women that hyphen their name are disrespectful

[Metta World Movement]

Or marry someone who doesn't need his woman to change her name to feel like a man...

It's not about "feeling like a man"; personally I think it's a way of showing that you're actually planning on being with him for the rest of his life, and that you're both trying to create one family under one surname

And before you ask "well, why can't the man do that and change his name "........ please consider all of the OTHER shyt that the man has to do before the wedding and during the marriage (having to propose, buying the ring, being the breadwinner, etc.).....the very LEAST a woman can do is take his name

When you decide to keep your name, it's almost like you're saying " Well if shyt don't work out then that's one hassle I don't have to worry about"; it's like saying you're not really trying to make a real fam and a legacy with the man.....in which case you shouldn't be marrying him


It's crazy.....some women will complain if a man brings up a prenup or asks for DNA tests for a kid, and will say that shows he doesn't trust her.......yet it's most likely those same women who don't want to change their name as a gesture to show the man that he can trust her to stay with him for life.....which is what a real marriage is supposed to be like in the first place

Like I said before, I think I'd settle on the hyphen shyt if it was my own situation.....but I can't lie, that shyt would be a red flag to me

 

[Coco Loco]

but what happens if both parents disagree and never reach agreement and are both very adamant about it?

Idk but they would be two egotistical selfish a$$holes and I'd feel bad for the child. From my experiences if the child is a girl the woman generally will want to have final say on the name and if it's boy the man will. Again idk.

 

[Morethan1]

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@Coco Loco how much it takes to change your name in different districts in the paralegal/Lawyer game?

 

[Coco Loco]

It's not about "feeling like a man"; personally I think it's a way of showing that you're actually planning on being with him for the rest of his life, and that you're both trying to create one family under one surname

And before you ask "well, why can't the man do that and change his name "........ please consider all of the OTHER shyt that the man has to do before the wedding and during the marriage (having to propose, buying the ring, being the breadwinner, etc.).....the very LEAST a woman can do is take his name

When you decide to keep your name, it's almost like you're saying " Well if shyt don't work out then that's one hassle I don't have to worry about"; it's like saying you're not really trying to make a real fam and a legacy with the man.....in which case you shouldn't be marrying him


It's crazy.....some women will complain if a man brings up a prenup or asks for DNA tests for a kid, and will say that shows he doesn't trust her.......yet it's most likely those same women who don't want to change their name as a gesture to show the man that he can trust her to stay with him for life.....which is what a real marriage is supposed to be like in the first place

Like I said before, I think I'd settle on the hyphen shyt if it was my own situation.....but I can't lie, that shyt would be a red flag to me

I read only the first two paragraphs and stopped because I realized you have the impression that give a damn about what others choose and that I am pro no name change. I don't care either way what anyone does with their name I just gave an example of why a friend didn't change her name.

 

[Metta World Movement]

I read only the first two paragraphs and stopped because I realized you have the impression that give a damn about what others choose and that I am pro no name change. I don't care either way what anyone does with their name I just gave an example of why a friend didn't change her name.

......aight, then.

 

[Turbulent]

women got 100% of the legal power, when it comes to naming the kid

do men have any rights when it comes to their kids???

 

[OaklandCertified]

If a woman isn't willing to accept my last name, off to the bushes she goes. I would definitely take it is as disrespect. It is a sign that she is unwilling to submit to you 100%.

 

[Steve Murray]

Get married, brehs

 

[marcuz]

do men have any rights when it comes to their kids???

got the right to pay child support

 

[Coco Loco]

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@Coco Loco how much it takes to change your name in different districts in the paralegal/Lawyer game?

I have no idea how much it would cost but know she'd have to file a shyt load of paperwork for a lot of circuits, licenses, etc. Some of my friends have done it she chose not to.

 

[Morethan1]

I have no idea how much it would cost but know she'd have to file a shyt load of paperwork for a lot of circuits, licenses, etc. Some of my friends have done it she chose not to.

I first want to say is if a person is in love. Why would it matter the cost of some paperwork and documents? Especially,when she is with a person that wants her to have his last name . So just because she doesn't want to deal with the hassle she will keep her name the same? But there in a committed union ship with traditional values and history . Yet paperwork and time and money is why shes not changing it?

 

[Coco Loco]

the women gets full control over the naming of a baby in the hospital.

if a father objects , he has to take it to court..and hope the judge is on his side (which is unlikely)


in your "legal experience" have you ever seen a father name a baby in a hospital, and a mother who objects having to go to court about it?

You sir are a dumb ass. Neither parent has control over naming the child. If the mother (or father) is a bytch and gives the child a name without the fathers (or mothers) consent it can be changed within a certain number of days per state regs. After a certain number of days a fee and legal action is required. Where are you getting your erroneous assumptions from?

Fathers have rights most are just unaware of them or dont think its worth the hassle since "the judge is gonna side with the mother anyway" which is not always the outcome of the judge. I've seen fathers fight for their parental rights and win. This is problem I have with a lot of men, believing hearsay in regards to legal matters regarding children. Stop believing hearsay and actually research the laws per your state. You have rights!

 

[Turbulent]

these laws and courts are the reason people are so unhappy. I think the father should pick the first and last name legally. but now if it's the woman, this give her one more way to try to defy a man's authority over her. it's not natural. now if the man needs his child to have his last name and the mother defies him, he has no other option then to either use game/manipulation, or to strong-arm her emotionally by applying pressure. this doesn't help the man OR the woman in anyway...

 

[Turbulent]

You sir are a dumb ass. Neither parent has control over naming the child. If the mother (or father) is a bytch and gives the child a name without the fathers (or mothers) consent it can be changed within a certain number of days per state regs. After a certain number of days a fee and legal action is required. Where are you getting your erroneous assumptions from?

Fathers have rights most are just unaware of them or dont think its worth the hassle since "the judge is gonna side with the mother anyway" which is not always the decision of the judge. I've seen fathers fight for their parental rights and win. This is problem I have with a lot of men, believing hearsay in regards to legal matters regarding children. Stop believing hearsay and actually research the laws per your state. You have rights!

ok, now i don't know what to believe anymore...

 

[Coco Loco]

I first want to say is if a person is in love. Why would it matter the cost of some paperwork and documents? Especially,when she is with a person that wants her to have his last name . So just because she doesn't want to deal with the hassle she will keep her name the same? But there in a committed union ship with traditional values and history . Yet paperwork and time and money is why shes not changing it?

You should pose these question to her husband (and her) who seems fine with it. Again I merely gave an example of one who didn't. I have no problem with taking my husbands name and or filing paperwork.