But it is. That's always what comes out. "All we like are thugs" "That's why all of em single mommas" "women in other races like nerdy guys"
"Dey superficial"
Too many issues to have an honest conversation without people getting moist.
Meanwhile, I still maintain that nerdiness as defined by intelligence and a moderate interest in a particular hobby, isn't the damning factor in why many of these gentlemen aren't getting play. That's the convenient excuse they hide behind because they don't want to address deeper personality issues.
Namely the following problems are more likely factors and this is for male AND females with similar complaints.
1.)
Entitlement-This idea that relationships are easy and are the right of everyone. Meanwhile even the rich and sexy have trouble making connections with others.
2.)
Unrealistic expectations in the opposite sex from lack of interaction- just weird strange ideas about the motivations of the opposite sex. An inability to understand them within the context of flawed humanity.
3.)
Minor appearance issues- I say minor because in a lot of these cases these guys aren't that physically unattractive. It's not looks that's holding a lot of them back.
4.)
lack of communication skills- How often do u speak to the opposite sex outside of a forum? Who u communicate with the most is who ur develop comfort with.
5.)
frustration-This seeps into interactions with the opposite sex and it drives people away because it's not their job to cure u of bitterness
6.)
social awkwardness-There is something about u that just makes people uncomfortable. You may have a general disposition that puts people at ill ease. Or u may speak over others. Stand too close. Push for relations too soon. Overcompensating with rudeness to exude a sense of being a badass but it just looks weird and pretentious...
7.)
exaggerated preferences in the opposite sex-nuff said
8.)
defeatist attitude-when people show you examples of other intelligent couples you excuse away their romantic success. "Oh he probably had money!"
9.)
racial self-hate-nuff said
10.)
lack of effort-A lot of people who complain don't have a lot of actual experience under their belt. They are anticipating rejection based off other's experiences or online anecdotes and arguing from this stance. Meanwhile if u ask them about the last time they actually had interaction with someone offline, they can't tell u.
11.)
Lack of social circle- Many of these types don't have many friends period, but somehow women are to blame for their social failures with the opposite sex?
My problem with these discussions is it's automatically assumed that some nebulous concept of nerdiness is the female repellant that is keeping them from success with women. Like sure, it couldn't POSSIBLY those socially crippling factors at play. Nope...gotta be that people hate nerds.
Not to mention many hiding behind nerdy hobbies are slowly losing their pity party haven. Now a days who hasn't seen Dragonball Z. Plenty of people are into video games. People have a wide array of hobbies.
Everybody is branching out. So now that a lot of people are into a lot of things, what will socially inept people use as an excuse now?
I say these things not to be mean-spirited but to encourage self-reflection. Get out, meet people, avoid a$$holes, and cultivate a genuine enjoyment of life while building urself up. Wallowing in excuses won't help in the long run.
. If the woman overlook my real qualities for the superficial, she deserves karma.
at him bringing up Marques tha gawd in this. Marques is a good looking guy, he has a well proportioned face and i'm quite sure women aren't rejecting him because he is a "nerd".
