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My full quote was "many Black men abandon their families or are not (living) in the same household "
Black dads outperform other fathers groups so where does the absentee father myth come from?
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this black fathers not being in their kids lives is up there with fried chicken, and black people not being able to swim stereotypes that are outdated and only believed by cacs who haven't realized the world is moving past them and times have changed
nikkaz talking about fathers not being there for their friends when they were growing up like thats relevant in 2019
you cacs and c00ns are exposing yourselves
nikkaz talking about fathers not being there for their friends when they were growing up like thats relevant in 2019
you cacs and c00ns are exposing yourselves
OP this was a stereotype even when black marriage was at a all time high. It has been a stereotype for a very long time.
Same as the stereotype that black mothers are not good mothers. Even though there was a time when they raised their kids and white folks kids.
Second I would bet money that black men even have a better relationship with their step kids than non black fathers.
Finally we have to seperate born out of wedlock from not having a father in your life. Those two things do not equal the same.
You can be born out of wedlock and your father lives in your house with you. You can be born out of wedlock and your father is in your life and raising you.
Thats why I don't like when people count that born out of wedlock stat for absent father. Cause it is not an accurate stat for if a father is in a childs life.
Same as the stereotype that black mothers are not good mothers. Even though there was a time when they raised their kids and white folks kids.
Second I would bet money that black men even have a better relationship with their step kids than non black fathers.
Finally we have to seperate born out of wedlock from not having a father in your life. Those two things do not equal the same.
You can be born out of wedlock and your father lives in your house with you. You can be born out of wedlock and your father is in your life and raising you.
Thats why I don't like when people count that born out of wedlock stat for absent father. Cause it is not an accurate stat for if a father is in a childs life.
I said exactly that on the first page of this thread.
Maybe you should read the thread instead of calling nikkas c00ns and cacs, dumb ass nikka.
Alright, but those are actually two separate things. Not living in the same household does not mean abandoned.
Also not living in the same household as a child is pretty standard stuff in the USA for people of all colors, because the divorce rate in this country is ridiculous.
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This is true. I grew up in an upscale neighborhood in chicago. It was rare for the black kids in my neighborhood to not have a dad or a step dad in the household.
But my wife grew up in the rural south and in her small town most kids whether middle class or poor grew up with a father or step father in their home.
Finally we have to always question where this absent parent data comes from. What I mean is due to black folks economics they are maybe more likely to play with the stats.
So what I mean by that is if the stats are pulled from income taxes or college financial aid data. It can be a financial benefit for a parent saying they are in a single house hold when they are actually in a two parent household.
Cause in point my wife works in not for profit that deals with providing child care for low income folks. Do you know what the biggest fraud is? You guessed it married women or women living with their kids father pretending they were single in order to get government assistance for child care.
nikkas on thecoli that shame other men for not having fathers.
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This is interesting because I grew up PG county too and alot of the dudes in my neighborhood didn't have their dads in the house. I'd say like half of my friends dads wasn't in the house. True story, I lived around the corner from Ginuwine's oldest son. We went to school together and everything. Now his dad wasn't in the house but he would come take him to shyt like All-Star weekend so that counts as being involved I guess. But some of the other dudes in my neighborhood had single moms and went to see their dads occasionally.
You might want to go back and take a look at older generations. Those dudes were with their kids more than you think. In fact a lot of grandkids and great grandkids grew up with their grandfathers and great grandfathers. This shyt of kids not being with their fathers is pretty recent shyt, as in the last 40-50 years. I noticed that it came in around the same time as Civil Rights in the late 60s and early 70s.
Also the stigma of having a child out of wedlock for a woman isn't there as in the past.
But you are right. Also that stat doesn't take into account black men who are divorcced that have children in a seperate household.
The stats are just fuzzy math. Like the whole more black men in jail than in college. When actually how they pull the stat is to only count black men in 4 year colleges between the ages 18 to 24. But count all black men in prison between the ages of 15 to 80 plus.
So somehow a black man at the age of 28 in college doesn't count toward the in college stat. But 80 plus year old Bill Cosby does count towards the in jail stat
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True. Often times the father or grandfather not being able to spend time with his kids or grandkids was due to working long hours or having to work out of town.