Yikes! Father works two jobs so his son can go to college and his son fails with a 0.2 GPA.

[dh86]

School's definitely important breh.

But the reality is everyone isn't cut out for it. There's still well-paying options out there for dudes who aren't all that academically inclined - mostly in skilled blue-collar work.

As far as defending the kid - no way. He fukked up. But a 0.2 GPA...there's probably more going on there. Depression, shame over being unable to keep up academically, all sorts of possibilities.

He's still responsible for fukking up though. He owes his father every penny of tuition money that he paid.

Getting started working at whatever job he can get right now to pay his father back while he figures out next steps is probably the right way to go.

There had to be signs of depression or a learning disability in high school if that’s what it is. The most obvious answer is probably the correct one.

 

[Claudex]

The only way for a boy to do this poorly in college is if he was already this close to crashing through high-school. You can't just be a promising High-school student and then just suddenly act out like this in college. Maybe the parents didn't really know their child, it happens a lot especially with parents that believe that self-sacrifice at work is the key to raising strong children.

This is on both the parents and the son.


If they didn't fukk up too bad it could be a great thing for the family because finally the real conversations will be had. Or it could get worse. It all depends on what everyone really wants out of life.

 

[Claudex]

There had to be signs of depression or a learning disability in high school if that’s what it is. The most obvious answer is probably the correct one.

I'm saying tho'. We're not all dumb to believe that this just happened out of nowhere to a great or even good student. There were signs that people either didn't notice, or chose not to. And life will make you pay if you pretend to not see signs, without fail.

 

[kwazzy100]

not everybody meant for college.

pops playing himself

if ya boy ain't trying to go to college, put him in a trade or let him work for awhile then maybe he'll consider his options in the long haul.

people gotta learn that your kids is not your mirror image, that you're essentially raising another human being with their own obligations/motives and aspirations.

Word.
I wish somebody told me to don't go to college too soon, take up a job, and figure out what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I wouldn't be in debt for a useless degree by now

 

[panopticon]

There had to be signs of depression or a learning disability in high school if that’s what it is. The most obvious answer is probably the correct one.

Depression can strike at any time breh...and the scariest part about it...it doesn't even require negative life circumstances to get rolling.

Most common age of onset for some of the most serious mental illnesses (bipolar and schizophrenia) is generally between 16 and 25. Average for schizophrenia is 18.

That's why you hear about brehs doing well, heading off to college...and then a semester or two later they've failed out, started talkin crazy and end up in the hospital.

As far as learning disabilities go...you don't need to have a learning disability to do poorly in college. The teaching style (lectures), amount of self-directed learning you have to do, and high-stakes exams at the end of the quarter is just so different from high school...a lot of brehs drop through the cracks.

 

[dh86]

College hard as fukk breh

But im not even tryan defend bruh, he knew what he was doing
takes 2 to tango
And it takes 2 to fail classes

The fact that breh aint even have answers tell me all i need to know

100 level college classes are high school. He had to be doing reasonably well in high school if he dad did all of that

 

[Deflatedhoopdreams]

Man I went to college. Soooooo many people failed out from not going to class.

Actually my second year roommate went to class for a week and then stopped going and failed out.

Hella kids didn't show up the second semester of college freshman year because they failed out

 

[SheWantTheD]

Doing the bare minimum will get you a C.

If this is his first year of college, he failed his first two semesters taking intro courses.

He either didn't learn shyt in high school or he barely went to class (if at all) and didn't do any assignments.

 

[panopticon]

The only way for a boy to do this poorly in college is if he was already this close to crashing through high-school. You can't just be a promising High-school student and then just suddenly act out like this in college. Maybe the parents didn't really know their child, it happens a lot especially with parents that believe that self-sacrifice at work is the key to raising strong children.

This is on both the parents and the son.


If they didn't fukk up too bad it could be a great thing for the family because finally the real conversations will be had. Or it could get worse. It all depends on what everyone really wants out of life.

Great post.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Hope pops put hands on him shortly after.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Hope pops put hands on him shortly after.

 

[---]

Lots of colleges aren't selective breh. Especially the smaller public colleges that don't have big endowments.

They're desperate for tuition money to keep the lights on. All they're interested in is grabbing as many bodies as they can.

Check out this list of colleges with 100% or damn near close to 100% acceptance rates.

Top 100 College with Highest Acceptance Rates

Didn't know about this!

 

[Cat piss martini]

me:
son: i'm sorry dad
me: you like fat white girls?
son: no sir
me: you know how to rock up
son: no sir
me: you got a flow or a nice jumper
son:
nikkame: you can alway live with yo mama
son: but she lives with you
me: i'm sick of her shyt to.....she gotta go
son: dad let me explain
me: slide me them keys.

 

[Geode]

It could be a couple of things:

- Some kids realize their intelligence is relative when they go to college. They may have been the smartest kid in the school, but compared to others, they're not the genius they thought they were. That can be defeating.
- People treat college like the 13th grade. Even in the schools where it is the 13th grade, students are treating it like 10th. There's no hand-holding. Then they get that rude awakening at the end of the semester.
- super-smart, but college is just not for them.

I had a cousin who gave his parents the run-around about going to college. Every excuse in the book, he didnt like one school, then he was depressed because he broke up with his gf, then he had health issues and needed extra time to "recover". Parents spent so much money and time on him with this. He eventually just got a blue collar job and called it a day. He makes good money in it because he's super smart, and an avg guy straight out of HS would have taken years to get to his level.

I feel bad for the father, but at least he can stop wasting his money and time.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

pretty sure this is how most classes go, outside of STEM...

It is...

I used to hate language classes for making me have to sit through the ENTIRE class just for credit... but I did it.

Unless it's some serious shyt you can get credit just for having a pulse