Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

[General Mills]

1. ABSOLUTELY do I think being emotionally reserved (not “walled off”) can be ONE qualifier to be an effective leader to a woman/children/work group/offense/platoon/country, etc...because you can have/feel your emotions and keep them in check in order to be the leader needed to get things done, because things still have to be done despite whatever emotions I may have. Emotions are real, have their place, and need attention - but they are only one part of our life experience.

1B. Women and children (and really, anybody) don’t wanna hear a damn thing about their leader going through a hardship - they just want you to handle your business and lead them. We all know this.

That 1B is a damn FACT. Learned the hard way after my old girlfriend one time was trying to get me to open up and talk about my feelings and what was bothering me


I finally did. Her response was basically

Then used it against me later on when she was mad at something.

I learned a valuable lesson and kept shyt to myself from them on. She tried it again later. Asking why I don’t talk about what’s going on with me.


I told her because truly you don’t care You just care about the results. She was

 

[Peruvian Connect]

That 1B is a damn FACT. Learned the hard way after my old girlfriend one time was trying to get me to open up and talk about my feelings and what was bothering me


I finally did. Her response was basically

Then used it against me later on when she was mad at something.

I learned a valuable lesson and kept shyt to myself from them on. She tried it again later. Asking why I don’t talk about what’s going on with me.


I told her because truly you don’t care You just care about the results. She was

LOL@this clown shiit.

 

[DaHNIC82]

That last one is the big thing that a lot of women don't understand about men.

They don't get the scale of it.

Can women get insulted for crying? Yes. But they don't lose their worth in society.

As a man, you do. This is why guys shy away from being too introspective and emotional.

Obviously shutting yourself off entirely is not good. I still provide advice and support to my friends, and have a high emotional intelligence about myself. But I dont be crying to my friends and hugging them




You're misunderstanding.

You're still viewing this as a deliberate action i.e "I'm just gonna be dikk and money and close my self off just because", and you're ignoring the larger social and biological pressures.

Look at every fukking society, even 3rd world countries, look at animal life, etc. Men do this shyt because it guarantees respect, romance, sex etc.

And no, I'm not saying you should be an a-hole with no emotions. But there's a certain level of stoicism you need as a man.

For crying out loud, there are literally studies that show men who are AGREEABLE AND COOPERATIVE (not pushover, legit friendly) EARN LESS

Yahoo is part of the Yahoo family of brands

So when being cooperative can screw you over financially, you can't be surprised when men train themselves to not have those traits in regular friendships.

Not to mention other anecdotal stuff.

The only way you wont lose respect if you have "the bag" Kanye done broke every law imaginable in the holy book of game and he can still get bytches and ppl still ride with him. A regular joe can't get away with that. The bag makes a sucker immune

 

[KidJSoul]

The only way you wont lose respect if you have "the bag" Kanye done broke every law imaginable in the holy book of game and he can still get bytches and ppl still ride with him. A regular joe can't get away with that. The bag makes a sucker immune

Exactly, being rich/famous helps

Because it gives you more value

 

[Lemons]

There’s maybe 5 dudes at most on here who “relish” in that yet you act like it’s some widespread thing

There’s a reason the opinions of that small percentage of men has such a huge effect on y’all, because you know that’s your future and y’all trying to force yourself to accept it

The whole premise of y’all argument is women would rather be alone than settle for men you don’t want but the fact you end up this way means the men you wanted wouldn’t settle for you. That’s where the underlying bitterness and passive aggressiveness comes from.

You so busy shaming men for not being up to standard and mad women won’t lower their standards for them while completely overlooking the fact you want men who can do better than you to lower their standards as well. They don’t and y’all end up having to cope with finding companionship in y’all homegirls and pretending you’re happy with that.

I provided links because I speak on statistical facts. You’re speaking from pure emotion.

“There’s maybe 5 dudes”

That’s not a fact at all lmao

“that small percentage of men”

according to whom? you? Lol.

Until you can provide actual PROOF of what you’re saying, you can keep it.

“pretending your happy with it”

Lmao, again, pure emotion. You cannot accept statistical facts so you think all the women who are polled about this and asked about this are lying and pretending to be happy.

Instead of acknowledging the fact that men are out here suffering and dying HOMELESS because of it, you want to bend FACTS to further soothe your ego.

Keep going though.

 

[Lemons]

I feel like all the dudes are saying "whatever we don't have any emotions, no one to confide in, and no one really cares anyway."

And I think that’s sad.

