Y’all should be concerned about single men. Not single women.

[Coli Bot]

Your personal feelings mean nothing against hard facts. Single women do much better in life than single men. They are healthier, live much longer, happier, and are more content with their social circle than men. Several studies report this and I posted a couple in the OP.

Presenting your perspective as facts doesn’t make it true.

I would agree with you if it were maybe 50 years ago, but single women of today are by and large choosing to be. They see men as burdens, which is unfortunate. But again, the studies support this.

And you don’t see women buying sex and companionship at the rates men do at all.

That's because men primarily need women for sex and not that much else.

Women need more emotional support which they can probably get from other family members and kids etc..

I hear your points though and I see the studies... but unless they are sticking electrodes on their brains and measuring their happiness the women could just be lying for the study about being happier. Lies, damn lies and statistics. You should take studies with a pinch of salt. What locations did they target? how large was the sample size? where there demand characteristics at play? I.e. where the women deep down knew what the study was for and hence complied.

Not arguing a lot of women are happier being single now though. I think its more of a generational thing and we are just a more individualised society as a whole. Whether that's in our best interests time will tell.




Edit: Seeing a lot of my points have already been mentioned

 

[Coli Bot]

Men that are single and older are seen as losers.
it seems like women want the narrative of them being old and single to be seen as a positive

This is true.

Everyone wants the narrative that puts them in the best light and leaves the other gender as coming off worse. That's not surprising to be fair.

The gender wars continue.

 

[JQ Legend]

Kind of off topic, I also notice how a lot of men are rejoicing in the thought that women today are “more miserable” than women back then but they ignore the fact that people didn’t talk about their feelings back then as freely as they do now. They even talk about breaking generational curses, talking about traumas, talking about depression etc a lot more now because back then you absolutely did not talk about it. So people back then weren’t happier and women today aren’t “more miserable”, they were just suffering in silence before and people now are seeking help and talking about their issues.

I agree people are more public with how they’re feeling nowadays but people we’re definitely happier back then than now. I’d argue social media has made people more miserable than anything else. It’s has such a strong reach, it even effects those who don’t participate.

Anyone old enough to remember knows people were way happier in the 90s and even 00s than the 10s and up. Even the battle of the sexes was way less toxic. It was light hearted jokes between men and women not rooted in bitterness and misery while accusing others of being bitter and miserable.

On this site we have women who want to get married someday making arguments about how women who remain single are happy. That’s a coping mechanism of them coming to the realization of that being their future. They lash out with all kinds of insults and assumptions also as a coping mechanism. Then try to disguise it as concern or wanting to have a genuine discourse

This thread itself was a spin off from a thread where OP got offended by a male poster asking the same question about women that she stated as an absolute fact for men here.

 

[DaHNIC82]

I agree people are more public with how they’re feeling nowadays but people we’re definitely happier back then than now. I’d argue social media has made people more miserable than anything else. It’s has such a strong reach, it even effects those who don’t participate.

Anyone old enough to remember knows people were way happier in the 90s and even 00s than the 10s and up. Even the battle of the sexes was way less toxic. It was light hearted jokes between men and women not rooted in bitterness and misery while accusing others of being bitter and miserable.

On this site we have women who want to get married someday making arguments about how women who remain single are happy. That’s a coping mechanism of them coming to the realization of that being their future. They lash out with all kinds of insults and assumptions also as a coping mechanism. Then try to disguise it as concern or wanting to have a genuine discourse

This thread itself was a spin off from a thread where OP got offended by a male poster asking the same question about women that she stated as an absolute fact for men here.

Add the fact that people dont know how to really socialize, on edge, or just weird. Muthafukkas buy iphones and spend thousands but yet rarely talk but rather text or DM you​

I been out with women whom are flat out boring and they don't have to put in effort because the illusion of better options. This social media shyt done more harm than good

 

[JQ Legend]

I don't necessarily believe ALL those stats because women are known to lie. That being said, a lot of men have deluded themselves into believing in this narrative that unwed woman are going to be completely miserable in old age.

I think the reason for this is because women see getting married as some sort of accomplishment and much needed sense of validation whereas men don’t nearly as much.

