I have one grandmother with 6 by 3 so I get the commonality. It's stigmatized because of the effect it's had on our interpretation of the family unit and community. 3 kids having their own father each is a no go. In a more realistic dating scenario brehs are gonna stick around long enough to smash but that's about it.You right about these nikkas not liking older women...
I'm 35, I don't want em too young anymore. 27 is probably the absolute lowest I can go and that's pushing it. Any woman in her 30s is a go, age-wise, I'm willing to go over 40. Probably 42 max...
Tattoos aren't really my thing but I'm not bothered by them if they are tasteful. Only the cowboy hat chick seemed really OD with tats, but she's attractive so I'd have tried it out...
These older single women the way to go, you getting them guts for sure. The tall chick with the celibacy demand didn't bother me, she busting it open when you got her open. I just took it as she's trying to do something different in her life after these past failed relationships. The two dads not being involved does reflect poorly on her, so I'm probably not there a long time but I'd definitely spin her...
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To me whether your child's father is involved or not, is more telling, than having multiple baby daddy's. 3 baby daddy's for 3 kids is wild but the first died, so she has some leniency there, she really just has two. For all we know she never has another if he doesn't pass. The fathers not being involved says something but just having multiple baby daddy's isn't crazy...
The generations before this was like this too, it's not uncommon so I don't know why it's stigmatized the way it is. Should it be desirable, no and I don't think most people want multiple BD's/BM's. But it's not uncommon so it shouldn't be stigmatized...
My stepdad's mom just turned 87 on July 3, still alive. 7 of her 8 kids are still alive, but of those 8, she had 4 baby daddy's. She was born in 1937
My mom's mom will be 75 in October, of her 4 kids (3 living) she had two BD's. My bio dad's mom will be 71 in October, both her sons (my dad and uncle) have different fathers...
I just, maybe this is part of how I grew up I don't know. People having kids from multiple men or women, wasn't some thing that was taboo or shytted on, it happens. Someone like my mom, well that shyt was excessive, especially given she didn't raise us, she was talked about. My (step)grandma, that shyt is kinda excessive and she was probably talked about too...
But having kids from more than one person, life happens. I'm cool if that's a deal breaker for someone. I just think it's overstated. For myself I didn't plan on having kids with more than one woman. The shyt just happens. So for me, that's not an auto disqualifier----->but hearing the kids father(s) isn't involved, now THAT shyt? If you're really attractive I'll hear you out but that's as close to an instant pop as you can get...
If the last 2 had the same father that's a bit more passable. And then of course, they're not involved (according to her, we know women like their side of the story).
I'm also speaking as a childless man. When I'm much closer to the 40 there will likely be some concession made (2 max and at a certain age) but a couple weeks short of 31 I'm not yet mature enough to take on extra responsibility with stunted status/authority...let alone 3 of em lol
