Me:
And how has dating been for you in the dc area?
Her:
I spend my weekends doing lots of random stuff or shooting weddings.
Dating in DC. Year one I always went out, met lots of guys, went one a few first dates but nothing more bc everyone was superficial and boring or just plain inappropriate. I ended up dating one younger guy until he deployed to Afghanistan. We are still friends but he's now engaged. I'm supposed to do his engagement photos actually lol. Amicable parting as all my former relationships tend to be. Year two I was in a relationship.... with a guy who had liked me before i even moved here. Well known guy from VA. It was interesting. And without divulging too much info it was enough to make me not want to date for a year. So the year just recently became up and I decided to ease back into it. It goes. I dont go out places where I meet too many men these days bc I'm not into that scene right now but I do tend to make connections just because I'm nice and talk to people. Folks always try to introduce me to people too. I figure when I meet him I'll know. I havent been too impressed lately bc everyone is "my car" this, "my salary" that blah blah. So boring. Lol
I think your perspective on dating here is different from mine because you are a guy. The ladies are very interesting and accomplished. The men are very boring and accomplished. LOL!
Me:
Yes, dating here is different. You have to be prepared and open to meeting some very interesting people. So you can't tell me who you were dating? What he's like a local celebrity or a rapper or something? I don't know many famous people frm Virginia.
Her:
I didn't say I couldn't tell you. And no he wasn't famous. Perhaps I should say he knew many people? Anywho, who he is is of no circumstance and I tend to not talk about my previous relationships because you take the things you learn and keep it moving.
Me:
Lol Oh ok. You really believe women are that much more interesting then men? I can't generalize or say what's the problem is. I don't have a lot of dating experience up here, I was in a long relationship as soon as I moved up here. I do hear a lot of complaining and finger-pointing coming from both side. I'm still shocked by how many single people are in this area, especially Black.
Her:
LOL!!! Honestly no I don't, but I was trying to explain the difference in our perspectives. Surprised by how many women there are in DC on match? It's a gold mine right? Yeah... on the flip side there's like no black men on match and a nice bit of white men who are like "ehhhh bump it I'll date a black girl" and so you see a lot of black women with white men in this area.
Why is it like that? I think there's a professional black man drought here (pure numbers) and a surplus of women who won't date a blue collar man for instance. My church has become a haven for women on the prowl in their best designer gear. It's funny. Personally, it will come for me. I'm not forcing it, I've never been a serial dater. I take breaks in between relationships because THAT'S when you really learn yourself. It's like taking the bar after you graduate from law school. LOL. The day I can find someone who wants to take pictures with me on a mountain after a three mile hike to see a waterfall and be content I think I will have success (something I want to do in April). Right now I can't find that in men I date. It is what it is, it doesn't make them bad, it doesn't make me a catch.
So I really should be at the gym and I'm just up e-mailing. I'm taking it easy for now. It's my birthday. :o)
Me:
Happy Birthday !!! That's funny about the women on the prowl at your church. My last job was like that, it was like happy hour @ The Park. Too funny! People get lonely up here. I feel like people aren't suppose to be alone. So what do the men you date want? Personally I'm open and flexible with people I date. I let them be themselves and see them for who they are.
Her:
LOL thanks. And I hate happy hour at park but I think it's because I was partying up here and at park since like 2009. I never had to wait in line because my girl knew all the promoters. Fun times but I'm tired of the scene here because it went from young and fresh to pretentious. I have also changed a lot. I used to be one of those designer girls, super long weave, teeny tiny dresses. And while I am working on getting my teeny tiny dress body back (I went from a size 16 to a size 6 in 2010) I am a much different person. As I should be. Everyone should evolve.
The men I come in contact with don't tend to take the reigns and think of things to do. I usually have to have all the ideas which I don't like because that's my role at work too. At a certain point I get tired of leading. I feel like as a lady sometimes I wouldn't mind being led if that makes sense. Anyway, I have a few male friends (who are just friends, usually frat) that I hang out with and we do random stuff like museum hop, go to wizards or nationals games, run around take pictures, go to the mountains and get cornered by bears (true story). That's what I like. I am a foodie too so I enjoy fine/creative dining. I really don't like going to the movies or watching movies with people I am trying to get to know. And if someone invites me to their home too soon I'll probably just stop speaking with them. Anywho, I allow people to be themselves but if it doesn't click with me I am not going to tell myself it does. And the clicking has to do with a short attention span. LOL
Coli, Bushes ?
Or ignore her nonsense and smash?
See seems like that type that never admit her wrong doing and flaws. Let these DC women tell it, they're perfect catches and men aint shyt. A lot of times you have to ignore everything these chicks say and all their foolishness goes away.
My nikka tease her playfully, make her laugh, be a little arrogant about how great you are. It's EASY breh! I'm not even sure you CAN smash with this display of game. I'm not even trynna play you breh.
