? Must be a deviant. Listen to thot rap? Can't be a mother. Meanwhile these dudes are working minimum wage jobs and spending their free time playing PS4 all night. And you wonder why women aren't chasing you?
Turn that hyper critical, super negative mirror on yourself and tell me what you see. I see a lot of struggling late 20s or 30+ yo men who are bitter and have decided to blame women+society for their struggles. It's corny, dog. You wouldn't date yourself so why would a woman.
I come to TLR for the fukkery, but there's been a steady increase of pathetic incel sh*t over the last few years.
So what’s the solution?Pandering? Am I a simp too lol? I don't even keep up with the Coli politics. I don't know who the popular woman posters are. I'm just calling it like I see it. This forum is full of (allegedly) black men who constantly express weirdo views on women. It's like they know they lost the game of life so they've doubled down on creating arbitrary standards for women in order to make themselves feel superior. 30 and single? Something must be wrong with her. Smashed multiple men? Must be a deviant. Listen to thot rap? Can't be a mother. Meanwhile these dudes are working minimum wage jobs and spending their free time playing PS4 all night. And you wonder why women aren't chasing you?
Turn that hyper critical, super negative mirror on yourself and tell me what you see. I see a lot of struggling late 20s or 30+ yo men who are bitter and have decided to blame women+society for their struggles. It's corny, dog. You wouldn't date yourself so why would a woman.
To the level headed brehs such as @Youseenmywork you might as well give up on discourse with most American women, let the good ones seek you out, don't engage the damage/defective. If I learned anything from the J. Cole/Noname situation, it's that you can't correct a woman's tone without being attacked. Long story short if a bytch don't know how to act right as an adult it's not your job to teach her, ignore her and on to the next. All the women in this thread didn't speak to tact (or lack of), or knowing how to present themselves aka COMMUNICATE properly which tells you everything you need to know about how they are in relationships. You can lay standards for a woman but if she doesn't meet them no need to dwell or punish, just leave it best for the both of you.
I don't ask these questions explicitly in a row, but they tend to flow with the convo. If I want to know what a guy does in terms of work, ask about future aspirations, hobbies, and things that interest them. They normally mention a job, education, and etc. I don't ask about renting or owning, nor where do you live. Those normally come up after a few dates.
It's not. Only lames think so.Those are valid questions a women who's 30 should ask.
I guess I need to stop kidding around and find me a long term chick, y'all make turning 30 sound like a death sentence.
johntheblackjew
Banned
well, desperate times call for desperate measure.
Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
People who complain about womens requirements generally haven't fleshed out their own. It's a problem men generally have.
We put so much energy into the pursuit of female attention(hows my fashion? Hows my cologne? Hows my hairline? Am I muscular enough? Do I look tall enough? Does my voice have the right amount of bass? Am I being too tight with my wallet? Am I saying the right things?) All that shyt just to get your foot in the door that by the time we get chosen it's a matter of maintaining loyalty from that woman.
The fear that she's going to cheat or leave then leads to another series of questions (am I giving her enough attention? Am I giving her too much attention and coming off as a simp? Am I being too hard on her? Am I being too jealous? Am I saying the right thing around her friends?) That you'll have to grapple with every day.
Men are so preoccupied with those thoughts they never take a moment to really ask "I'm doing all of this, thinking about all of this, and for what? What makes this woman so special? What is she bringing into my life that improves it enough that it's worth me having to think about these things all the time?"
Because we spend so much time avoiding rejection, we dont take the time to think about if a woman is good enough and meets our individual standards. Women learn VERY quickly that men will always be there. There will always be an abundance of men, and an abundance of simps whose sole goal is to make a woman happy because they're convinced that her being happy means that HE will be happy. Women know that it's easy to get men so they can take time to actually think about what they want and what they dont want, because they have (especially in their 30s) already rejected many men and know that they can choose or turn down. Men dont recognize that power within themselves because they're often the pursuer rather than the pursued.
A nikka who has six figures, a cheap mortgage on a nice home, a car, a good job, mental and physical health, a good circle of friends and family, good job benefits including lots of time off. Has zero reason to jump through hoops for a woman who isnt coming with similar energy and accomplishments. Most women feel entitled to the above man, but often they themselves arent even living that lifestyle.
