Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

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Dudes really think they entitled to be desired by women

And most importantly the 1s out their league



I believe in equality
I call out the bullshyt of both men and women

Yep. The loss of social shaming safety net mechanisms that pushed women into certain gender roles designed to create families had the dual effect of making it harder for some to get women to fall in line and also eroded many males’ primary line of emotional support.

That’s why a lot of single women have been regarded harshly or some entertain fantasies of them being miserable. Because they view these chicks as potential mates that didn’t do their “duty” to link up with a man. (Even tho many women will end up single regardless b/c they outlive their mates on average).

The old ways aren’t coming back and instead society needs to focus on healthier ways to encourage relationships between the genders and encourage men to be more socially healthy…so they don’t have to look at reports of female happiness with suspicion and disbelief or use any problem women encounter in the modern world as an excuse to go back to the 50s, or deflect and assume any woman addressing the lies traditionally told about women are single, lonely, or bitter while ignoring their own mental health needs.

It’s gotta stop. Women have plenty to work on themselves but some men think they are above reproach and just deny, deflect, defend even when evidence is presented about issues they have.

 

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Problem is, there are no real formal tutorials on "getting better social skills" and there is a reason why its not being taught.

That’s DEFINITELY the problem!
But a larger part of the issue is that we can’t even get to addressing the problem when some dudes don’t even wanna confront that it exists in the first place. That’s part of OPs point. All through this thread, when the lens is turned to male needs there’s been quite an amount of deflecting, denying, and defensiveness. Even insinuations that women who bring up the topic must be lonely or hurt themselves. It’s hard to get to solutions when some fight tooth and nail to deny there even is a problem b/c they are more comfortable blaming women or focusing on women than they are on their own issues.

But yes, there needs to be heightened awareness of these issues so we can find solutions to them. A lot of these problems are economically driven and a lot of men have given great examples in this thread @KidJSoul on how the rat race and society toxically pushes men to take on personality traits for survival, that don’t necessarily serve them outside of cutthroat job environments. I’d also add that the way society socializes men to be homophobic about bonding with other men or relegate maintaining close interpersonal relationships with others to a “feminine” sphere makes stuff worse. There’s definitely a balance that needs to be found and to your point, there DEFINITELY needs to be some explicit instructions on how to do it.
Women need help navigating retirement as well but their needs are a bit different and I see women making efforts to address them currently.

 

[Ozymandeas]

There’s maybe 5 dudes at most on here who “relish” in that yet you act like it’s some widespread thing

There’s a reason the opinions of that small percentage of men has such a huge effect on y’all, because you know that’s your future and y’all trying to force yourself to accept it

The whole premise of y’all argument is women would rather be alone than settle for men you don’t want but the fact you end up this way means the men you wanted wouldn’t settle for you. That’s where the underlying bitterness and passive aggressiveness comes from.

You so busy shaming men for not being up to standard and mad women won’t lower their standards for them while completely overlooking the fact you want men who can do better than you to lower their standards as well. They don’t and y’all end up having to cope with finding companionship in y’all homegirls and pretending you’re happy with that.

You see it too. It's transparent. My mom just had two single friends die alone in their houses the last two years. It's laughable that any woman would say that's what they prefer. Nah shorty. You coping because you couldn't get the man you wanted. End of story. And I'm only speaking about the female posters in here. The women my mom knew didn't deserve to go out like that and I would never make fun of them. Its a messed up way to go.

 

[RareHunter]

Fake studies

 

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Kinda telling the first page is only juelzing about the OP instead of the sources they backed it up with

But I know TheColi, 6 figures & 6 feet. Black men are in perfect health and we have nothing to reflect on



This is actually the exact mentality that leaves men to only vent their feelings to their women, and god forbid if they're single, those thoughts will stay stuck in his head without support, leading to unhappiness.

Why are dude's 1*ing this thread?




shyt musta touched a nerve

OP struck a nerve in this thread you can tell how some deflected and tried to investigate was OP on a alt account or not. He’s not saying men are bad, he’s just saying a lot of men especially on here worrying about the wrong things.

Loneliness in the men community is real and can have a negative effect.

No girlfriend/wife, barely any friends, no social life. So all these guys know is work, and come home. That ain’t healthy

nikkas wanted to throw a tantrum instead of self reflect

Exactly. The weird responses make you wonder about the people on this site.

Yeah this hit some really hard.

 

[RareHunter]

Yep. The loss of social shaming safety net mechanisms that pushed women into certain gender roles designed to create families had the dual effect of making it harder for some to get women to fall in line and also eroded many males’ primary line of emotional support.

That’s why a lot of single women have been regarded harshly or some entertain fantasies of them being miserable. Because they view these chicks as potential mates that didn’t do their “duty” to link up with a man. (Even tho many women will end up single regardless b/c they outlive their mates on average).

The old ways aren’t coming back and instead society needs to focus on healthier ways to encourage relationships between the genders and encourage men to be more socially healthy…so they don’t have to look at reports of female happiness with suspicion and disbelief or use any problem women encounter in the modern world as an excuse to go back to the 50s, or deflect and assume any woman addressing the lies traditionally told about women are single, lonely, or bitter while ignoring their own mental health needs.