They rather deflect than actually talk about ways to combat this.

 

[Lemons]

I’ll tell you like I told OP, y’all make this seem like some widespread phenomenon when it’s a small percentage of men who talk about women hitting the wall and dying lonely or whatever other nonsense you spew in every single dating thread.

For every post you see from men saying that, there’s at least 5 giving props to a fine middle aged women saying “black dont crack”. How such and such is 50 and look better than women half her age. But you’d rather focus on the small minority of men who say the things your diatribes are based on.

Y’all project your own lack of success with dating/marriage on to men and ironically the men y’all say this about are your equals in terms of attractiveness/luck with the opposite sex.

You keep trying to make this personal because you feel personally attacked in some way.

You turned a thread about men needing to focus on ways to combat male loneliness into “you’re just mad because you aren’t having relationship success”.

You are hurting and it shows. This thread applies to you, I hope you are taking notes!

 

[Lemons]

Exactly. The weird responses make you wonder about the people on this site.

I thought they would be open to talking about ways young dudes can foster healthy friendships like women and also thought they’d share their experiences but nah…i’m getting attacked instead. It’s so weird, lol.

But I do enjoy some of the dialogue and have reached out/thanked the ones who are sharing their perspective. I definitely appreciate it.

 

[Wild self]

That last one is the big thing that a lot of women don't understand about men.

They don't get the scale of it.

Can women get insulted for crying? Yes. But they don't lose their worth in society.

As a man, you do. This is why guys shy away from being too introspective and emotional.

Obviously shutting yourself off entirely is not good. I still provide advice and support to my friends, and have a high emotional intelligence about myself. But I dont be crying to my friends and hugging them




You're misunderstanding.

You're still viewing this as a deliberate action i.e "I'm just gonna be dikk and money and close my self off just because", and you're ignoring the larger social and biological pressures.

Look at every fukking society, even 3rd world countries, look at animal life, etc. Men do this shyt because it guarantees respect, romance, sex etc.

And no, I'm not saying you should be an a-hole with no emotions. But there's a certain level of stoicism you need as a man.

For crying out loud, there are literally studies that show men who are AGREEABLE AND COOPERATIVE (not pushover, legit friendly) EARN LESS

Yahoo is part of the Yahoo family of brands

So when being cooperative can screw you over financially, you can't be surprised when men train themselves to not have those traits in regular friendships.

Not to mention other anecdotal stuff.

Damn

 

[Lemons]

assuming op is a woman, why does OP care ?

I’m a black woman and I care about the men in my environment. Does that answer your question?

 

[EARFQUAKE]

 

[JT-Money]

That 1B is a damn FACT. Learned the hard way after my old girlfriend one time was trying to get me to open up and talk about my feelings and what was bothering me


I finally did. Her response was basically

Then used it against me later on when she was mad at something.

I learned a valuable lesson and kept shyt to myself from them on. She tried it again later. Asking why I don’t talk about what’s going on with me.


I told her because truly you don’t care You just care about the results. She was

Sounds like shorty was a narcissist.

 

[Lemons]

I've seen studies that suggest the opposite though - that generally speaking, married couples (both men and women) are happier than single people.
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This article disputes the op I think
A new book says married women are miserable. Don’t believe it.

I ignored this comment because my post was about how the two genders deal with singleness and in turn, loneliness. My point was that single old women should not be worried about by a male dominated board when they statically fare much better than their male counterparts.

Married couples being happier than single couples doesn’t refute anything I said, either. I’m talking about the single population and comparing them between each other (male and female).

I’m not sure what these links prove in relation to what I said but you can expound to provide better insight into your point.

 

[Coli Bot]

I thought they would be open to talking about ways young dudes can foster healthy friendships like women and also thought they’d share their experiences but nah…i’m getting attacked instead. It’s so weird, lol.

But I do enjoy some of the dialogue and have reached out/thanked the ones who are sharing their perspective. I definitely appreciate it.

No you didn't. You knew exactly what you was trying to do making this thread but go on and cook though

 

[Rawtid]

Y’all come in The Game treating us like we just Dicc and Money anyway, so what the fuss?

We don’t be tapping out, y’all be leaving.

Good leadership is based on results.

The bold is exactly the point. Being emotionally unavailable and unwilling change, doesn’t make someone qualified to lead in the first place.

That’s why they leave. Y’all tap out when you shut down and eventually shut off. If you think that can’t be felt by and eventually affect others, not sure what to tell you.