Your girl just moved in with you...

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does she HAVE to pay half of rent or a bill?

Would you let her skate with just cooking and taking care of the place?

Edit: she does have a job and takes care of things around the house

Edit: asking because my bro bout to have his girl move in with him and I'm just tryna to make sure I'm not in the wrong by telling him that he should have pay half cause she using half

Nah...you shouldn't be telling homie that.....cuz that's their relationship, not yours. He is allowing her to stay with him....NOT SEEKING A ROOMATE ON CRAIGSLIST lmao....I know you mean well trying to help ya partna....but you lo key hatin on her, fall back and let them live. He probably wants to pay and probably can afford to(why else allow her to live there)...meaning she getting ready to cook her ass off clean her ass off and fukk her ass off (not a malshovanist tho).....which is likely exactly what he wants.

 

[Phoenix Rising]

Where I'm from, it is a status symbol to be in a position where your girlfriend/wife is able to stay at home and take care of the house. It says "I make enough money that I'm able to carry all the expenses and take care of a family without a second income."

With that said, this idea is sometimes ludicrous to certain black folks because financially they are just not on that wave. Most of us are in a financially precarious situation. So it's just a different mentality. For those black folk, they should do whatever is financially sound for them. If that means sharing the cost with their significant other, then they should do so without any shame.

Where I'm from it's the opposite.

Women who are lawyers and doctors don't have these kinds of expectations that a man is going to take care of them.

It's generally women who don't make their own money who expect this. Or who aren't high wage earners.

 

[jwonder]

She's paying her proportion of her wages compared to mine, if we make the same bills split down the middle, if I make more I'll pay a little bit more obviously

You gotta work, we ain't in the 60's anymore, put some bread up or get out, yall nikkas out there paying for all the shyt shouldn't be surprised when the poolboy

digging out them guts while you at work slaving away, staying home is lazy, if that's your life aspiration as a woman you lost all in the sauce

This shyt happens more than anybody will ever know too.

A good porion of today's American women are very self entitled. They want to sit on thier funky ass all day or go shopping.

What's this if she takes care of the house shyt too? The majority of these younger women don't even know how to cook. Alot of these cats are paying just to have in house p*ssy. Because all they have is that box to offer. Any dude doing this is gets what he deserves.

 

[Based Lord Zedd]

My girlfriend lives with me off/on.

She lived with me about 6 months last year and we didn't split rent/bills.
We split everything else though.

Long term she'll contribute more.

 

[LEEeveryday]

It wouldn't be a prerequisite, because I'm doing fine on my own. ....But it goes a long way in saying something about her character if she genuinely suggests it herself or offers to pull her weight...

Otherwise...something is lacking in her that'll manifest later on in the relationship.

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

I'm old school.

Would rather handle all the finances myself.

But the world is twisted.Mentalities are warped.

Some chicks see it as almost an insult if you don't charge her anything.

So......Break bread

 

[PimpHandStrong]

Just admit it was a convo betw me and her. No need to butt in and be a captain save a hoe

again you can't just admit you was wrong lol...

Good day sir

 

[Sterling Archer]

If she moves in with me, unless I'm helping her out of a bind, you are at the very least hitting my utilities, amenities and groceries off. It's not about my money. Im just not leveling you up for the next nikka.

If we get a new place together, there will be a further conversation about your portion of the rent. It doesn't have to be 50/50 if we aren't on the same level but you WILL contribute to the household. I'm not paying for your company.

If this is your wife, that's totally different. If I can afford to and we're satisfied with our living situation, she doesn't have to. Her quantifiable contributions will be made elsewhere.

 

[BlackBall]

When the Puss dries up tho

 

[UpAndComing]

again you can't just admit you was wrong lol...

Good day sir

And you can't admit when you weren't wanted in a conversation . Good day to you also

 

[invalid]

Where I'm from it's the opposite.

Women who are lawyers and doctors don't have these kinds of expectations that a man is going to take care of them.

It's generally women who don't make their own money who expect this. Or who aren't high wage earners.

Eh.. that's true. I think there is a difference if a woman puts up voluntarily when the expectation isn't there.

For the women that I know that are stay-at-home, they are college educated and were former attorneys or CPA's. Now, many of them do volunteer work for charities or sit on non-profit boards while managing the house.

Again, I think people should do whatever is financially sound for them.

 

[GetInTheTruck]

If we are living together we are sharing expenses. Its that simple.

 

[GoFlipAPack]

does she HAVE to pay half of rent or a bill?

Would you let her skate with just cooking and taking care of the place?

Edit: she does have a job and takes care of things around the house

Edit: asking because my bro bout to have his girl move in with him and I'm just tryna to make sure I'm not in the wrong by telling him that he should have pay half cause she using half

Yea she gotta pay half!

 

[Kamikaze Revy]

If it's just the two of them living in the house they should both be working and splitting the expenses. I would think the idea of living together is the hope that they can work towards building or at least attempting to build a permanent life together. If during that process they have kids and the man is making enough money the ideal situation would be for the mother to stay home and raise the children. No one is ever going to care for the children like one of the parents will. Times aren't as easy as they used to be though and it's common for both parents to have to continue to work. I'm just saying, i believe the only reason a woman should stay home not earning income is if she is raising the kids. Otherwise, that time could be used to add income to the house and build a better life for the themselves.

 

[Lamar Givens]

so you're telling pk to literally tell her brother Get Married Breh.

@Phoenix_Knightly23 just text him this.

Hebrews 13:4

"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous."