Another black child of a celebrity exposes her dad: Thanks Romeo !

[Colicat]

What precisely IS your viewpoint?

If your arguing that the mother is being unfairly criticized and want proof to the contrary, can YOU provide proof that the mother made adequate and acceptable effort for the children to be with and spend time with their father? That all of Kel’s time and money fighting for VISITATION was simply a waste of resources and all it took for him to see his kids was simply be willing and present?


Because on ONE END we have verifiable documentation that says otherwise….

Or perhaps you’re argument is that the daughter somehow got this warped perception in her head that her father didn’t want to see her, DESPITE him attending reunification courses, all on her own? The mother bore absolutely NO responsibility whatsoever (as the primary caregiver) in shaping the child’s opinion of her father and the unfortunate situation that led to him not being an active participate in her upbringing?

Somehow SOME WAY a man paying and fighting for YEARS (as documented) for the right to visit his children and the message got misconstrued that HE was the reason for this so called “Parental Alienation”?


Again i’m seeking to comprehend what your argument is here. Because the truth of the matter is that SOMEBODY is responsible for this now grown woman feeling as if her father didn’t want to be in her life. And if we’re absolving the lying, scheming, vindictive mother (again this is all documented not just me piling on her) then that means we’re laying blame on the father who paid lawyers to fight for visitation. The father who attended reunification courses. The father who continued providing financially for her well INTO adulthood.


Please clarify

OMG. Straw man galore. I am convinced nan one of y’all read my posts for comprehension purposes.

My viewpoint:
It is asinine to keep bringing up and blaming the mother for Kel’s absence from the daughters life. The daughter is grown now. What’s done is done. The fact of the matter is, he missed time.

I understand and acknowledge Kel’s financial commitment to his children’s life. I understand and acknowledge Kel’s consistent back and forth to family court.

Moral of the story:
Moving forward, If Kel truly wants to be a good father to his daughter, time and emotional support makes up missed time. Not money, not apartments, not cars.

 

[Ziggiy]

OMG. Straw man galore. I am convinced nan one of y’all read my posts for comprehension purposes.

My viewpoint:
It is asinine to keep bringing up and blaming the mother for Kel’s absence from the daughters life. The daughter is grown now. What’s done is done. The fact of the matter is, he missed time.

I understand and acknowledge Kel’s financial commitment to his children’s life. I understand and acknowledge Kel’s consistent back and forth to family court.

Moral of the story:
Moving forward, If Kel truly wants to be a good father to his daughter, time and emotional support makes up missed time. Not money, not apartments, not cars.

Ok so you’re viewpoint is concerning the FUTURE of their relationship and what Kel can do going FORWARD to establish a better bond with the daughter?

In which case I think we have a better conversation pending.

I’d say that to have a better relationship at this point it would take father/daughter therapy to work through some of the issues of resentment that more than likely lie with BOTH SIDES in order to effectively communicate without blame being the default reaction. Kel more than likely (rightfully) places a large portion of blame on the mother for making him miss so much time and probably resents being cast as a “deadbeat”. The daughter probably feels resentment for being deprived of a father’s love and guidance and is going to have to come to an understanding that it wasn’t all her father’s fault and she wasn’t “abandoned”. BOTH of them are going to have both understand that the financial security provided isn’t a REPLACEMENT for said love BUT that perhaps a medium of grace should be extended as that might have been the ONLY way he felt he COULD be in active in the child’s life.

There’s a LOT of water in which to build a bridge to cross but it CAN be done. I simply don’t think blaming Kel in this situation is the avenue in which to begin building that bridge. Both the daughter AND Kel are victims in this situation and should be extended grace

 

[MJ Truth]

Every black celebrity is going to have something over their head man smh. Do we have any black celebrities left that are considered squeaky clean? Will almost made it but you know…

Hollywood ain't letting our people get through it unscathed.

Let's just pray nobody ever comes out with an accusation against Denzel Washington, because that would be the WOAT situation.q

 

[audemarzz]

Ok so you’re viewpoint is concerning the FUTURE of their relationship and what Kel can do going FORWARD to establish a better bond with the daughter?

In which case I think we have a better conversation pending.

I’d say that to have a better relationship at this point it would take father/daughter therapy to work through some of the issues of resentment that more than likely lie with BOTH SIDES in order to effectively communicate without blame being the default reaction. Kel more than likely (rightfully) places a large portion of blame on the mother for making him miss so much time and probably resents being cast as a “deadbeat”. The daughter probably feels resentment for being deprived of a father’s love and guidance and is going to have to come to an understanding that it wasn’t all her father’s fault and she wasn’t “abandoned”. BOTH of them are going to have both understand that the financial security provided isn’t a REPLACEMENT for said love BUT that perhaps a medium of grace should be extended as that might have been the ONLY way he felt he COULD be in active in the child’s life.

