I think it's partially that but mostly it's just you try to go about your everyday life but anti-black racism, both coded and overt, are so embedded in culture that it catches you completely the fukk off guard sometimes. It can take your enjoyment level from "I'm enjoying this" to "fukk everybody in here".
There's a whole thread on it here somewhere in where I explain how I was watching The Mindy Project and this happened. I figured I enjoyed her shtick on The Office well enough and she's a brown girl with her own show, why not tune in.Few jokes down the road and now every time I see Mindy Kaling all I think about is that one joke in particular and how it makes me feel violent. On some you insulted my blackness to the core and now you must pay type shyt. Lowkey feel like chestpunting Seth Rogen as well for delivering the lines.
Well devils stay racist 24/7. They never sway and they are about 10 steps ahead of us. Just "living your life" has gotten many a black folk in trouble. I won't suggest doing that without trying to at least somewhat understand how they operation:
1. White people are racist. They will always be racist and they only partner with us if it benefits them.
2. WP don't want you to succeed and they will go out their way to make sure you don't succeed. They also have a cultural understanding that they look out for one another.
3. You can't assume other people of color are your friends. Most other races drink the WP kool-aid b/c they benefit for the system in which you as the Black person are at the bottom. You must also assume this with BP b/c we have no cultural unity and the c00n it common.
If you go about life with these assumptions you will never be surprised or offended by those people. I don't even interact with WP and if I do watch one of their shows I know there will be a racist joke somewhere in there. That is just what they do.