Are There Grown Men That Really Think Like This?

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Nah
It mostly has to do with friends and having a social circle
And I think your look scores are skewed too high

I think your 8 is really a 5 or 6

To be honest I don't put a lot of stock into assigning numbers to people because you can quantify a person solely on looks. A person's movements, personality, just general appeal affects their attractiveness to such a degree that people end up missing out on great individuals just prejudging on looks. Their loss.
But that's also a lesson that can be learned the hard way. If u dismiss everyone immediately and don't even attempt to take them in, I feel like u deserve to be single forever because u won't give people a chance.

 

[AAKing23]

Now all ya'll nikkas are nerds now?

 

[SheWantTheD]

10 years ago a nerd was a guy into anime, computers, technology, etc.
He probably dressed in a shytty semi-professional way, and wanted to be "an astronaut" when he grew up.
G4TV showcased this beautifully in it's prime (from 2002-10).

Yeah and women weren't checking for those dudes like that mayne.

 

[philmonroe]

@ Bold: "Expand your preferences", I can't fathom this meaning anything else. And if I'm wrong, you still haven't explained what that's supposed to mean in a literal sense either.

Perspective wise you are empathetic but you're still looking at this from a woman's POV and thus your advice is honestly more suited toward a woman. Women are the only ones who can be deemed unnattractive by popular standard and stilll file through dozens of suitors to be able to "overlook" some. And it's only in a woman's POV where it's safe to assume the suitors these individuals are "overlooking" would be open to short or long term relationships with the person who's doing the overlooking. If these dudes were in the position to overlook black women then they'd already be eating with black women, period. it's really that simple.

It's like there's this wall cognitive dissonance people aren't willing to acknowledge. On one hand people just wanna say he's too lame dumb corny bitter for average bw and that's why nobody should listen but at the same time act like they're lying when they say black women aren't checking for him. Swagless black men out here living on a caviar standards where he's passing on attractive women because he's holding out for beyonce? fukk nerds or thugs, does anybody know a single man out there passing on decent p*ssy for dimes he ISN'T already getting? That shyt makes no sense. I don't know anybody like that.

For a woman who's looking for a man, not a particular man but just a man then usually it's as easy as relaxing a standard. For a man who cannot get women it can call for entire lifestyle and personality overhauls.

Why your lying ass said you don't have a dog in the fight but every reply shows you definitely do have a side you're on?

 

[SheWantTheD]

Not necessarily that narrow but you would be surprised. People are judging real life people based off their fantasies which makes interacting with individuals on their level even more unpalatable. The farther down the rabbit hole you go into your fantasy, the higher up the ladder of expectations you have to climb to match the fantasy to be satisfied.

Now take that idea and apply it to somebody who spends most of their lives immersed in different media, with no real interaction with others to mitigate the effects of being solely plugged into these worlds. It's a hard ass transition to talk to someone of the opposite sex afterwards and when this difficulty makes people uninterested it's easy to dismiss people because they weren't what u really wanted anyway.

I sincerely believe a lot of this could be fixed with larger social circles and more daily interaction with the opposite sex. These nerdy guys and girls simply need to get out a little more. Technology has screwed communication skills a lot and given us fantasy to replace actual social interaction skills.

I could come back with given the fact that they lack social interaction, when they interact with someone of the opposite sex they quickly gravitate towards them and develop romantic feelings regardless of whether or not they fit the person's fantasies.

 

[Easy-E]

This pathetic, reductive rhetoric about how Black women "don't like nerdy Black men" is really popular for that #sadBoys side of Youtube, and on TLR, but do y'all actually know anyone who thinks like this "in real life"?

It this point; whats the point of this?

I've been hearing this same message for years.

 

[Easy-E]

Breh, "Black women love thugs and hate nerds" isn't a "controversial opinion," its a comforting lie to socially awkward grown men.

Thank you.

My sister is a young black woman and it's "attracted to thugs."

She's got a friend messing with a no-good dude and she sees it, clearly.

These dudes are dense.

 

[FcKuPaYmE]

I heard it a few times in college. I just chalked it up to jealousy. I didn't know men over 25 years of age still thought this way.

Jordin Sparks in avi?

 

[International Playa]

Close thread because that's all this is about. That's why I hate discussions like these! Nobody is ever honest! Some of ya'll act like we didn't go to high school either. Everybody knows and has interacted with nerds before. And unless they were willing to find their kindred spirit in a female, they had the craziest expectations in the opposite sex.
I'm talking bout harboring secret resentment for the homecoming queen for dating the head of the football squad. Talking about wanting a girlfriend that looks like Lara Croft or Tifa Lockhart. Ironically a lot nerdy blk men have very narrow views of acceptable females they desire even as they accuse blk women of having the same. Unless a blk chick is 8 or above or non-blk they are invisible to these types. We used to try and help dudes like this in our social circles. "Oh she's a cute blk chick. She likes Bleach!" "Ew! I only like straight hair."
"Oh what about her! She's cute, likes COD!" "Nah, boobs aren't big enuff."

Yup them nerds be watching porn and anime, then compare regular women to that. Very unrealistic expectations

 

[QuavoFlow]

el oh el

 

[QuavoFlow]

nerds lost

 

[Supreme365]

I heard it a few times in college. I just chalked it up to jealousy. I didn't know men over 25 years of age still thought this way.

If thats you in the avy let me get a taste

 

[VFib]

Jordin Sparks in avi?

Always

 

[VFib]

If thats you in the avy let me get a taste

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Yes, you are. Because you're interested in nerd shyt, I'm not negating your life experiences, but I went to an urban magnet public school, and we had kids who sold drugs, had been shot, had been to jail, and were in Model UN, and Robotics club, winning awards.
I'm using "nerd" erring toward the interests and lifestyle of a person, you do tech, you're interested in tech, anime, etc, you're a nerd.
You can weightlift and be a nerd, rap and be a nerd, be a coke dealer and be a nerd.
Adding in social awkwardness, like an Oscar Wao-like character, makes an entirely different point

People highjack terms to give their failures legitimacy.

If ur not eating out here it isn't because ur a "nerd" or "kind" or "intelligent". It's not the "blk community".
So now it's just a matter of isolating variables.

Let's say it's a perfect world and everyone had the same interests. Many of these types of men and women would STILL have problems bonding with someone else, because their alleged "nerdiness" was never the deciding factor. The blk community is an extremely social one. Even blks who are introverted tend to seem more social and outgoing than people with similar personality types in other races. Our traditions have been oral, we have a long history of story telling, close communities, lots of interactions. So this Western
vice that we've picked up on isn't healthy.

People have to learn how to interact with others in spite of looks and other factors, learning how to put people at ease, having people genuinely enjoy ur company, these things are magnetic and these skills have atrophied because we've gotten arrogant and isolated.