There is a right time and season for everyone.
Just because all your friends may be married with kids and your single doesn't mean you should feel down and out if that's what you desire.
Russell Wilson won a Superbowl in his second season. It took john elway almost 20 years.
I'm not trying to be a cheerleader or anything here, but this goes entirely with what you've been talking about for years on this site. You can only think like the above IF:
You have strong principles and boundaries established.
There is simply no other way. It's only by being Authentic and Vulnerable can you say you don't care what your friends or anybody else has. It's living inside-out rather than outside-in. You don't
need to seek external validation to be happy. It's the definition of being a free-spirit. The thing is, this is tough, and it requires you to really put yourself out there. Something that we all did as kids before we got shut down. But you have to do it to be it. I realized this late, but man sure glad I did.
For everyone else:
Brene Brown preaches this. It's very much suggested reading.
shyt, it's a major topic psychologically as well when you look at personality types:
http://www.celebritytypes.com/isfp.php
All of these people look at life leading with something called Introverted Feeling(Fi) meaning they live and act according to what feels right to them, not the outside world. When cats think they make music/art/entertainment to please everyone, that's completely far from the truth. They'll tell you themselves they make music that feels right to
them first.
The answer at: 15:35 of this interview says it all. That's straight out of Quincy Jones' mouth. You gonna listen to Quincy Jones' life advice or your friends' advice they try to give you to "correct" yours?
To put it another way:
There is a famous story in the Hebrew Scriptures of the Bible where three young gentlemen are faced with either giving worship to a god they believe is false (according to the religion and culture of their youth), or dying in a fire. Their conscience does not allow them to do even a single act of worship and so they are throw into a huge furnace. In the story, an angel is said to protect them from death as reward for their loyalty.
The magical elements of this story aside, the willingness to die for a conviction or belief is at the heart of Authenticity.
Authenticity-driven people are far more driven by personal conviction than any other consideration. In fact, it is sometimes difficult to motivate an Authenticity person unless they are personally touched or inspired. Once committed, however, they are a powerhouse and oftentimes unstoppable.
This often takes them in idealistic directions, believing something to be possible because they first felt it on the inside. Outside considerations are not nearly as interesting or compelling as internal feelings, and so they are often strangers – or even blind – to metrics. Something can be done because they believe it can, and others will stand in disbelief as an Authenticity person moves mountains to accomplish a vision.
http://www.personalityhacker.com/authenticity-as-a-decision-maker/
You live according to what everyone else tells you, there's a great chance you'll have something you don't genuinely want. But you gotta love yourself and do you what ultimately you want first and foremost. This applies for anything, relationships, career, hobbies, etc.
lets vibe
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Tell her to turn off the rom-com. She's a Dr in her early 30s... She's winning. She took care of business and can now provide for her fam when the time comes just off her own strength.
Maaan listen. Let me be a doctor at 32 with no kids. Muthafukka Im hittin bad bishes all the time and taking trips to the most luxurious places.
