Men are stoics. Loneliness doesn't affect us as it does women.
To quote William Ernest Henley:
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid."
Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.
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Men are stoics. Loneliness doesn't affect us as it does women.
To quote William Ernest Henley:
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid."
It’s psychological copium and the hope that women will be punished for not falling in line with how they think women should live their lives. The idea that some men feel like women should be punished or the hope that women will hit a wall or die in a raging explosion of sadness because they didn’t choose men they weren’t attracted to in their youth is just a control mechanism some men are obsessed with.
In the past, the old cat lady trope was also a scare tactic used to push women into relationships whether they benefitted them or not.
The deflections, defensiveness, personal attacks just prove that this is a sore point for many men.
And it isn’t just men of past generations either.
There are massive studies that specifically targeted the health and well-being of men in isolation and in loneliness. Dudes need to put aside their pride, stop trying to deflect to women and worry about themselves.
The High Cost of Men's Loneliness
https://independent-age-assets.s3.e...-the-emerging-crisis-for-older-men-report.pdf
It’s hard to pretend like women are lying in these studies because their actions are matching their words. Not only are they reporting more satisfaction, but many aren’t seeking remarriage and divorce is initiated 70% of the time by women
even past retirement age.
None of this means women don’t want male companionship because ultimately they do. But it means they are less willing to put up with anything simply to be able to say they have a man.
The real way men need to combat this isn’t to try and browbeat women into relationships with scare tactics, or take refuge in echo chambers or be bitter. They need to focus on developing better social skills, maintaining closer connections to family and children and BOTH men AND women need to focus on having enough money to retire well because that’s one of the largest variables in this crisis.
quit with the subliminal, call it what it is.
I’m low key mad that @Pressure is in here trying to be messy. He knows I’m not the op.
MollyGalaga
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women good men bad 
I see you got your pity daps from the one fat femcel bytch that makes absolutely no sense when she types and the simp fakkit nikkas with no dikks
Again you probably some fat bytch who sleeps with the fan on and gets no attention in the real world
You are not trying to be open because if you were
You wouldn’t have neglected how I said BOTH GENDERS ARE FACING A PERILOUS END
But I know you can’t read for shyt so it’s okay fat bytch
You are loved
Look how you are reacting.
Look how emotional you are.
You are unwell.
I already answered this. Because for women, marriage is seen as some sort of accomplishment and sense of validation. Y’all want it so bad you’ll ruin if not end a good relationship just because he doesn’t want to get married.
Y’all be little ass girls already planning your wedding
None of you single 30+ women on this site actually want to not ever get married
That’s not answering the question.
I said why do men hold tight to the idea? You’re explaining why they think women will be miserable. But my question is why do they relish in it? What do they gain gloating about how miserable women will be? Do they take the same pride in miserable old men?
Someone who understood already answered for you though.
It’s psychological copium and the hope that women will be punished for not falling in line with how they think women should live their lives. The idea that some men feel like women should be punished or the hope that women will hit a wall or die in a raging explosion of sadness because they didn’t choose men they weren’t attracted to in their youth is just a control mechanism some men are obsessed with.
In the past, the old cat lady trope was also a scare tactic used to push women into relationships whether they benefitted them or not.
The deflections, defensiveness, personal attacks just prove that this is a sore point for many men.
And it isn’t just men of past generations either.
There are massive studies that specifically targeted the health and well-being of men in isolation and in loneliness. Dudes need to put aside their pride, stop trying to deflect to women and worry about themselves.
The High Cost of Men's Loneliness
https://independent-age-assets.s3.e...-the-emerging-crisis-for-older-men-report.pdf
It’s hard to pretend like women are lying in these studies because their actions are matching their words. Not only are they reporting more satisfaction, but many aren’t seeking remarriage and divorce is initiated 70% of the time by women
even past retirement age.
None of this means women don’t want male companionship because ultimately they do. But it means they are less willing to put up with anything simply to be able to say they have a man.
The real way men need to combat this isn’t to try and browbeat women into relationships with scare tactics, or take refuge in echo chambers or be bitter. They need to focus on developing better social skills, maintaining closer connections to family and children and BOTH men AND women need to focus on having enough money to retire well because that’s one of the largest variables in this crisis.
Excellent post here.
I'm messyI’m low key mad that @Pressure is in here trying to be messy. He knows I’m not the op.
ImLionyall
Workin on dat Roar
It’s psychological copium and the hope that women will be punished for not falling in line with how they think women should live their lives. The idea that some men feel like women should be punished or the hope that women will hit a wall or die in a raging explosion of sadness because they didn’t choose men they weren’t attracted to in their youth is just a control mechanism some men are obsessed with.
