I feel ya girl. But when you have a popular mainstream rapper hop on a song about my n---a my n---a, you can't tell me it's used as a word to sting people.
It's used to say my friend as well.
And that's how I was taught that word, by being around black people who i was cool with like fam. I'm talking about growing up with black best friends since elementary school
My grandma came to Compton as an illegal and my mom aunt and uncles all went to school with black people.
i have caught my mom and uncle calling each other n---a. It's usually when my mom is drunk (which doesn't happen too often) and is trying to have my uncle come drink "n---a come over tell (wife) to come too"
For crying out loud my uncle used to have jerri curls