A serious thread for anyone who might be able to relate

[Danny Up]

what exactly makes these "knee jerk" responses?

Because they arent what you want to hear? Because they differ from your self perception?

You're the type of person to ask a question then, when someone gives you an answer that you dont agree with, attempt to convince them why their answer is wrong with your opinion.

Because it's not offering anything real. Real friends and family are supposed to help people not poo poo them with bullshyt advice. People are always crying out for help nobody listens until something bad happens and they all wonder why.

 

[ThatKidBlackHippy]

Yo, don't apologize for venting breh. I might not even necessarily agree or relate to everything you said (I get some of it tho) but you said whatchu felt, the wolves might clown but fukk it.

edit: upon further thought, I actually could relate to your post more so than I initially thought. we the same age too.

 

[LurkMoar]

 

[Ohene]

i can relate heavily breh. i was always sheltered and then socially awkward as fukk and tried to fit in so hard(not that u are doing that im just talking about my own experience). i started hanging out with "thugs", i bought a gun(so stupid), i smoked weed HEAVILY, i hung out with sluts and tried to fukk them all with very little success. now that im grown at 29 and have grown into who i really am, i see all those actions as such stupidity. getting drunk, getting high, acting ratchet and being a "thug" look so fukking stupid to me. i stopped doing all that shyt because it just isnt me, and i have been labeled as thinking im better than people. im judgemental and too serious now. basically some of my family members think im an a$$hole cause i dont get stupid drunk like them and stopped smoking weed and i think some jokes are off limits. shyt bothers me so much when im actually a good guy as most will tell u, im a fukking clown and i still love these family members so much and wish i could be closer and relate more. i too sometimes feel like im from mars.

best advice i can give is just be yourself. fukkit. what else is there?

Pretty much man. I understand exactly what you taking about. Even the thugs or ratchet chicks or whatever I got nothing against them at all. Theyre living their lives, doing what they enjoy or what they must to survive so how can I judge? They too are a product of their environments whether it be the hood, not having a father or whatever. Gay people might be a product of being raised by a mother and three sisters. An overly religious peerson might be the product of a strictly christian household etc etc. shyt even a slut might be the victim of a strictly chrisian household lol. Who am I to judge?

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Spoiler

shyt one example was when I was talking to a girl I had recently met. She seemed cool and interested to the point where I thought I could let this girl into my mind...see the way I think,

One Friday night I was with my best friend just talking catching up (I love that nikka) and the girl asked why I wasn't out...how I should go out and get involved, go to a club or something. That's all fine and dandy but it made me think about the club game in itself (this is me being "too serious" I guess).

I started thinking about how I don't fit in the club environment. How its nothing but a bunch of dudes trying to floss or stunt with some money they made of fraud or stacking while living in mama's crib vs. (Key word is verse) a bunch of posh, often beautiful women who are in the club looking all posh and acting all prissy. It's just too much.

I broke down the current club dynamic how I saw it. When ever I go to house parties or keggars with my college buddies its a good time. People are drinking, nobody is checking/watching how you act, the women are friendly, the men are jokers all that good stuff. I get to these clubs and I got women cockblocking me, I got girls ignorning me no matter how polite I am in trying to talk to them. i got dudes mean mugging me like I know them. I got nikkas blowing smoke all around me. I see dudes trying to holla at these girls and more often than not getting burned the same way I am.

Where is the fun in this? Who is getting involved with who in this environment? It be them times I try to let loose and have fun but the next night i'm getting text messages about, "Yo who was that girl you were cuffin? " or some other bullshyt. Cuffin? nikka i was just tryna get my dikk rubbed by some ass it isnt that serious .

She says, "We act like that because all you guys want is sex"



If you think that you cant offer a guy any worth other than your vagina why would you expect him to? Its called the self-fulfilling prophecy. At the very least attraction is always going to ignite the pairing between two people and with that comes sex eventually. A guy can cherish you, want to have children with you and all that but he's still going to want to fukk you know? Anyways, I guess that shyt was too real for her and then she stopped giving me any play like a coward. Or I'm just an idiot who doesnt know what I'm talking about.

Reactions like that are what make me feel like I dont belong though. I mean, god forbid I have an actual opinion. But I'm the a$$hole.

Breh, you're like my spiritual doppelganger or some sh!t. Damn near everything you wrote about yourself is me, same age and everything .

The thing about me is, I can thrive in social situations and I never had social anxiety or anything and I was never settlered, but I was more interested in my time alone :shrug2:. People are better to me in small doses to me