A serious thread for anyone who might be able to relate

[Sonic Boom of the South]

What if he is deeper then others, and can do some special shyt from his constant thinking? Would that change your view of him?.

And I'm not trying to be funny, just wondering what you think since I hear people say this a lot, yet there are always exceptional people who are deep, whether they know it or not.

Again, don't kill me man, just asking. You seem like you will tear a nikkas nuts off if you think they are trying t be funny. On some shonuff shyt.

i look at it like this brah:



life is not hard


you control your path in life

i have a friend who lost both legs in Iraq and dude could be miserable but he chooses to be happy and gives off vibes of happiness and people love him

he met a bad ass chick "after" he lost his legs and got married

even if you are "different" or "special"

fukk it

just pull the happiness to you

be the life you want to have


brah if i could tell you my whole life story you would shed some tears


but i cant let that shyt hold me down


i work too hard and accomplished too much not to be happy



- i apologize if i came off mean tho

 

[Brandon M.]

I am sorry your parents didn't value your childhood development as much as they should have, but you seem like you have cultivated many wonderful qualities internally which makes all the difference.

Our culture, lack of parenting, media, ect are to blame for why people are not more caring, empathetic, loving, respectful, ect. And a lot of people are thought the complete opposite actually.

I fit in with people on a very surface superficial level but internally I feel very similar to you. Many people can't relate to how I view things or feel about things. But as long as I am talking about 2 chainz or WorldStar they are my best friend.

As far as "not knowing why you are here".. thats an answer that ONLY you can find or develop since it is personal for everyone. And ones reason for being here at one time may be different at another stage of life as things evolve as as people grow.

I personally think that as long as you stay true to yourself, you will be ok.

do u ever log off bro. ur in every thread b

 

[bouncy]

i look at it like this brah:



life is not hard


you control your path in life

i have a friend who lost both legs in Iraq and dude could be miserable but he chooses to be happy and gives off vibes of happiness and people love him

he met a bad ass chick "after" he lost his legs and got married

even if you are "different" or "special"

fukk it

just pull the happiness to you

be the life you want to have


brah if i could tell you my whole life story you would shed some tears


but i cant let that shyt hold me down


i work too hard and accomplished too much not to be happy



- i apologize if i came off mean tho

I agree.

To the OP, I look at life like this. If I'm smart enough to observe my surroundings, go through bullshyt, and make out of it alive or actually manipulating people to do things for me, I can make this world my dream. If you are a thinker, you can make people do all type of stuff, and they won't even realize it because they are so caught up in themselves, and they usually think they have so much game when they don't. They think you are the sucker, when it's really them.

Just have patience, discipline on holding your tongue, no fear in taking risk while still observing what risk to take or not to take, a plan, and watch how things unfold. It would be so easy that it seems like it's not real. When this happens, just go back into your cubbyhole, and do some introspective thinking, and you will come up with new ideas to get what you want. Then start the process all over again, but with new goals, and people to help you get there. Just don't burn bridges, because you will see those people again somewhere down the line, and if you do shyt on them, it might not be pretty.

 

[semtex]

You need a change in environment. Sounds like you are trapped in a mundane existence, but you shouldn't lose perspective because your circumstances are only a small subset of reality. I relate to much of what you said, since i myself am an introvert. You also may have an inaccurate idea in your head of the way life is "supposed to be" as many 20-somethings do. I'm just riffing here.

 

[Ohene]

I agree.

To the OP, I look at life like this. If I'm smart enough to observe my surroundings, go through bullshyt, and make out of it alive or actually manipulating people to do things for me, I can make this world my dream. If you are a thinker, you can make people do all type of stuff, and they won't even realize it because they are so caught up in themselves, and they usually think they have so much game when they don't. They think you are the sucker, when it's really them.

Just have patience, discipline on holding your tongue, no fear in taking risk while still observing what risk to take or not to take, a plan, and watch how things unfold. It would be so easy that it seems like it's not real. When this happens, just go back into your cubbyhole, and do some introspective thinking, and you will come up with new ideas to get what you want. Then start the process all over again, but with new goals, and people to help you get there. Just don't burn bridges, because you will see those people again somewhere down the line, and if you do shyt on them, it might not be pretty.

Knowledge is being dropped in this thread, I'm glad ya'll chose to take it seriously

 

[Chill]

Straight up man, we like mental twins. . Once I'm able to move out though I'm definitely trying to break out of my shell. First major thing I'm doing is just traveling to Vegas for a weekend by myself and see how I do there.

 

[semtex]

I do sometimes feel like I've cheated myself out of certain potential experiences though 4 years of college have sped by and I don't feel like I've had a real college experience (at least not your prototypical college experience).

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

do u ever log off bro. ur in every thread b

 

[Brandon M.]

i know who u r in real life. or that girl in the pic. initials are K.E and u work in Manhattan as a front lobby security guard in a big ass buidling.... yeah. so play with me .

 

[AAKing23]

I feel you OP, I'm damn near just like you


Even as a young child at about 7-8 yrs old people would say I was an "old soul" because of the way I see things and behave. I always worried about things that were ahead my time or that I shouldn't worry about at my age because I mentally live in the future. The maturity also led to me naturally being more serious about things and life in general. Because of that I've always felt detached from the world in my own way, I mean I've had many,many acquaintances in my life but not many true friends. I'm probably hard to be friends with because I'm so used to being alone and "deep into my own thoughts" that I mentally shut people out of my life even my closest friends and family. I've tried to come to terms with the fact that I'm either just different from everybody else or that something's wrong with me.


Sometimes i ask myself why I'm this way in songs that I write where I get very introspective about my life and I think about how many people could possibly be in my life if I just let them in. But I've kinda come to terms with it for the most part. I call it the "gift and the cure" because while it doesn't allow me to enjoy life as much as possible it also has prevented me from indulging in risky and dangerous activities that most people face on a daily basis. I don't have any kids, felonies or drug/alcohol addictions because I'm so self reliant that peer pressure doesn't affect me like most people. I do have the feeling to move away from everyone I know sometimes and be on my own to find my niche in life which is what I plan to do when I transfer colleges soon. I know that there is somewhere and someone I'm meant to be but I just haven't found it yet.

 

[Ohene]

I feel you OP, I'm damn near just like you


Even as a young child at about 7-8 yrs old people would say I was an "old soul" because of the way I see things and behave. I always worried about things that were ahead my time or that I shouldn't worry about at my age because I mentally live in the future. The maturity also led to me naturally being more serious about things and life in general. Because of that I've always felt detached from the world in my own way, I mean I've had many,many acquaintances in my life but not many true friends. I'm probably hard to be friends with because I'm so used to being alone and "deep into my own thoughts" that I mentally shut people out of my life even my closest friends and family. I've tried to come to terms with the fact that I'm either just different from everybody else or that something's wrong with me.


Sometimes i ask myself why I'm this way in songs that I write where I get very introspective about my life and I think about how many people could possibly be in my life if I just let them in. But I've kinda come to terms with it for the most part. I call it the "gift and the cure" because while it doesn't allow me to enjoy life as much as possible it also has prevented me from indulging in risky and dangerous activities that most people face on a daily basis. I don't have any kids, felonies or drug/alcohol addictions because I'm so self reliant that peer pressure doesn't affect me like most people. I do have the feeling to move away from everyone I know sometimes and be on my own to find my niche in life which is what I plan to do when I transfer colleges soon. I know that there is somewhere and someone I'm meant to be but I just haven't found it yet.

That first paragraph is something I can definitely relate too

 

[Ice Water]

Yo my man if you feel introverted, it's cause you are letting yourself feel that way. Be proud of your interests, and strive to fine new ones. The club aint for you, then just embrace what you love, and who you hang out with. It don't need to be for you. Rock with those genuine friends, you got...everyone you meet aint ya friend. I got a few Aces, and a bunch of associates.

Sometimes life doesn't go the way we envisioned it as a bright eyed kid, but don't spend ya life dwelling on what could have been, but focus on what you want it to be. I used to dwell on why certain aspects of my life didn't go this way or that way. I blamed my parents for this or that, but noticed it was too much dwelling man. When you dwell you are stuck in neutral. Once I forgave, or just moved on...Life shined just a bit brighter, because the only person you can blame pretty much is yourself. Cause what you are actually doing is staying stuck in a vibration of being stuck.

Then I noticed when you really strive to change, and actually not bullshyt yourself you stay

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

Op whenever I'm feeling like you're feeling I just hop on a plane and travel some where Its amazing what a change in scenery will do to your spirit breh...

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

i know who u r in real life. or that girl in the pic. initials are K.E and u work in Manhattan as a front lobby security guard in a big ass buidling.... yeah. so play with me .

Um.. I live in the south and work down here as well.

 

[patscorpio]

A lot of well to do Africans make their kids loners/weirdos especially nigerians.
The ones that grew up with a mixture of city life and the village are usually the most well rounded one's from what I have observed.

All that focus on your studies crap/work all the time is very detrimental to a child, I mean look at what happened to mj.

Look at asians, the definitely have the most number of suicides on average.

just had to cosign this but I get what OP is talking about...my parents were strict on me and my siblings growing up. Very regimented on how we were supposed to act and what we had to do. now in elementary school it didn't bother me that much but as puberty hit it when i was in middle school became a problem because you wanted to focus on other things besides studying and getting good grades all the time. I did that and was grounded most of the time. socially and emotionally I knew I was a little stunted in my middle and high school years because of it and it took going away to college for me to grow and make up for lost time. i'm 30 and I've since seen the method to my parent's madness and all in comparison to some of my peers. But yeah balance is key to be well rounded overall