There’s a LOT of water in which to build a bridge to cross but it CAN be done. I simply don’t think blaming Kel in this situation is the avenue in which to begin building that bridge. Both the daughter AND Kel are victims in this situation and should be extended grace

Nah, she's simply trying to find a way out for the mother, and a way to blame the father. That's what the "future relationship" concept is really about. She has nothing else, so she's flailing and halfway pretending to be concerned. Those are NOT strawmen.

 

[Colicat]

Ok so you’re viewpoint is concerning the FUTURE of their relationship and what Kel can do going FORWARD to establish a better bond with the daughter?

In which case I think we have a better conversation pending.

I’d say that to have a better relationship at this point it would take father/daughter therapy to work through some of the issues of resentment that more than likely lie with BOTH SIDES in order to effectively communicate without blame being the default reaction. Kel more than likely (rightfully) places a large portion of blame on the mother for making him miss so much time and probably resents being cast as a “deadbeat”. The daughter probably feels resentment for being deprived of a father’s love and guidance and is going to have to come to an understanding that it wasn’t all her father’s fault and she wasn’t “abandoned”. BOTH of them are going to have both understand that the financial security provided isn’t a REPLACEMENT for said love BUT that perhaps a medium of grace should be extended as that might have been the ONLY way he felt he COULD be in active in the child’s life.

There’s a LOT of water in which to build a bridge to cross but it CAN be done. I simply don’t think blaming Kel in this situation is the avenue in which to begin building that bridge. Both the daughter AND Kel are victims in this situation and should be extended grace

The discussion was going in this direction.

It was brought up that Kel has 2 younger kids and a new wife. Possibly the reason why Kel got the daughter a dorm room instead of letting her move in with him.

Which could have felt like a rejection to her. Because she is an adult, she might have to change her perspective of what their relationship can be. She won’t be daddy’s little girl. The adult in her is going to have to learn to love and respect the adult in her father.

 

[Ziggiy]

Hollywood ain't letting our people get through it unscathed.

Let's just pray nobody ever comes out with an accusation against Denzel Washington, because that would be the WOAT situation.q

Denzel has “dealt” with cheating accusations for years. There was the rumor that Sanaa Lathan (with her fine ass) was his mistress and it gained enough traction that she had to publicly refute it. Also there were paparazzi photos of him in a “compromising” position with some random white woman years ago that kind of got swept under the rug.

 

[Ziggiy]

The discussion was going in this direction.

It was brought up that Kel has 2 younger kids and a new wife. Possibly the reason why Kel got the daughter a dorm room instead of letting her move in with him.

Which could have felt like a rejection to her. Because she is an adult, she might have to change her perspective of what their relationship can be. She won’t be daddy’s little girl. The adult in her is going to have to learn to love and respect the adult in her father.

Ok cool see I can respect this.

 

[Wild self]

You are a looney toon.

You been outsed as a bird that belittle black men with the LSA "sistahood" back in 2015.

 

[Colicat]

You been outsed as a bird that belittle black men with the LSA "sistahood" back in 2015.

Ousted? From what? The coli coo coo for Cocoa Puffs club?

You are really delusional breh.

 

[Wild self]

Ousted? From what? The coli coo coo for Cocoa Puffs club?

You are really delusional breh.

You hate black men for the longest. This topic triggered you in ways that YOU need help.

 

[Billy Ocean]

I see that bozo @Matt504 ain't show his face back up in this thread after @Ziggiy G checked his fakkit ass

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Y'all gon learn about arguing with these women. They aint even arguing in good faith. Y'all just wasting time

 

[Colicat]

You hate black men for the longest. This topic triggered you in ways that YOU need help.

You keep throwing out these ignorant and baseless accusations hoping that they will be true.

Does the though of @Colicat being beloved by Black men upset you that much? You need a shrink breh.

Not my fault you can’t find p*ssy as good as mine.

Log off, climb the basement stairs, and get some sunlight; troll.

 

[Wild self]

You keep throwing out these ignorant and baseless accusations hoping that they will be true.

Does the though of @Colicat being beloved by Black men upset you that much? You need a shrink breh.

Not my fault you can’t find p*ssy as good as mine.

Log off, climb the basement stairs, and get some sunlight; troll.

I been outside and active long before The Coli even existed, bedwenching brehette.

And you defending the mother before the father as an instinctive method is proof that you hate black men to a large extent. You aren't even in that thread with the head of UFC Dana White beating his wife because it doesn't fit your agenda

 

[Matt504]

I see that bozo @Matt504 ain't show his face back up in this thread after @Ziggiy G checked his fakkit ass

the thread is on page 17 and I have a post on 15.

Yall really get on here saying anything like we can't just check