You guys are allowing these shows to affect your emotional states too easily. They are entertainment shows. Nothing on them that happens is important outside of the entertainment you receive from watching them.
Judging the mentality of women or men based on these shows is assinine. Heck, even judging the reactions on the show is a waste of time, because for many people circumstances have an effect on how they react. What they accept or reject on a show, is probably not what they reject or accept off the show. When the cameras are on, the masks come up, and people want to project a certain image that may not be who they truly are.
So making judgements of what people desire in a relationship based on a dating show, is you judging a circumstance with highly masqueraded information. What you see happening is more likely not what is actually true about the people on that show. What attributes they state they are seeking, is highly likely not the attributes they sought when the cameras were off.