Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

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As a single man I just jerk off when horny and play some video games until I'm sleepy, women on the other hand after certain age start having panic attacks about not being a mother yet, not to mention the deep depression during valentines and new years eve.

By the way...it's hunting day in a week my single brehs :blessed: I'm 3-2 in the last 5 valentine days.

@Diunx what job/career do you have?
 

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Do you think being emotionally walled off qualifies you to be an effective leader to a woman and possibly children?

1. ABSOLUTELY do I think being emotionally reserved (not “walled off”) can be ONE qualifier to be an effective leader to a woman/children/work group/offense/platoon/country, etc...because you can have/feel your emotions and keep them in check in order to be the leader needed to get things done, because things still have to be done despite whatever emotions I may have. Emotions are real, have their place, and need attention - but they are only one part of our life experience.

1B. Women and children (and really, anybody) don’t wanna hear a damn thing about their leader going through a hardship - they just want you to handle your business and lead them. We all know this.
 

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Also this:

Why is plastic surgery so high nowadays? Even among black women, the amount of BBL procedures and ass injextions never been higher historically. Women 20 years ago weren't like this.
Women have BEEN doing the most ridiculous things in the name of beauty, there just wasn’t as much access or affordability then. It’s easy to get a BBL when you’re one care credit approval away.
 

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1. ABSOLUTELY do I think being emotionally reserved (not “walled off”) can be ONE qualifier to be an effective leader to a woman/children/work group/offense/platoon/country, etc...because you can have/feel your emotions and keep them in check in order to be the leader needed to get things done, because things still have to be done despite whatever emotions I may have. Emotions are real, have their place, and need attention - but they are only one part of our life experience.

1B. Women and children (and really, anybody) don’t wanna hear a damn thing about their leader going through a hardship - they just want you to handle your business and lead them. We all know this.
This mentality does not lead to a sustainable situation. You’re behaving like dikk and money, not a functioning member of the household. No wonder y’all tap out. If you’re not able to express your vulnerability with your damn family, you’re not qualified to lead them. These aren’t just randos on the job. You sound crazy.
 

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It can be managed (as in, men learn to not project, but instead be introspective and learn to process and improve), but the ultimate feeling will never go away

Men and women are not 100% the same biologically, so this will always affect dating and loneliness and life satisfaction.

As @CarmelBarbie said, men feel less desirable, and it's because it's true. There's a reason why most incels are men - and it's because women get more attention and validation, or are capable of it. Yes, even women that aren't beautiful.

And again, for men, life is a game of winning and losing. Thats why men are more likely to be lonely and struggle.

I'm not saying men should be closed off emotionally, but a certain level of stoicism is required because being in your feelings too much ends up holding you back.

For instance:

Imagine a breadwinner mom breaking down and crying. It's okay, she can fall back into that feminine role.

Imagine a man who's a breadwinner, breaking down and crying under stress. He's getting clowned for being a failure, loser, bum, pathetic, bytch, (even his own wife would be disgusted or lose respect :pachaha:), etc.

So there's a certain level of mental toughness you have to develop as a man - and developing that requires you to have to not rely on being nurtured by friends.

There's a reason why men are more likely to be called losers, failures, etc.
Yeah there’s a fine balance that needs to be struck between being mentally girded against the unique bullshyt men may encounter, and harming yourself being too rigidly stoic or unyielding. To the point that some men are literally denying reality.

There are issues society needs to confront in how we socialize men when it comes to expressing emotional vulnerability, and other issues too.
Leaning too far into the lone wolf or even he-man/woman haters club only exacerbates these issues.

This is why we need to focus more on healthy interpersonal skills, social skills and the like, particularly in men b/c they are the most vulnerable in these areas. Women are impacted by this as well, btw, but the societal emphasis on female sexuality and behavior has kinda obscured how this is a massive issue for men that goes unacknowledged and not addressed.
 

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It’s psychological copium and the hope that women will be punished for not falling in line with how they think women should live their lives. The idea that some men feel like women should be punished or the hope that women will hit a wall or die in a raging explosion of sadness because they didn’t choose men they weren’t attracted to in their youth is just a control mechanism some men are obsessed with.:mjlol:

In the past, the old cat lady trope was also a scare tactic used to push women into relationships whether they benefitted them or not.

The deflections, defensiveness, personal attacks just prove that this is a sore point for many men.
And it isn’t just men of past generations either.
There are massive studies that specifically targeted the health and well-being of men in isolation and in loneliness. Dudes need to put aside their pride, stop trying to deflect to women and worry about themselves.
The High Cost of Men's Loneliness


https://independent-age-assets.s3.e...-the-emerging-crisis-for-older-men-report.pdf


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hard to pretend like women are lying in these studies because their actions are matching their words. Not only are they reporting more satisfaction, but many aren’t seeking remarriage and divorce is initiated 70% of the time by women
even past retirement age.
None of this means women don’t want male companionship because ultimately they do. But it means they are less willing to put up with anything simply to be able to say they have a man.

