Whatever man, its obvious you didnt read or interpret what I said. If so you wouldnt have said the bolded.
ya'll be the same people calling someone judgmental or arrogant yet youre out here spewing a bunch of nonsense.
A serious thread for anyone who might be able to relate
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Whatever man, its obvious you didnt read or interpret what I said. If so you wouldnt have said the bolded.
ya'll be the same people calling someone judgmental or arrogant yet youre out here spewing a bunch of nonsense.
Truth be told the only reason I made this thread here was because I wanted to just get my thoughts out coherently. It was either this or talking to myself while taking a shower 
. Telling people in real life they'll always have the same knee jerk reactions:
Youre too serious
Youre too cocky
Stop being sensitive
Why are you so negative?
Stop being a lame ass nikka
blah blah blah
Only people in my real life who kinda get it are a couple of my friends and maybe my dad.
I figured some of ya'll might be going through the same kinda stuff and would take solace in the fact that you're not the only ones.
. Telling people in real life they'll always have the same knee jerk reactions:Youre too serious
Youre too cocky
Stop being sensitive
Why are you so negative?
Stop being a lame ass nikka
blah blah blah
Only people in my real life who kinda get it are a couple of my friends and maybe my dad.
I figured some of ya'll might be going through the same kinda stuff and would take solace in the fact that you're not the only ones.
op i can relate a bit... growing up sheltered and shyt. only mine was more of a defense mechanism, my family had its fair share of shyt/chaos apparently i just learned to detach myself from people to keep from getting hurt, even family. so like you i pretty much became my own person, social anxiety, all that shyt.
in my experience, most of the anxiety that comes from social situations is stemmed from trying to figure out how/feeling the need to "fit in". in other words, don't bring yourself to shyt you know you won't enjoy. try to find like-minded people and accept that this is where you fit in. i know whats easier said than done, finding them at least, but we're lucky enough to live in the internet age
. try meetup.com and look for groups that interest you in your area. i haven't gotten to this point yet but its my opinion that once you find your "belonging", socializing with others will become a lot easier.
in my experience, most of the anxiety that comes from social situations is stemmed from trying to figure out how/feeling the need to "fit in". in other words, don't bring yourself to shyt you know you won't enjoy. try to find like-minded people and accept that this is where you fit in. i know whats easier said than done, finding them at least, but we're lucky enough to live in the internet age
. try meetup.com and look for groups that interest you in your area. i haven't gotten to this point yet but its my opinion that once you find your "belonging", socializing with others will become a lot easier.
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
i read exactly what you wrote......the first two paragraphs was your way of attempting to have everyone else sympathize/agree with you in ur reasoning behind the percption you have that your parents are to blame for the feeling you have that your childhood was somehow "stripped" from you. No where in that explanation did you blame yourself for anything, no where in those paragraphs did you acknowldge things you could have done differently....nah, what you did was attempt to paint yourself as some forgiving victim by not "holding a grudge" towards your parents for what they did to you lol.
Your comment "...I come into contact with people and seem to notice a great deal of selfishness, disrespect, cowardliness, connivance and a gang of other vices. " is you sitting in judgment of others while attempting to paint yourself in a light that is somehow above the folly the people you come in contact are submerged in. Im sure you probably posses a few if not all of the vices you named and dont even know it. Its easy to say what someone on the court is doing wrong from the stands.....its not as easy to do everything right when your actually in the game tho.
why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
there's a scripture for you
you say "I am pretty smart" then go into a story how you poured your heart out to a chickenhead.............a truly smart person wouldnt have done this. A truly smart person would also not be basing his judgements on the make-up of people as a whole on such a limited sample group as the small circle of people they come in contact with ESPECIALLY when they acknowldge they arent they are green and arent social people.
so what exactly is nonsense?
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
what exactly makes these "knee jerk" responses?
Because they arent what you want to hear? Because they differ from your self perception?
You're the type of person to ask a question then, when someone gives you an answer that you dont agree with, attempt to convince them why their answer is wrong with your opinion.
lol reaching. i wasnt asking for sympathy fam, if anything I am extremely happy the way I turned out and I thank my parents. If it wasnt for my dad giving me those math and grammar books as a 6 year old I wouldnt be where I am today. If my parents didnt put me in those factories I wouldnt be appreciative of sitting on my ass in an office all day. The first two paragraphs were merely an introduction, me explaining why I think I have become the way I am. Keep thinking what you want though breh.
As far as the chicken head story.
Come on man, pouring my heart out? Whatever. Like I said, I guess I just dont know what constitutes "pouring your heart out" and just answering a question honestly to the average person. My @Friend will tell you as I discussed with him the other day that I actually was telling him that I was kinda embarrased that I did show her my opinion though and how I shouldn't have questioned why she stopped giving me play. I just like cutting through all the bullshyt though... it's nothing to do with being a victim. And like I said I am not holier than thou. I got got my own shyt to work on but if it is something I know about myself its that i am. A) Honest
B) Very respectful
C) Courteous
I dont know anybody in my life that would say I am any of the things I listed above, althogh my old fashioned mom might consider me disrespectful sometimes. She just doesnt understand how our generation talks nowadays.
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i can relate heavily breh. i was always sheltered and then socially awkward as fukk and tried to fit in so hard(not that u are doing that im just talking about my own experience). i started hanging out with "thugs", i bought a gun(so stupid), i smoked weed HEAVILY, i hung out with sluts and tried to fukk them all with very little success. now that im grown at 29 and have grown into who i really am, i see all those actions as such stupidity. getting drunk, getting high, acting ratchet and being a "thug" look so fukking stupid to me. i stopped doing all that shyt because it just isnt me, and i have been labeled as thinking im better than people. im judgemental and too serious now. basically some of my family members think im an a$$hole cause i dont get stupid drunk like them and stopped smoking weed and i think some jokes are off limits. shyt bothers me so much when im actually a good guy as most will tell u, im a fukking clown and i still love these family members so much and wish i could be closer and relate more. i too sometimes feel like im from mars.
best advice i can give is just be yourself. fukkit. what else is there?
Truthfully speaking man its actually the opposite. Im the kind of person that people will come to for an opinion and then when i give them my honest idea they think that its too extreme, judgmental or some shyt. Many examples of this actually
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
lol reaching. i wasnt asking for sympathy fam, if anything I am extremely happy the way I turned out and I thank my parents. If it wasnt for my dad giving me those math and grammar books as a 6 year old I wouldnt be where I am today. If my parents didnt put me in those factories I wouldnt be appreciative of sitting on my ass in an office all day. The first two paragraphs were merely an introduction, me explaining why I think I have become the way I am. Keep thinking what you want though breh.
As far as the chicken head story.
A) Honest
B) Very respectful
C) Courteous
I dont know anybody in my life that would say I am any of the things I listed above, althogh my old fashioned mom might consider me disrespectful sometimes. She just doesnt understand how our generation talks nowadays.
u can spin it however you want, but you already said you feel your childhood was stripped from you and your reasoning was it was ur parents fault.
Youre also not extremely happy with the way you turned out or you wouldnt be making pity posts about your life on a message board. "Pouring out your heart" was a figure of speech........a smart person would have known that. Me saying that was my way of saying that you opended up to that person......a bird. Like i said before, a smart person knows what level of conversations to have with the audience they are conversing with.....you obviously dont.
also, "to the average person".......here's you again on ur high horse....
u are stuck on the skewed perception you have of your self and refuse to acknowldge anything that goes to the contrary of it. If someone tells you something about yourself that goes against what you think u dont ask them why they feel that way, you instead attempt to explain to them why you arent that way
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I used to be homeschooled...people can't tell now. I get mistaken as a military guy all the time. I used to be the same as OP then I got off my high horse.
Honestly, I guess you guys are right styll. I am an arrogant a$$hole and I need to fix myself. The process begins now.
You see right now your idea is so set that you are fishing for anything to support your opinion.
For instance me saying average person does not mean that I think I am above the average. In that context all I was saying is that I dont see situations the way most people see them.
To you it seemed like I was opening up to a bird...but to me it was merely saying why I dont enjoy clubbing. I didnt say anything mystical. I didnt tell her about my inner, deepest secrets or thoughts. She asked a question and I answered it.
She made a rebuttal and I gave my opinion on how I feel that thought process of "all guys want to do is fukk" is flawed. And I know it was a figure of speech, hence why I said you were reaching.
Second...where did I say anything was my parents "fault". Do I think they had a part in molding me into who I am? Obviously. Only a dumbass would disagree that ones upbringing doesnt shape who they are. Experiences + Genetics = Personality, thats common knowledge.
I don't know why but something seriously irks me about being called arrogant.
Im not gonna try and act like daps and reps hold that much weight but man, there is a reason this thread grew this large I think and had as much positive feedack. Ultimately there are people who can relate and all people like you do by calling us arrogant, lame a$$holes is make us feel more weird
.Again..
But I/we are the a$$holes. Gtfoh man. You're entitled to your opinion though, no use going back and forth.
Like how am I supposed to just automatically assume that any girl I come into contact to is a bird that I cant have a legitimate conversation with and voice my opinion on matters? I am the one choosing to come at everybody the same way as opposed to saying, "nah this is a girl so let me treat her like a bimbo or 'bird' but I'm the one who's arrogant? I'm the condescending one? nikkas are stupid