its nothing wrong with you thinking in an old school manner. but its not REALISTIC. this aint the stone age, where the men go out to hunt and the ladies stay at the house holding the kids down. what you also dont know about your history as men and women. is that even women of the bible WORKED and made that doe. yes you won the bread aka went out to get the meat. that dont mean you actually made the most CHANGE. you say i dont know what i'm talking about.
I believe in traditional roles. I believe that as the man of the house, I should be the bread winner and if I'm not(which in my case for at least 2-3 years I might not be) the pay shouldn't be that significant, which it won't, especially since she has the luxury of working part-time while attending law school.
There should be no 60/30
At worst 60/45
110/90
135/100
and so on.
The problem with you guys is that you believe in traditional roles only when it's convenient and the same goes for women. Also if your job and career is that goddamn volatile you need to have emergency funds on deck. Again all relationships aren't created equal.
many women had side businesses while their husbands were out there finding the food. they were selling things(oils, jewelry, etc) while still holding the kids down.
so if you do the math imagine day care for a few kids nowadays. so subtract that, and lets say your wife is like one of those mall Booths selling sun glasses, or something people actually want and use) but on the daily. you add that up and yeah bruh she making as much as you the dude are or more. but no one talks about that.
the ladies were also farming. aka bringing home a portion meal (the veggies).
this idea of i get paid while she sits on her butt and holds the kids down and nothing more(thats a lot dont get me wrong) but thats not even old school either. ) its a warped view. its a man's view of us trying to put women in a spot to be completely dependent on us but not us on them. marriage is about dependence on one another. not one to the other and thats it.
sure if you can make that bread by all means , get ya money.
but if by chance you cant. dont cry about it and act like you're not a man because your wifey is bringing home more money then you. for all we know she isnt even working as hard as you are. she could've gotten lucky. and you didnt. thats real life.
as long as you and your wife understand whatever yall make in total is YALLS money together. then its cool. if not. there's a problem.
turn on that girly show celebrity exes. all those chicks made a ton less then their husbands. and i bet their husbands felt like "THE MAN" of the house while they were together. YET, they are not together. so that "THE MAN" stuff isnt what keeps a home happy. its selflessness. not one of the parties trying to put the other in a position of dependence while the other party isnt dependent at all. thats a recipe for disaster as well.
and again, answer my question. what are you going to do if by some chance of life. you end up disabled. where you cant work. so you're getting a disability check while she's making tons of cash. will you wallow in your sorrow forever and stay depressed thinking you're not the man of the house? will your wife clown you for not bringing home the bacon and therefore stripping you of your title of "man of the house" ? you better be in a mindstate where no matter what curve ball life throws at yall. yall can handle it because both of you were always dependent on one another and not one or the other.
How yuh juss ago diss di man wife like dat?
