Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

[Sauce Dab]

OP struck a nerve in this thread you can tell how some deflected and tried to investigate was OP on a alt account or not. He’s not saying men are bad, he’s just saying a lot of men especially on here worrying about the wrong things.

Loneliness in the men community is real and can have a negative effect.

No girlfriend/wife, barely any friends, no social life. So all these guys know is work, and come home. That ain’t healthy

 

[Uno Venova]

Why are dude's 1*ing this thread?



shyt musta touched a nerve

nikkas wanted to throw a tantrum instead of self reflect

 

[Wild self]

It makes their opinion less valid. It also shines a light on the fact that they come to a male dominated space while being single. Most likely because because need male attention.

A lot of these women don't respect men and recent years resent them if they aint some clout demon with $$$.

 

[Wild self]

It’s psychological copium and the hope that women will be punished for not falling in line with how they think women should live their lives. The idea that some men feel like women should be punished or the hope that women will hit a wall or die in a raging explosion of sadness because they didn’t choose men they weren’t attracted to in their youth is just a control mechanism some men are obsessed with.

In the past, the old cat lady trope was also a scare tactic used to push women into relationships whether they benefitted them or not.

The deflections, defensiveness, personal attacks just prove that this is a sore point for many men.
And it isn’t just men of past generations either.
There are massive studies that specifically targeted the health and well-being of men in isolation and in loneliness. Dudes need to put aside their pride, stop trying to deflect to women and worry about themselves.
The High Cost of Men's Loneliness


https://independent-age-assets.s3.e...-the-emerging-crisis-for-older-men-report.pdf


It’s hard to pretend like women are lying in these studies because their actions are matching their words. Not only are they reporting more satisfaction, but many aren’t seeking remarriage and divorce is initiated 70% of the time by women
even past retirement age.
None of this means women don’t want male companionship because ultimately they do. But it means they are less willing to put up with anything simply to be able to say they have a man.

The real way men need to combat this isn’t to try and browbeat women into relationships with scare tactics, or take refuge in echo chambers or be bitter. They need to focus on developing better social skills, maintaining closer connections to family and children and BOTH men AND women need to focus on having enough money to retire well because that’s one of the largest variables in this crisis.

Problem is, there are no real formal tutorials on "getting better social skills" and there is a reason why its not being taught.

 

[Wild self]

Those stats were based on previous generations of men who were totally dependent on traditional male-female relationships. Basically having women has caretakers and housewives, while men went out and worked and held down the household income. The men who died of “loneliness” died due to not knowing how to cook, clean, and take care of self. It’s not necessarily “loneliness” killing them as much as it’s older men never really learning how live healthy lifestyles without a caretaker. It’s not like loneliness is some terminal illness that exclusively effects men. But it does effect men worse than it effects women. That’s for sure. The women are lonely and happy and still have dikk options and companion options.

True sis. I agree with the premise in your original post to a degree. A lot of men who put self value on getting sex, will become depressed when it gets rough out here and no woman wants him. And the men who aren’t just seeking sex, and want actual relationships, it’s gonna get rough for them as well, when women don’t see him as a catch or don’t see him as viable safety net or income multiplier. A lot of these bossed up and caked up women would rather just be happy alone or with a group of other bossed up women living that bachelorette lifestyle. Alone, yet stress free these women are. And they still have dikk and companionship options in the form of lonely simps competing for her time and affection. Meanwhile the dude is lonely and stressed and doesn’t know how to handle stoicism in older or younger age. Especially men who’s only habits revolve around chasing sex. I predict more suicides for black men in the future along with all the other health problems. It’s gonna be bleak. But who gives a shyt? Good luck to the rest of these dudes.

So you saying that the biological clock and fadong looks dont affect women? Like how BBLs and plastic surgery don't be a billion dollar industry?

 

[Iceson Beckford]

Problem is, there are no real formal tutorials on "getting better social skills" and there is a reason why its not being taught.

Random but you made a post the other day breaking down basics of improving desirability, it was the most common sense ever but it helped

@CarmelBarbie @KidJSoul Great posting in here, you both shine in these types of threads

 

[Wild self]

Random but you made a post the other day breaking down basics of improving desirability, it was the most common sense ever but it helped

@CarmelBarbie @KidJSoul Great posting in here, you both shine in these types of threads

Plus women say "get your clout up and step up your mouthpiece" when even that ain't taught properlty to young dudes anymore. That "bootstraps" method always been a flawed concept that nowadays is an 85% failure rate, which is why incel armies are growing (Afghanistan).

 

[semicko82]

That is precisely why I have basically zero sympathy for women in regards to dating.

No matter how shytty or abusive the man may be, they chose him. They almost always had a better option.

This

 

[hood b. goode]

It can be managed (as in, men learn to not project, but instead be introspective and learn to process and improve), but the ultimate feeling will never go away

Men and women are not 100% the same biologically, so this will always affect dating and loneliness and life satisfaction.

As @CarmelBarbie said, men feel less desirable, and it's because it's true. There's a reason why most incels are men - and it's because women get more attention and validation, or are capable of it. Yes, even women that aren't beautiful.

And again, for men, life is a game of winning and losing. Thats why men are more likely to be lonely and struggle.

I'm not saying men should be closed off emotionally, but a certain level of stoicism is required because being in your feelings too much ends up holding you back.

For instance:

Imagine a breadwinner mom breaking down and crying. It's okay, she can fall back into that feminine role.

Imagine a man who's a breadwinner, breaking down and crying under stress. He's getting clowned for being a failure, loser, bum, pathetic, bytch, (even his own wife would be disgusted or lose respect :pachaha), etc.

So there's a certain level of mental toughness you have to develop as a man - and developing that requires you to have to not rely on being nurtured by friends.

There's a reason why men are more likely to be called losers, failures, etc.

Yep.

I was talking with two female friends ( a big mixed group of friends went to a show in dallas a month ago and got an air bnb)

We started talking about dating since me and one of the other 2 were single.

They had been talking about how girls had it harder in certain areas of life like job hunting etc. Then it came to dating. Both girls were like "guys have it way harder especially now"

I was like

I explained my perspective, which is that dating apps provide the illusion of endless options. On the other hand, men (IMO) are better equipped to deal with being single. Stoicism. I never have to worry about being assaulted at night, or lifting stuff when I'm moving apartments, or dealing with life challenges, etc...

I would think women have it harder there So IDK where these studies saying men are unhappier single are coming from, most women I know 1) have their pick of men and 2) naturally need a companion who want to be their rock

Most dudes, on the other hand, want sex. Its like the diamonds and gold analogy - both valuable. Men would accept the diamonds (emotional support) but ask first for the gold (sex). Women ask first for the diamonds, but also want the gold

 

[Serious]

@Pseudonym avoiding this thread

 

[Capitol]

I feel like all the dudes are saying "whatever we don't have any emotions, no one to confide in, and no one really cares anyway."

 

[semicko82]

women good men bad

It basically boils down to this. Not only this thread but these other gender war threads you'll see a majority of men insinuate "men bad women good" philosophy.
Tunnel vision

 

[ZEupTWN]

A lot of these women don't respect men and recent years resent them if they aint some clout demon with $$$.

Respectfully greet a women and see how she responds can tell you a lot...

 

[Ohene]

I think part of the problem Is that men in relationships tend to invest all their time emotion and energy into their women. Its a lot of men in relationships that alienate their single friends

 

[MollyGalaga]

I will say this thread made me less reserved about hitting all my homies up