Women have much more pressure on them to get married and do so by the time they hit a certain age and if they don’t, they’re deemed as undesirable. I’m not saying I agree with that, but that is how society tends to see it in general.

A woman will be looked at sideways by her own social circle, society in general, and feel a certain way about herself if she’s in her 30s and still unmarried. She will even be looked at sideways by the men attracted to her.

I’m sure women who end up single do find a way to be content with it. Same way a man sentenced to decades in prison eventually gets used to it.

 

[ThatTruth777]

Only #3 is a problem breh

The fukk is up with those emotional ass 1st two points.. emotions, I'm a mayne breh we dead that shyt

 

[Lemons]

Only #3 is a problem breh

The fukk is up with those emotional ass 1st two points.. emotions, I'm a mayne breh we dead that shyt

But they are all related.

Men don’t have strong social ties like women which is why they are less likely to have help when they fall on hard times, that leads to homelessness.

Men struggle with solitude which leads to poor mental health which leads to destructive behaviors including drugs and of course that leads to homelessness.

These aren’t isolated issues.

 

[Lemons]

I don't necessarily believe ALL those stats because women are known to lie. That being said, a lot of men have deluded themselves into believing in this narrative that unwed woman are going to be completely miserable in old age.

Why do you think some men hold tight to that idea? That unwed women will be miserable? And do they believe unwed men will be miserable too? I haven’t seen much of a conversation about that.

 

[Knuckles Red]

With men, and I've even noticed this with myself sometimes, there are just too many things that exist within proximity to our insecurities/ego. There are a lot of emotional situations that men just don't know how to exist within. Not enough emotional nuance to allow for it. You can't ask for a man to share his emotions with another man if he, himself, isn't even aware of his emotions. Or maybe he is, but he doesn't feel comfortable processing them. You have a lot of men who are afraid of confronting themselves. And so, you have all of these internal barriers that don't even allow you to connect with yourself fully. And so it becomes almost impossible to then expect for these emotions/thoughts/feelings to be shared with others. OP keeps speaking of homeless men, but these men are not homeless because, for men, home is where the ego is.

 

[Wild self]

Op will ignore an actual woman's opinion.

Aint that some shyt.

Single women hating on happily married women because the married woman was humble and practical on the man she married to.

 

[Haliax]

OP deffo struck a nerve. But yep. I agree with this assessment. I would

Lies. Lol


A man can take care of and protect himself

A woman mostly cannot
Living alone for a man isn't a negative and is usually by choice


No woman especially over 35 is living alone by choice, no kids ,no man .

They get cats to cope

Lol none of this disputes the points she raised thoe

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Here you go typing in your usually whiney sonnet bs.

.

 

[Worthless Loser]

I don't see the issue being alone. Companionship is not a need the way food and water are needs. It is an optional "want" that you can decide to pursue if you're interested and actually want.

 

[Contrefaire]

Kind of off topic, I also notice how a lot of men are rejoicing in the thought that women today are “more miserable” than women back then but they ignore the fact that people didn’t talk about their feelings back then as freely as they do now. They even talk about breaking generational curses, talking about traumas, talking about depression etc a lot more now because back then you absolutely did not talk about it. So people back then weren’t happier and women today aren’t “more miserable”, they were just suffering in silence before and people now are seeking help and talking about their issues.

I always make a point to mention this whenever I come across any kind of "back in the day people were happier!", nonsense type posts because no they weren't. There was just less self reporting and honesty about personal struggles.

People weren't happier 'back then', their unhappiness just got way less exposure because social media didn't exist and they were repeatedly told they needed to stfu and bear it.

 

[JQ Legend]

I always make a point to mention this whenever I come across any kind of "back in the day people were happier!", nonsense type posts because no they weren't. There was just less self reporting and honesty about personal struggles.

People weren't happier 'back then', their unhappiness just got way less exposure because social media didn't exist and they were repeatedly told they needed to stfu and bear it.

How old are you?

And why not just directly quote me instead of this passive aggressive shyt?

I said people were happier back in the day because social media makes people miserable. I didn’t say it was perfect but people had way better social skills and there wasn’t all this bitterness between the sexes.

How old were you in 1995?

Last dude who said what u said deflected when I asked how old he is only to find out later on he was born in 1999 trying to tell me how the 90s was