In the past, the old cat lady trope was also a scare tactic used to push women into relationships whether they benefitted them or not.
The deflections, defensiveness, personal attacks just prove that this is a sore point for many men.
And it isn’t just men of past generations either.
There are massive studies that specifically targeted the health and well-being of men in isolation and in loneliness. Dudes need to put aside their pride, stop trying to deflect to women and worry about themselves.
The High Cost of Men's Loneliness
https://independent-age-assets.s3.e...-the-emerging-crisis-for-older-men-report.pdf
It’s hard to pretend like women are lying in these studies because their actions are matching their words. Not only are they reporting more satisfaction, but many aren’t seeking remarriage and divorce is initiated 70% of the time by women
even past retirement age.
None of this means women don’t want male companionship because ultimately they do. But it means they are less willing to put up with anything simply to be able to say they have a man.
The real way men need to combat this isn’t to try and browbeat women into relationships with scare tactics, or take refuge in echo chambers or be bitter. They need to focus on developing better social skills, maintaining closer connections to family and children and BOTH men AND women need to focus on having enough money to retire well because that’s one of the largest variables in this crisis.
This shyt reminds me of my father.
He in his 60s and he's tiring this year. He's been divorced from his previous wife for several years now so he's alone. All this dude does is work. I asked him "what are going after you retire" breh looked down and said " I don't know" He's been looking so sad these last few months too. I told him to go down to Columbia or Costa Rica and smash 19 yrs until his dikk stopped working but he just walked away like this
Meanwhile my mom, who's being single for 20 years, can't wait to retire in a few years so she can travel vac more her friends. He acting real reckless at her job too, hoping they'll force her into retirement.
It can be managed (as in, men learn to not project, but instead be introspective and learn to process and improve), but the ultimate feeling will never go awayIt’s psychological copium and the hope that women will be punished for not falling in line with how they think women should live their lives. The idea that some men feel like women should be punished or the hope that women will hit a wall or die in a raging explosion of sadness because they didn’t choose men they weren’t attracted to in their youth is just a control mechanism some men are obsessed with.
In the past, the old cat lady trope was also a scare tactic used to push women into relationships whether they benefitted them or not.
The deflections, defensiveness, personal attacks just prove that this is a sore point for many men.
And it isn’t just men of past generations either.
There are massive studies that specifically targeted the health and well-being of men in isolation and in loneliness. Dudes need to put aside their pride, stop trying to deflect to women and worry about themselves.
The High Cost of Men's Loneliness
https://independent-age-assets.s3.e...-the-emerging-crisis-for-older-men-report.pdf
It’s hard to pretend like women are lying in these studies because their actions are matching their words. Not only are they reporting more satisfaction, but many aren’t seeking remarriage and divorce is initiated 70% of the time by women
even past retirement age.
None of this means women don’t want male companionship because ultimately they do. But it means they are less willing to put up with anything simply to be able to say they have a man.
The real way men need to combat this isn’t to try and browbeat women into relationships with scare tactics, or take refuge in echo chambers or be bitter. They need to focus on developing better social skills, maintaining closer connections to family and children and BOTH men AND women need to focus on having enough money to retire well because that’s one of the largest variables in this crisis.
Men and women are not 100% the same biologically, so this will always affect dating and loneliness and life satisfaction.
As @CarmelBarbie said, men feel less desirable, and it's because it's true. There's a reason why most incels are men - and it's because women get more attention and validation, or are capable of it. Yes, even women that aren't beautiful.
And again, for men, life is a game of winning and losing. Thats why men are more likely to be lonely and struggle.
I'm not saying men should be closed off emotionally, but a certain level of stoicism is required because being in your feelings too much ends up holding you back.
For instance:
Imagine a breadwinner mom breaking down and crying. It's okay, she can fall back into that feminine role.
Imagine a man who's a breadwinner, breaking down and crying under stress. He's getting clowned for being a failure, loser, bum, pathetic, bytch, (even his own wife would be disgusted or lose respect
), etc.So there's a certain level of mental toughness you have to develop as a man - and developing that requires you to have to not rely on being nurtured by friends.
There's a reason why men are more likely to be called losers, failures, etc.
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Homies Over Hoes got to be the stupidest shyt thats ever been adopted.
Ya’ll do know that Aaron Mcgruder was SKEWERING that mindset right? Not glorifying it.
Ya’ll do know that Aaron Mcgruder was SKEWERING that mindset right? Not glorifying it.
Why are dude's 1*ing this thread? 
shyt musta touched a nerve
shyt musta touched a nerve