Black dads outperform other fathers groups so where does the absentee father myth come from?

[Samori Toure]

I Don't Know Where You nikkas Live But 80% Of My Friends Growing Up Had A Single Mother.

Some of whom do not know who their fathers are -we talking about at the height of the crack Era late 80s early 90s.

That is rare to me, because every Black person that I ever met knew who their father was. He might not have been worth a damn, but they knew who he was. The only time that I have ever heard of a person that did not know who their father was due to rape or the mothers being on some hoe shyt. Otherwise people knew their father or knew of his family.

 

[Suleiman Bey]

Abandon their families or is the issue really about mothers blocking the fathers from the children because the mothers and fathers are no longer together? Because I am of the opinion that custodial issues and parental interference is much more common than abandonment.

Stop making excuses. If he ain't in the house he abandoned his family. Nothing stopping that nikka from coming around everyday.

 

[mag357]

That is rare to me, because every Black person that I ever met knew who their father was. He might not have been worth a damn, but they knew who he was. The only time that I have ever heard of a person that did not know who their father was due to rape or the mothers being on some hoe shyt. Otherwise people knew their father or knew of his family.

Wow

 

[mag357]

Statistically? WTF? Them nikkas who took the survey were probably liars or the exceptions. Growing up I knew like 4 people with dads in the house and they were shiit heads.. Playing with the kids I agree. nikkas dads would play ball with us and shiit. Cuz well wasn't like they were at work or anything.

Sorry bro... but this shyt made me laugh

 

[desjardins]

I think it depends on where you are from
My wife is from PG county and said it was rare for someone not to have a father in the house
I'm from philly and it was the opposite.
Some one can not be in the house and be involved but i have no idea how you quantify that
Like who is being polled, the fathers? the mothers? both? A dude who sees his kid once a month might say he's involved if asked, iono
I'd be interested in knowing what % of men are in court for child support grouped by race

 

[Samori Toure]

Stop making excuses. If he ain't in the house he abandoned his family. Nothing stopping that nikka from coming around everyday.

You sound dumb ass shyt. Men and women get divorced every day and end up living in separate homes. Just because the father lives in a separate home away from the kids that does not mean that the kids has been abandoned you big dummy.

 

[tuckgod]

Stop making excuses. If he ain't in the house he abandoned his family. Nothing stopping that nikka from coming around everyday.

Facts.

I'm hard on black fathers that don't take care of their seeds and sometimes I feel kinda bad for my stance because I understand how life works and how you can get caught up in circumstances you're not really ready for.

But at the same time, if you're a black man, talking that black empowerment, black community upliftment, then you have to understand that you have a responsibility to your seeds first and foremost, regardless of the situation that led to them being created or how you feel about the woman you impregnated.

Once the deed is done, you gotta do whatever it takes to play your part as the father in that child's life.

That's your ultimate responsibility from the moment you find out you participated in creating that life.

Whatever plans/dreams you had is now on the fukkin back burner and you have to accept that.

God had other plans for you.

 

[Samori Toure]

Wow

It is wow if you did not know your father.

 

[Suleiman Bey]

You sound dumb ass shyt. Men and women get divorced every day and end up living in separate homes. Just because the father lives in a separate home away from the kids that does not mean that the kids has been abandoned you big dummy.

That's abandonment.............

 

[videogamestashbox.com]

I'm so tired of folks referencing that damn moynahan report...​

• The overwhelming majority(%75+/-) of "Negros" in his study exhibited non of the "social ills" detailed in the study
• He took the issues of ruffly(%25+/-) of "Negros" who where impoverished(which is what he was studying) then folks used his report of those impoverished to characterize all "Negro families"

Over the years of studying African(Continental & Diasporan) history the Moynahan report is one of the most pernicious/stubborn "academic tropes"(for lack of a better word) out there.
I swear everybody tries to find something to support their own particular argument against various sets of African Americans via that paper.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I have no kids and I’m in my 30s.

You’re not qualified to speak on the subject... neither is @Nerdy black guy... the bad part of the internet is making the unqualified believe that their opinions matter.... it’s all by design tho

 

[goatmane]

Go talk to some teachers, sho are actually around kids and find out

 

[Samori Toure]

That's abandonment.............

Yup you are dumb as shyt.

A father living in a separate home away from his children is not abandonment, otherwise every divorced father would have been considered to have abandoned their children even when the father is active in the lives of his children. So clearly that is false.

 

[richaveli83]

You sound dumb ass shyt. Men and women get divorced every day and end up living in separate homes. Just because the father lives in a separate home away from the kids that does not mean that the kids has been abandoned you big dummy.

That's abandonment.............

How is that abandonment if the father and mother divorce/breakup? You want the father to still live in the same house even though the relationship with mother is over?

 

[mag357]

It is wow if you did not know your father.

"Wow" as in, I have to keep reminding myself that the "black experience" isnt 1 type of experience...
What u wrote sounds nothing like anything I've seen or heard