The real way men need to combat this isn’t to try and browbeat women into relationships with scare tactics, or take refuge in echo chambers or be bitter. They need to focus on developing better social skills, maintaining closer connections to family and children and BOTH men AND women need to focus on having enough money to retire well because that’s one of the largest variables in this crisis.
:yeshrug:
:wow:

Dudes really think they entitled to be desired by women

And most importantly the 1s out their league:wow:



I believe in equality :wow:
I call out the bullshyt of both men and women
 

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I’ll tell you like I told OP, y’all make this seem like some widespread phenomenon when it’s a small percentage of men who talk about women hitting the wall and dying lonely or whatever other nonsense you spew in every single dating thread.

For every post you see from men saying that, there’s at least 5 giving props to a fine middle aged women saying “black dont crack”. How such and such is 50 and look better than women half her age. But you’d rather focus on the small minority of men who say the things your diatribes are based on.

Y’all project your own lack of success with dating/marriage on to men and ironically the men y’all say this about are your equals in terms of attractiveness/luck with the opposite sex.
You are literally doing exactly what you are accusing us of doing.
And I literally posted dozens of studies focusing on the state of men because socially the old cat lady trope is NOT just something men on the Coli engage in. It’s a worldwide phenomenon.

And not only is it exaggerated in women, but it’s actually downplayed in men. To their detriment. That’s the whole point of OP’s thread. Rather than men relishing in the idea of women being miserable if they don’t have a man, they need to take better inventory of their own social needs.:yeshrug:
 

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This mentality does not lead to a sustainable situation. You’re behaving like dikk and money, not a functioning member of the household. No wonder y’all tap out. If you’re not able to express your vulnerability with your damn family, you’re not qualified to lead them. These aren’t just randos on the job. You sound crazy.

Y’all come in The Game treating us like we just Dicc and Money anyway, so what the fuss?

We don’t be tapping out, y’all be leaving.

Good leadership is based on results.
 

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You are literally doing exactly what you are accusing us of doing.
And I literally posted dozens of studies focusing on the state of men because socially the old cat lady trope is NOT just something men on the Coli engage in. It’s a worldwide phenomenon.

And not only is it exaggerated in women, but it’s actually downplayed in men. To their detriment. That’s the whole point of OP’s thread. Rather than men relishing in the idea of women being miserable if they don’t have a man, they need to take better inventory of their own social needs.:yeshrug:

I know you are but what am I don’t work on me :comeon:

How did I do the bolded?

I pointed out the hypocrisy of clowning men for not getting women to settle while the whole reason y’all end up alone is because u couldn’t get the men u wanted to settle.

Not to mention the hypocrisy of telling men they need to worry about the women who want them and ignore the ones who don’t while y’all literally think you’re too good for the men you attract and choose to be alone because men who don’t want you didn’t choose/settle for you.

Plus y’all acting like this is a majority or even a large percentage of men when it’s a small minority. Even in this very thread y’all have more men in here co-signing y’all and popping slick passive aggressive shyt about OP hitting a nerve than you have men disagreeing.

You yourself choose to ignore all the men who don’t talk about y’all being cat ladies and focus solely on the small amount who do. It’s just pure hypocrisy all around :gucci:

And studies with maybe 3000 people supposedly being some sort of factual evidence of the behavior of the other 7 billion people is laughable. Especially when you purposely Google studies that back up what you already want to be true. Double especially when there are studies that conclude the opposite.
 

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:wow:

Dudes really think they entitled to be desired by women

And most importantly the 1s out their league:wow:



I believe in equality :wow:
I call out the bullshyt of both men and women

A woman ending up single because she didn’t want the men she attracts is literally her feeling entitled to men out of her league/men who feels he can do better than her.

This thread was a spin off from a thread a male poster here made saying the same exact thing OP said here. You talk about how she struck a nerve when the only reason this thread was made was because the OG one struck a nerve with her.

Keep pandering tho :mjgrin:
 

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1. ABSOLUTELY do I think being emotionally reserved (not “walled off”) can be ONE qualifier to be an effective leader to a woman/children/work group/offense/platoon/country, etc...because you can have/feel your emotions and keep them in check in order to be the leader needed to get things done, because things still have to be done despite whatever emotions I may have. Emotions are real, have their place, and need attention - but they are only one part of our life experience.

1B. Women and children (and really, anybody) don’t wanna hear a damn thing about their leader going through a hardship - they just want you to handle your business and lead them. We all know this.

That last one is the big thing that a lot of women don't understand about men.

They don't get the scale of it.

Can women get insulted for crying? Yes. But they don't lose their worth in society.

As a man, you do. This is why guys shy away from being too introspective and emotional.

Obviously shutting yourself off entirely is not good. I still provide advice and support to my friends, and have a high emotional intelligence about myself. But I dont be crying to my friends and hugging them :gucci:


This mentality does not lead to a sustainable situation. You’re behaving like dikk and money, not a functioning member of the household. No wonder y’all tap out. If you’re not able to express your vulnerability with your damn family, you’re not qualified to lead them. These aren’t just randos on the job. You sound crazy.

