its hard for me to keep a positive dialogue about black feminist. they actively work against their own best interest, and usually envy the hell out of white women and all the benefits they receive from white patriarchy
I disagree with Marcuz on feminism but this comment was spot on.
Black women dislike black men because they feel that we've failed to provide them with the luxuries that white patriarchy has afforded white women. They dislike the fact that black women have always had to work, while white women historically didn't have to. They believe that non-black women are treated like princesses, and they want the same treatment.
Nevertheless, I agree with some of the tenants of feminism. The current construction of black masculinity is unhealthy, particularly in poor and working-class areas. This pervasive "hypermasculinity" is literally killing us. How can you not question what it means to be masculine when thousands of our boys murder each other over petty disputes? Not over money, but over petty arguments and slights. Let that sink in.
All men have an inborn lust for domination, which is manifested in slightly different ways across cultures and socio-economic strata. But in all cases, dominator culture has drawbacks. Look at the ease with which white and Asian men commit suicide, for example. That has a lot to do with the way they view masculinity. Failure to attain a certain status in life is worthy of death. Is that a notion of masculinity that black people should emulate? I don't think so.
We can't reach our full potential as a race without gender equality. I mentioned this in another thread when some fool said that patriarchy is a staple of prosperous societies, as if it's not a staple of unprosperous societies. If you care about black people (or humanity as a whole) reaching our full potential (or at least coming as close to it as we possibly can) then you have to care about gender equality. I don't expect women to fight wars and such, but granting them positions of leadership in academia, business and politics is a worthwhile goal.