We put so much energy into the pursuit of female attention(hows my fashion? Hows my cologne? Hows my hairline? Am I muscular enough? Do I look tall enough? Does my voice have the right amount of bass? Am I being too tight with my wallet? Am I saying the right things?) All that shyt just to get your foot in the door that by the time we get chosen it's a matter of maintaining loyalty from that woman.
The fear that she's going to cheat or leave then leads to another series of questions (am I giving her enough attention? Am I giving her too much attention and coming off as a simp? Am I being too hard on her? Am I being too jealous? Am I saying the right thing around her friends?) That you'll have to grapple with every day.
Men are so preoccupied with those thoughts they never take a moment to really ask "I'm doing all of this, thinking about all of this, and for what? What makes this woman so special? What is she bringing into my life that improves it enough that it's worth me having to think about these things all the time?"
Because we spend so much time avoiding rejection, we dont take the time to think about if a woman is good enough and meets our individual standards. Women learn VERY quickly that men will always be there. There will always be an abundance of men, and an abundance of simps whose sole goal is to make a woman happy because they're convinced that her being happy means that HE will be happy. Women know that it's easy to get men so they can take time to actually think about what they want and what they dont want, because they have (especially in their 30s) already rejected many men and know that they can choose or turn down. Men dont recognize that power within themselves because they're often the pursuer rather than the pursued.
A nikka who has six figures, a cheap mortgage on a nice home, a car, a good job, mental and physical health, a good circle of friends and family, good job benefits including lots of time off. Has zero reason to jump through hoops for a woman who isnt coming with similar energy and accomplishments. Most women feel entitled to the above man, but often they themselves arent even living that lifestyle.
Yeah it definitely can come up naturally. Guys usually asked me what I did for a living before I ever asked them but that’s the DMV for you. They want to know what you do and what school you went to. I always roll my eyes because those convos are sooo pretentious. It’s so shallow. If you’re looking to date someone that is nice to know but it should never be the main focus. A person doesn’t become faithful and dependable in a relationship just because they went to a good school and make decent money, lol.
I knew that in my 20’s and I still know that in my 30’s.
I’ve always been a pretty nosey person so I ask all types of questions because I genuinely want to know what kind of person someone is. I remember I went on the date with this guy and by the end of the night I knew he had two children and one was a baby and he had cheated on the mother. That was the end of that interaction. He was quick to tell me what kind of job he had but the rest he was hesitant about.
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Youseenmywork
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Pandering? Am I a simp too lol? I don't even keep up with the Coli politics. I don't know who the popular woman posters are. I'm just calling it like I see it. This forum is full of (allegedly) black men who constantly express weirdo views on women. It's like they know they lost the game of life so they've doubled down on creating arbitrary standards for women in order to make themselves feel superior. 30 and single? Something must be wrong with her. Smashed multiple men? Must be a deviant. Listen to thot rap? Can't be a mother. Meanwhile these dudes are working minimum wage jobs and spending their free time playing PS4 all night. And you wonder why women aren't chasing you?
Turn that hyper critical, super negative mirror on yourself and tell me what you see. I see a lot of struggling late 20s or 30+ yo men who are bitter and have decided to blame women+society for their struggles. It's corny, dog. You wouldn't date yourself so why would a woman.
nikka like you are the worst so it pretty much fukk the man's story and it all his fault . GOTCHA YOU . Look in this dam thread I haven't said ANYTHING about the dumb shyt you talking about . What I did say in this thread is no women will talk to me with out any TACT or you will get the same energy back and I want nothing to do with a women like that . It's not any man fault for a women who DECIDED to start a family late as hell . Stop with pandering and just taking women's side ...just cause . Anybody that has taking a communication course in college or beyond know you dont come at somebody like this . It's classless and shows a lack of tact. Women are ALWAYS taking about getting treat like they are HUMAN anybody with some damn sense knows that those questions dehumanize a man and usually means the women just looks at the situation like a transaction.