Black dads outperform other fathers groups so where does the absentee father myth come from?

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@Nerdy black guy
Anytime I've ever seen a random group of African Americans(not sorted for income) asked if they grew up with their father it's been around (75%+/-) that have. I even asked in an earlier thread.
https://www.thecoli.com/posts/26441835/

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

Breh.........

It was a gift and a curse that my father wasn't around, because I really couldn't tell you I'd be the same type of dad that I am for my children if he was.

My sole motivation for trying to be the best father I could possibly be is because I know first hand what it's like to be a child, especially a black child, growing up in America without a dad, and I would NEVER put that on my kids.

I had a breh like that too. Never knew his dad and got his girl pregnant at like 19. He stepped up and raised his son, married the moms and now they got 2 kids and a pretty nice life. One of the best dads I know. Breaking generational curses.

 

[Xcoyote]

White fathers are the worst nowadays,got their failsons hooked up on crypto fash internet daddy grifters like Jordan Peterson telling them to clean their room and wash their penises,lmfao

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

@Nerdy black guy
Anytime I've ever seen a random group of African Americans(not sorted for income) asked if they grew up with their father it's been around (75%+/-) that have. I even asked in an earlier thread.
https://www.thecoli.com/posts/26441835/

Nikkas talking lack of good black fathers yet almost 70 percent of posters admitted to having good fathers.

 

[Samori Toure]

"Wow" as in, I have to keep reminding myself that the "black experience" isnt 1 type of experience...
What u wrote sounds nothing like anything I've seen or heard

I can not speak to the experiences you have had, but I was born in the country and I grew up in the hood in Chicago. I have literally never met a Black person that did not know their father or know of their father or know of his family. Meaning every Black person that I have ever met knew something about that nikka, whether it be his name or some other basic shyt about him like whether he had other kids or not, even if the father was never around.

The only Black people that I sort of knew of that did not know their father or know of their father or know of his family were usually from some kind of rape situation or from some kind of situation where the mothers were doing some hoe shyt and she didn't know the father herself. Otherwise every Black woman that I have ever met could tell a kid a little bit about their dad, even if the woman didn't like that nikka any more. The weirdest part is that many times a father's family members, something like a sister, mother or a daughter usually kept in contact with the father's child even if a jackass father didn't want to be bothered. I guess times must have really changed.

 

[tuckgod]

I had a breh like that too. Never knew his dad and got his girl pregnant at like 19. He stepped up and raised his son, married the moms and now they got 2 kids and a pretty nice life. One of the best dads I know. Breaking generational curses.

That's what it's all about, breh.

We can complain about the systemic and cultural shyt cacs did (and still do) to fukk up the black family structure all day, and we have a very valid reason for doing so.

But while we're bangin on the system, one thing we can control right now, that they can't take away from us, is our ability to be fathers for the generations coming up after us, and our ability to educate them on the tricks that was pulled on our ancestors so that shyt doesn't happen again.

 

[mag357]

I can not speak to the experiences you have had, but I was born in the country and I grew up in the hood in Chicago. I have literally never met a Black person that did not know their father or know of their father or know of his family. Meaning every Black person that I have ever met knew something about that nikka, whether it be his name or some other basic shyt about him like whether he had other kids or not, even if the father was never around.

The only Black people that I sort of knew of that did not know their father or know of their father or know of his family were usually from some kind of rape situation or from some kind of situation where the mothers were doing some hoe shyt and she didn't know the father herself. Otherwise every Black woman that I have ever met could tell a kid a little bit about their dad, even if the woman didn't like that nikka any more. The weirdest part is that many times a father's family members, something like a sister, mother or a daughter usually kept in contact with the father's child even if a jackass father didn't want to be bothered. I guess times must have really changed.

I guess my question to u is even tho u have ur experience and what u know....
Do u think ur experience is typical..?
Cause I'm sure u watch tv... watch movies. Listen to rap... know some other nikkaz in the hood...
Cause if u just run down this thread, u can see what ur saying is very different from what others experienced?
And I grew up in the late 80's and 90's

 

[Ya?]

Nikkas talking lack of good black fathers yet almost 70 percent of posters admitted to having good fathers.

Did you read the same thread I did.
Actually this thread support that many men have experienced the father absenteeism or weekend fatherhood.

 

[Ya?]

White fathers are the worst nowadays,got their failsons hooked up on crypto fash internet daddy grifters like Jordan Peterson telling them to clean their room and wash their penises,lmfao

I don’t even why a comparison needs be made.

 

[videogamestashbox.com]

Nikkas talking lack of good black fathers yet almost 70 percent of posters admitted to having good fathers.

And your results are nearly mirroring mine with the exception likly being your asking a "qualitative" question where as I asked a "quantitative" question.
I.E. I asked how many? You asked how good?...

I think the thing is that the "abandonment narrative" validates other peoples experiences so much they think there situation growing up is more prevalent than it actually was.
SIDENOTE:
And when you say that, people think your saying that there situation didn't occur ...while what is actually being said is that while your absent father situation did occur, it didn't occur like that for most people.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Did you read the same thread I did.
Actually this thread support that many men have experienced the father absenteeism or weekend fatherhood.

Did you see the poll numbers and statistics that back my claim?

Please ignore this thread. You’re a known wench on the site already.

 

[Samori Toure]

I guess my question to u is even tho u have ur experience and what u know....
Do u think ur experience is typical..?
Cause I'm sure u watch tv... watch movies. Listen to rap... know some other nikkaz in the hood...
Cause if u just run down this thread, u can see what ur saying is very different from what others experienced?
And I grew up in the late 80's and 90's

I think that my experiences are very typical, because every hood nikka that I ever knew could tell you who his dad was, even if him and his father never spent one moment together. Even Tupac knew who his dad was. Check out the lyrics in "Dear Mama", which was probably how most guys in the hood I grew up around was:

No love from my daddy, ‘cause the coward wasn't there
He passed away and I didn't cry, ‘cause my anger
Wouldn't let me feel for a stranger
They say I'm wrong and I'm heartless, but all along
I was lookin' for a father, he was gone

 

[Master Teacher]

Never met a white or Jewish kid in Cali that didn't have their father in their life

On my block out of all my friends I was the only 1 with a father in his life

Explain

nikka thats you, all my friends had both parents

 

[ultraflexed]

This only accounts for the fathers that ARE PRESENT........common sense

 

[Master Teacher]

My father was in jail when I was a child. I didnt know that nikka until I was already a man with a son of my own.

This stat is taking today not back then you dumb ass nikka
are you in your son's life right now

you a cac or a posing c00n

Black fathers not being present is not a problem in today's time, the kids who didn't have fathers have kids of their own and they understand the importance of being there so the stat makes sense