Dad cuts childs hair without mother’s permission. Is he in the right

[MajesticLion]

He’s in the wrong. The child did NOT want his haircut, and that’s whose opinion matters.

And we're off to the races

 

[General Mills]

Oh, this should be grand

Exactly. I am getting my popcorn ready

 

[Rockstar Mom]

?????

Did you grow up with a father in the house? Are your kids growing up with a father in the house?

I remember one time I said on here that I wouldve been controlling the household if my father wasn't around cause women are goofy and easy to run over.

Without men - there is no order, structure, or discipline in the house.

Yes and yes.

Also, it’s scary that your need to control your household is so bad, that you would forcibly cut your childs hair off. Black people raising their kids in a damn gulag.

 

[Henri Christophe]

I'll cut my son's hair however I damn well please. She better sit her birdbrained fool @$$ down somewhere.

thank you

I thought this was normal.

I guess everybody didnt grow up under the leadership of real black men that control their castle.

 

[Max Power]

?????

Did you grow up with a father in the house? Are your kids growing up with a father in the house?

I remember one time I said on here that I wouldve been controlling the household if my father wasn't around cause women are goofy and easy to run over.

Without men - there is no order, structure, or discipline in the house.

The person you're replying to is a single mother

It's doesn't get more Exhibit A than this

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

She should have no more say in a boy's hair than his father
He's not a girl for her to be doing his hair
After a certain age, cut it off. Long hair looking like a bytch

We seeing nas and hov rockin dreads and braids, at certain point it aint about age its about status

 

[Hathaway]

Father has say so over the boys hair. If it were a little girl, then that responsibility goes to the mother.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

thank you

I thought this was normal.

I guess everybody didnt grow up under the leadership of real black men that control their castle.

My mom didn't even SPEAK to my dad about my hair growing up. My dad was the only barber I had until I reached my teens. (He actually taught himself how to cut hair using his sons as practice )

And I didn't have any say over the hairstyle I wanted until I got into my teens, but even with that being said, if I told him I wanted some long hair braids or dreads, I'm certain he would have took matters into his own hands even then.

 

[RehReh]

My children father can do what he likes with our boys hair.
Our daughter though, thats my arena.
Il compromise somethings with my daughter, shes 7 and he didnt want her ears pierced till shes 10, I humbled myself to that and saw things from his pov.

How about having adult convos as parents.

 

[Henri Christophe]

it’s scary that your need to control your household

If a black man is providing for his household and his entire family tree - then yes, he's gonna be in control.

And there are plenty of women lined up to jump in his passenger seat and let him be in control.

Most women are not even qualified for a man of that status anyway.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

People taking about what the kid wanted

If kids could eat candy for breakfast, lunch and dinner the would, who gives a fukk what they think? It's important to get boys used to haircuts and the barbershop early. I saw some weekend dad in the shop the other day and his kid was legit crying and screaming because he'd never been the chair before. shyt was embarrassing.

Some of the responses here are crazy... But I'm from a home and culture where my father's word was law all this "check in with mom " and "but the kid wanted..." is LUNACY to me, genuinely.

Unless the kid had his hair dyed neon pink, eating candy for breakfast and having a hairstyle (within reason) are two vastly different concepts. His braids have zero impact on his health. If we use your example of emphasizing the importance of acclimating boys to the barbershop, and getting into a routine of getting haircuts, then the father could have simply taken his son in for a cleanup. Then he could have followed that up with a rational conversation with the son and mother that despite him not liking dreads, braids that as long as they stay clean and maintain then it shouldn't be a problem. If they can't keep that up, then we they come off.

A fathers word can be law, but laws have to make sense.

 

[Diondon]

We seeing nas and hov rockin dreads and braids, at certain point it aint about age its about status

Yeah when you're old enough you can decide how you want your hair
As a kid? Nah

 

[Deafheaven]

I know its a shocker to some of you goofballs but its no longer a barrier to corporate america to have locs, braids, a fro etc.

I worked at a top 5 bank and had a huge afro, my best friend does as well and has locs to his waist…

All this is gonna teach is for that kid to be more guarded with his pops

 

[Henri Christophe]

....

 

[Henri Christophe]

The person you're replying to is a single mother

Makes sense.

Her son gonna be 12 years old staying out until 2am smoking weed

hahahahahaah