You're misunderstanding.

You're still viewing this as a deliberate action i.e "I'm just gonna be dikk and money and close my self off just because", and you're ignoring the larger social and biological pressures.

Look at every fukking society, even 3rd world countries, look at animal life, etc. Men do this shyt because it guarantees respect, romance, sex etc.

And no, I'm not saying you should be an a-hole with no emotions. But there's a certain level of stoicism you need as a man.

For crying out loud, there are literally studies that show men who are AGREEABLE AND COOPERATIVE (not pushover, legit friendly) EARN LESS

Yahoo is part of the Yahoo family of brands

So when being cooperative can screw you over financially, you can't be surprised when men train themselves to not have those traits in regular friendships.

Not to mention other anecdotal stuff.
 

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That last one is the big thing that a lot of women don't understand about men.

They don't get the scale of it.

Can women get insulted for crying? Yes. But they don't lose their worth in society.

As a man, you do. This is why guys shy away from being too introspective and emotional.

Obviously shutting yourself off entirely is not good. I still provide advice and support to my friends, and have a high emotional intelligence about myself. But I dont be crying to my friends and hugging them :gucci:




You're misunderstanding.

You're still viewing this as a deliberate action i.e "I'm just gonna be dikk and money and close my self off just because", and you're ignoring the larger social and biological pressures.

Look at every fukking society, even 3rd world countries, look at animal life, etc. Men do this shyt because it guarantees respect, romance, sex etc.

And no, I'm not saying you should be an a-hole with no emotions. But there's a certain level of stoicism you need as a man.

For crying out loud, there are literally studies that show men who are AGREEABLE AND COOPERATIVE (not pushover, legit friendly) EARN LESS

Yahoo is part of the Yahoo family of brands

So when being cooperative can screw you over financially, you can't be surprised when men train themselves to not have those traits in regular friendships.

Not to mention other anecdotal stuff.

Yeah, I'll never forget when I used to go church, there was this point where they were reading scripture about men and then the pastor started to talk about the burdens men carry silently and how they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders a lot of the time. Anyway, they called men up to the alter to pray over them. And a lot of men came up, and a lot of them were crying as they were being prayed on. It was really sad, but for me it really illustrated how many brehs are carrying a lot but don't really have a way to express it, because so many count on them. I know for my dad it was that way probably too, I always saw him as my superhero for that reason--like no matter what, my dad always was there.

I have a son, so I worry about his emotional health, especially as he gets older, I don't want him to feel like he has to hold everything in all the time. Or like he can't express himself, then again, I know it's complicated for brehs when they do. And I'm actually extremely stoic. I always see showing emotion/crying, all that as weak for myself, so I always hold a lot in too, and it manifest in horrible ways--because it's not healthy. But I'm not a very emotional person. A lot of people in personal life have accused me of being cold, narcististic and apathetic, because I don't do well with emotions, and tend to work through things on my own. I used to not be this way, when I was younger I was very emotional, but I think life just hardens you up--at least that's what happened to me, and you just start letting shyt roll off your back and you keep on going, you don't have a choice. But it's just not healthy--if you don't let it out, it always ends up manifesting in other ways--for me it's physical symptoms and spiritual issues but yeah, I hope one day we come to place in society where men can express themselves and have networks like women. I think it's important.
 

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Yeah, I'll never forget when I used to go church, there was this point where they were reading scripture about men and then the pastor started to talk about the burdens men carry silently and how they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders a lot of the time. Anyway, they called men up to the alter to pray over them. And a lot of men came up, and a lot of them were crying as they were being prayed on. It was really sad, but for me it really illustrated how many brehs are carrying a lot but don't really have a way to express it, because so many count on them. I know for my dad it was that way probably too, I always saw him as my superhero for that reason--like no matter what, my dad always was there.

I have a son, so I worry about his emotional health, especially as he gets older, I don't want him to feel like he has to hold everything in all the time. Or like he can't express himself, then again, I know it's complicated for brehs when they do. And I'm actually extremely stoic. I always see showing emotion/crying, all that as weak for myself, so I always hold a lot in too, and it manifest in horrible ways--because it's not healthy. But I'm not a very emotional person. A lot of people in personal life have accused me of being cold, narcististic and apathetic, because I don't do well with emotions, and tend to work through things on my own. I used to not be this way, when I was younger I was very emotional, but I think life just hardens you up--at least that's what happened to me, and you just start letting shyt roll off your back and you keep on going, you don't have a choice. But it's just not healthy--if you don't let it out, it always ends up manifesting in other ways--for me it's physical symptoms and spiritual issues but yeah, I hope one day we come to place in society where men can express themselves and have networks like women. I think it's important.
It is important, but I personally don't feel like it can ever happen. Biologically, it is impossible :manny:

Men need to be hyper competent, productive, etc. To be useful, in the grand scheme if things since we don't give birth.

Obviously this is a generalization - there's dudes who don't have this problem in their social circle - but it's widespread for a reason.
 
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