Anyone Who Agrees With Erykah Badu Is An Idiot

[Taadow]

You must not have seen me say a million times that there is nothing wrong with an appropriate dress code.

My problem is with people who overly sexualize young teens. As if their clothing choices somehow have the ability to override the fact that they are not adult. Kids need to be protected, before anything else. Just like I don't think it's okay to racially profile kids or for them to be harrassed by police, I don't think it's okay to shove adult sexuality down their throats either. Teach your kids to be modest. It saves a lot of trouble. But when you start foaming at the mouth calling little kids sluts and subjecting them to adult sexual politics, you're fukking up.
I don't even know what to call it but creepy.

You need to take these feelings and wishes you have and throw 'em in the trash.

The best thing you can do to protect your children is to let them know what's going on outside their door
when they can comprehend. As much as we wouldn't like these situations to exist, they do.
And frankly, by middle school and high school they should be up on this kind of thing already.

 

[TrillaMonsoon]

Girls need to know the power of their bodies and sex from a very young age. You got girls who aren't having sex, or even interested in it dressing in a way that gets kids their age and adults wanting to have sex with them. I think thats one of the main things is high school girls start getting attention from adults and grown men. They aren't mentally mature enough or have enough experience on how to protect yourself from those kind of advances and uncomfortable situations. We need to be honest that certain clothes or ways to dress DO give off vibes of your personality. Is it fair that wearing a skirt and a tank top on a hot day is considered "slutty"? Of course not. But it does. Just like it's not fair that people get discriminated on for their skin color, religion, sex, and sexual preference. But all these things and ideas exist in the day to day world and you can't just wish it away. We have to be smart with how we deal with it because while trying to move the status quo, you also have to work within those constraints.

Once again, the onus is NOT ON WOMEN not to get raped. Males should never engage in that type of shyt but it happens. Just like nobody should ever be murdered, robbed, abused in anyway but the world aint perfect. The world aint fair. So if you can take small measures of accountability to just try and help you get through the days without being exposed to that kind of shyt, you should. And again, just because you do, doesnt mean you have a force field protecting you from this, but your chances are a lot better and people aren't being honest about it. Like others have said, you're not gonna walk through a group of people and just assume you're gonna be Ok because "you should be." There's a lot of should be's in the world that aren't, so people telling you to stop bashing your head against that wall aren't victim blaming, they would rather minimize the chances of those things happening KNOWING you can't 100% prevent anything.

 

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You need to take these feelings and wishes you have and throw 'em in the trash.

The best thing you can do to protect your children is to let them know what's going on outside their door
when they can comprehend. As much as we wouldn't like these situations to exist, they do.
And frankly, by middle school and high school they should be up on this kind of thing already.

No I think I'll keep them. I'd rather not be a hypocrite participating and reaping the benefits of a highly sexual society while trying to place the responsibility for the resulting lack of modesty on kids.

 

[The Emperor]

Missing all points intentionally.
Modesty is a real thing.
Feminists want everything their way meaning they want highschool girls to be able to wear anything.

 

[jilla82]

so if I tell my buddy to not rock his chain in the projects...im just victim blaming?

 

[Gold]

I can't even believe there are people who disagree with this

What kind of person hears someone saying children should dress modestly

Then opens their mouth to say no, they should not

This thread is just amazing me too breh....

 

[Losttribe]

What she stated was right and exact. Period

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Nobody here thinks clothes invite assault or abuse.

You are trying to play both sides of the fence. It's wrong to sexually assault a provocatively dressed woman.... but you understand

So basically, if a woman gets assaulted or raped, it's her fault.

 

[Remote]

You are trying to play both sides of the fence. It's wrong to sexually assault a provocatively dressed woman.... but you understand

So basically, if a woman gets assaulted or raped, it's her fault.

Dressing like a hoe don't make you a hoe.
But if you dress like a hoe, you can't get too mad if someone asks you how much for a blow job.

I don't advocate assaulting hoes.
Even hookers gotta get asked questions. You don't just pull up on the track and yoke a bytch.

 

[Gold]

Dressing like a hoe don't make you a hoe.
But if you dress like a hoe, you can't get too mad if someone asks you how much for a blow job.

I don't advocate assaulting hoes.
Even hookers gotta get asked questions. You don't just pull up on the track and yoke a bytch.

I disagree with that. You can get as mad as you want.


But eventually when you mature, you'll get tired of getting mad and you'll want just avoid 99% of the situation altogether by dressing like a lady

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Dressing like a hoe don't make you a hoe.
But if you dress like a hoe, you can't get too mad if someone asks you how much for a blow job.

