Would you throw your fiance in the bushes if she refused to sign dat nup?!?!

[MeachTheMonster]

I never said it was needed, I said marriage was the best way.

And if I named half a dozen examples, real life examples... people I know who weren't wealthy, where pre-marital assets were factored into the divorce, would you call me a liar, or would you take it into consideration? Would you expect me to ignore my own experience, breh?

I'm not calling you a liar. But you might want to go read up on the laws. Keep in mind that divorces are ugly, and any information you might get from a divorce will be ugly as well.

Here read this

What Assets Are Protected From Divorce Settlements? | eHow.com

I'm sure laws vary from state to state but this will give you a general idea.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

That's a great question. Why do you think that love is something that you can and should write into a contract? Ever really think about what marriage is?

"Aw, baby, we're going pretty hot and heavy right now, we need to get the government in on this shyt with paperwork, lawyers, and judges. That's the romantic way to have this relationship progress. I've had it with the lack of paperwork. Let's make this happen!"

"Great! I can't wait until we're completely financially and emotionally vulnerable to each other's changes and such over the years, even though there's no real reason to be!"

Exactly.

"This relationship is going great. Let's pay some fees to this principality and throw some government in the mix so they can add exit penalties."

 

[MeachTheMonster]

That's the thing; it's not a trust issue, it's all out of practicality and being rationale.

There is no way in hell I would even date someone I didn't trust. Again tho, you never know how vindictive a person can get if they get a certain way

It is a trust issue. You don't trust that your marriage will work out. Because others marriages have failed.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Even the female posters shytting on this nikka...

posting funny gifs, and cheap insults are easy as fck to do, but I guarantee you if we put our accomplishments and wealth side by side and compared you'd be quiet as sht lil niqqa. Fall back.

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

The pre-nup is not personal, it's practical. If a man or woman doesn't want to be with you in the first place, they would never even bother popping the question. If people knew that they would get divorced, they would never ask someone to marry them.

Things happen, people change and circumstances can leave you regretting not protecting yourself

Too many bi-polar people walking around to be 100% sure about anything

Well I'm not bipolar. Like I said, it really depends on how my boyfriend approaches me about it. But if does some stuff like your friend did: spring it on me out of nowhere and fires the wedding planner, he doesn't have to even worry about it, I would be gone. Because he is manipulating her and that is a poor indicator of his ability to handle conflicts during the marriage. That's the type of person who would cut someone off financially to get his way during an argument, and as a med student I wouldn't want her to be financially dependent on a person like that. That's just asking for problems.

 

[R.E.N. Spells Ren]

If those things are important to you than divorce shouldn't be on your radar, and you should be ok with the fact that assets earned during the marriage are split equally.

How in God's name did you jump to that conclusion???

Obtaining happiness, being with the one you love and building a family need not come at the expense of protecting what I've earned.

 

[Rawtid]

Even the female posters shytting on this nikka...

I just made an assumption about him but he cleared it up.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

I'm not calling you a liar. But you might want to go read up on the laws. Keep in mind that divorces are ugly, and any information you might get from a divorce will be ugly as well.

Here read this

What Assets Are Protected From Divorce Settlements? | eHow.com

I'm sure laws vary from state to state but this will give you a general idea.

So ok, lets say I've read up on the laws. Lets say you're 100% right.



I'm not by any means rich, but I have a number of assets. According to the law none of that is up for grabs if I get married then divorced, but my experience has taught me that dudes with less assets than I have gotten fleeced in divorce settlements. Maybe the attorney was a rat, maybe the girl was scorned, whatever it is. You're telling me that based on my experiences, I shouldn't get a prenup?

 

[Malik]

That's a great question. Why do you think that love is something that you can and should write into a contract? Ever really think about what marriage is?

"Aw, baby, we're going pretty hot and heavy right now, we need to get the government in on this shyt with paperwork, lawyers, and judges. That's the romantic way to have this relationship progress. I've had it with the lack of paperwork. Let's make this happen!"

"Great! I can't wait until we're completely financially and emotionally vulnerable to each other's changes and such over the years, even though there's no real reason to be!"

Exactly.

"This relationship is going great. Let's pay some fees to this principality and throw some government in the mix so they can add exit penalties."

"Sweetie, I think its time to take our relationship to the next level. I just need some assurance that you wont bail on me should we ever have children. So let's sign a ironclad federal contract that imposes several sanctions on you should you ever think about doing so I love you!"

 

[No_bammer_weed]

You seem to have a very naive disposition. All that love talk is cool, BUT in the grand scheme of things, divorces and custody battles can get very nasty. How many couple have been "madly in love." Have been high school sweethearts, college sweethearts or just in love to the highest order. And all of a sudden people fall out of love, and the female gets half. I don't see why any man of means wouldn't want to protect himself or his assets.

Quesion: why do u have automobile insurance?
-why do u have renters insurance/home insurance?
-why do u wear a seatbelt?

naive about what? You keep operating with this comically binary idea that the man enters the relationship with all the wealth, all the potential earnings, while the woman chills at the house only leaving to go to the nail salon or the club, and then one day telling her man she wants a divorce out the blue and saying "give me half ya sht"...basically you have a very limited, TMZ vision of the world, that is informed through high profile divorces.

I guess I have to repeat, repeat, repeat to all you niqqas. If you have serious reservations about the person that you are marrying, whether financial or otherwise--- then there is no point in getting married to this person, and you should think twice.

 

[philmonroe]

Shes in medical school...get real. Her bread is gunna be fine. Just curious to me that a lot of brothas would encourage a man to break up with a woman, whom you dont know and seems like a great catch. I thought thats what females always do...try to encourage their girlfriends to break up w/ they men.

Well sucka ass dude if she going to be aight fukk is the problem with signing the deal. If I was in that situation and I know my money going to be aight regardless if I was with the chick or not I'm signing the deal no problem. Only thing I'm doing is going to check the language to make sure it just says we leaving with what we came with and no extra stuff unless we have kids together. I'm cool with that why can't she since she got her financial game on point?

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Do people in this thread not realize that women can also potentially get unfairly worked in a divorce as well and could make good use of a prenuptial agreement?

 

[DaChampIsHere]

If your main concern in getting married is how trifling your partner will be, you probably don't need to be getting married and maybe you should spend more time gathering people skills and good judgment.

 

[R.E.N. Spells Ren]

If your main concern in getting married is how trifling your partner will be, you probably don't need to be getting married and maybe you should spend more time gathering people skills and good judgment.

Not one person in here said that's our main concern in getting married, but thanks for your input.

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

So ok, lets say I've read up on the laws. Lets say you're 100% right.



I'm not by any means rich, but I have a number of assets. According to the law none of that is up for grabs if I get married then divorced, but my experience has taught me that dudes with less assets than I have gotten fleeced in divorce settlements. Maybe the attorney was a rat, maybe the girl was scorned, whatever it is. You're telling me that based on my experiences, I shouldn't get a prenup?

Omg why do you have so much loans? What did you go to school for? How long you been paying them off? Do you have a mortgage too?