It’s gotta stop. Women have plenty to work on themselves but some men think they are above reproach and just deny, deflect, defend even when evidence is presented about issues they have.

Lol society will implode if men don’t get back to righteousness and lead women (as is designed). Egalitarian society is unnatural .

 

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Lol society will implode if men don’t get back to righteousness and lead women (as is designed). Egalitarian society is unnatural .

Nah. Agree to disagee. Balance and equilibrium is actually the only real sustainable way to move forward but people are stubborn and will just dig their heels in either way. Even if it’s causing society to self-destruct.

 

[Wiseborn]

I just heard of Leisure World several months ago. I sure wouldn't mind living there. Then again, I'd probably be one of the few Blacks living there, if any. I sure wouldn't want that.

I don't know how much they charge but again we're talking about retired people. If you're retired and you have enough coin to live large in super expensive ass Montgomery County I think you'd get a pass as long as your son doesn't come around.

They got several restuarants in that bytch:




Now getting back to single Men. Men are the productive class women are the consumer class. Too many single Men fewer children, fewer children and less real estate speculation and you can't flip that house that you bought for 100K for a million.

Again it's all about the money.

 

[aboss4real24]

Women are "social creatures "

But yet u "happy" living alone

Make it make sense

Just say nobody want yo ass and move on

 

[Wiseborn]

It works if that’s what you are doing. Which it is. Also nobody is clowning men. The whole point is for men to stop attempting to clown women who are single or relish in exaggerations of doom and gloom for them if they are single, when in fact, they should be worried about themselves.
As for you continuing to downplay how widespread the idea of the old cat lady trope is, it’s actually a very old and popular psychological mechanism that has been used through the ages to shame single women cross-culturally.
How the ‘Crazy’ Cat Lady Became One of Pop Culture’s Most Enduring Sexist Tropes | KQED


Some of the dudes on this website and other sites are just newcomers to using this tactic to try and shame chicks they think should be miserable if they aren’t attached to a man. Speculating on chicks happiness if they are single is yet another weird deflection mechanism men employ to avoid the truth that a lot of women not only adjust to being single in their old age due to practical reasons (I.e. they outlive men anyway and have better social skills), but it also distracts from the reality of their own mental health struggles with loneliness.
And it’s not just older generations of men. It’s younger too.
Also the studies aren’t 3000 people. It’s countless studies across multiple populations across multiple continents and this data has been rolling in since the 80s.

You can choose not to believe it (like you outright didn’t believe the stats I posted in another thread on female work participation) but acting like there isn’t enough evidence to demonstrate gender patterns in coping with singledom past a certain age is .
But if u disagree with the data then that’s on u. I personally agree with the trends revealed in the data, have seen it with my own two eyes and other men are coming forward corroborating it as well. It’s a wrap IMO but you can live in your version of the events. Be blessed.

Personally all this shyt proves that women are generally happier (in theory) being single. When dudes like KS wag their finger at them he's listening to female cap, Thinking that a woman would be happy with the average dude.

It seems like women generally don't really like Men, Especially if you look at the Asian situation. Japanese and Korean chicks can't be bothered with their Men but let some extra average white boy come through and he's treated like a rock star.

Again the issue seems to be what women deem to be average, Women are down to pound rich nikkas and extra fly nikkas it's the average Man women can't stand and yes if you put Ralph Kramden in front of a woman then she'd rather be celibate. Put Lizzo if front of the average Man and take away any other woman and that fella is eating.

 

[aboss4real24]

Who gets drafted? Who is first line of defense? Women and children are pirority first. Who decides what should and shouldnt be some way? Also, theres already tons of research on why women and nen differ socially. But what difference does it make? Women are usually valued more socially. Nothing really more to it imo. The world will never be a perfect utopia. Theres winners and losers. It is what it is.

Attractive women *

 

[aboss4real24]

Gonna be allota old ass women dying with stray cats by they side boy I tell ya

 

[Wiseborn]

Women are "social creatures "

But yet u "happy" living alone

Make it make sense

Just say nobody want yo ass and move on

Believe women brehs.

Women's truth is in the moment. Sometimes she wants to kick it with her girls it's fukk these nikkas When her bytches is booéd up on Valentines Day it's We're are all the Goodf Men?!!

 

[Wiseborn]

Lol society will implode if men don’t get back to righteousness and lead women (as is designed). Egalitarian society is unnatural .

It wil get back it always does, but there will be a "spanking Period" where a society of Men take over this fake ass ëgalitarian" society.

 

[JQ Legend]

You see it too. It's transparent. My mom just had two single friends die alone in their houses the last two years. It's laughable that any woman would say that's what they prefer. Nah shorty. You coping because you couldn't get the man you wanted. End of story. And I'm only speaking about the female posters in here. The women my mom knew didn't deserve to go out like that and I would never make fun of them. Its a messed up way to go.

Notice how none of them dared address the point I made about how they try to shame men for wanting women to settle for him while the only way a woman (who wanted to get married) ends up staying single is by failing to get chose by the men they want who refused to settle for and/or felt he could do better than her.

Instead they do all the things they accuse me of doing. They have deflected all in this thread. The whole premise of this thread was a deflection of the original one just like this with the gender roles reversed.