I don't advocate assaulting hoes.
Even hookers gotta get asked questions. You don't just pull up on the track and yoke a bytch.

The problem with this thinking is some nikkas have different definitions of what's "OK" to do, as well as what dressing like a "hoe" is. Erykah said dressing like a hoe is a skirt that goes above your knees. You think it's OK to ask a woman dressed like a hoe how much she charges for blowjobs. But what about... summertime, if a woman is wearing shorts that show her legs or is at the beach in a swimsuit? That's showing her legs.... is that grounds to treat her like a "hoe"? You say a woman dressing like a hoe is grounds to ask her disrespectful questions. How about the nikkas who think a woman "dressing like a hoe" = grounds to touch?

Not to mention, again, we are checking women with very vague standards, but not the dudes disrespecting or assaulting or even raping them. nikkas on here spend way more time talking about how women are wrong for this and that, but dismissive, dead quiet or even SUPPORTIVE of men who do way worse shyt. Why do you think that is?

 

[Remote]

The problem with this thinking is some nikkas have different definitions of what's "OK" to do, as well as what dressing like a "hoe" is. Erykah said dressing like a hoe is a skirt that goes above your knees. You think it's OK to ask a woman dressed like a hoe how much she charges for blowjobs. But what about... summertime, if a woman is wearing shorts that show her legs or is at the beach in a swimsuit? That's showing her legs.... is that grounds to treat her like a "hoe"? You say a woman dressing like a hoe is grounds to ask her disrespectful questions. How about the nikkas who think a woman "dressing like a hoe" = grounds to touch?

Not to mention, again, we are checking women with very vague standards, but not the dudes disrespecting or assaulting or even raping them. nikkas on here spend way more time talking about how women are wrong for this and that, but dismissive, dead quiet or even SUPPORTIVE of men who do way worse shyt. Why do you think that is?

i think we are talking about different things.
I suppose my hoe/blow job question thing was coarse and not a great example.

But I think you're taking a somewhat extreme approach with your example.

Is it your position that clothing does not send a message? Because if it does send a message (positive or otherwise) then we have to acknowledge a certain level of responsibility that goes with our clothing choices.

 

[Originalman]

School isn't the place to show off your body and distract. You don't need to take it into slut shaming, rape culture or any of that. Simple as that.

Truth especially little kids. I thought jokers on here were just saying folks in Hollywood and media were sick and perverts for dressing little girls like grown women.

No it is OK for little girls to dress in provocative clothes.

Second of all Erica sends her kids to one of the best all black private schools in Dallas. So of course she is going to have a different view on how kids should dress. Her kids got to wear uniforms at their school.

 

[Gravity]

Wasn't gonna respond to everyone in this thread: http://www.thecoli.com/threads/hotep-on-hotep-violence-erikha-badu-vs-twitter-feminists.418344/

So I decided to create a separate one just to air my grievances about this flawed ass logic that girls/women should dress a certain way in order to avoid being violated/attacked.

It doesn't matter what a woman/girl wears. They can and are often subjected to objectification, harassment, etc. by men just for being of the opposite sex. I know first-hand since I've experienced these things from the beginning stages of puberty to now. And I was ALWAYS fully clothed; usually wore hoodies, jeans, and t-shirts.

Even women in the Middle East whom wear hijabs (a clothing item that covers everything but their eyes) are sexually assaulted and raped.

Why isn't the onus being put on predators to stop being fukking predators? Or for creeps to stop being fukking creeps? Why is Erykah talking about men as if y'all are barbaric creatures that are controlled by their dikks and incapable of acting like civilized human beings?

What about boys who get targeted and abused? Should they watch what they wear as well to prevent the same fate? Don't y'all see how fukking stupid this sounds? The focus should be punishing the people who target the victims, not dictating what the victims wear as if that's somehow correlated to a pervert's attraction to them.

This is a straw man argument because this isn't just about predators and rapists tho. This mainly about what's appropriate and not appropriate to wear in a school environment. Short skirts and other provocative wear made to accentuate the body doesn't have a place in a school environment. You people are clouding the issue in order to dodge the point.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

i think we are talking about different things.
I suppose my hoe/blow job question thing was coarse and not a great example.

But I think you're taking a somewhat extreme approach with your example.

Is it your position that clothing does not send a message? Because if it does send a message (positive or otherwise) then we have to acknowledge a certain level of responsibility that goes with our clothing choices.

Of course clothing sends a message. But that doesn't give anyone the right to disrespect or assault anybody. Should CACs be able to call us thugs for dressing a certain way? Are you OK with cops violating black mens' rights for "fitting a description"? What's the difference?