I don't think you understand. THIS IS DC. If you dress nice, have a nice car and crib. Ain't many of these "successful, strong" Black women you can't have. You just have to have patience to play along and let their BS roll off your shoulders. I've been here 8 years, I've done this dance dozens of times and it never feels.
1st date: Take her to get coffee and walk around the musuems for free
2nd date: Dave n Busters on the 2nd
3rd date: Movie, bar, crib. Smash
If not, fall back and let her miss you and realize she's lonely as sh:t. And she'll deliver the goods on the 4th or 5th.
Do you have a pic?