Women Taking Too Long to Respond to Texts is Now a Deal Breaker for Me.

[dora_da_destroyer]

I ain't buying no chic I'm casually dating a phone and I damn sure ain't paying the bill just to get a timely mannered response. Either block all those numbers that are clutter or I'll step aside and allow one of the lames to play the game.

Casually dating is exactly the reason you’re owed no immediate text. Casual dating means you’re not putting in effort to be serious, so I don’t need to show you the same levels of commitment as people I have serious relationships with in my life.

 

[SheWantTheD]

So the shorty I was talkin’ bout responded back to me this morning (about a half a day later) to confirm plans for today. I told her I made other plans which is true cuz I’m about to scrub my place from head to toe and make a big ass pot of Posole. Now if we proceed she knows what kinda dude I am and that she needs to be punctual and responsive or she will get bushed. I don’t know in what alternate reality this is considered being insecure but that ain’t a reality I want to exist in.

Don't tell her that shyt is okay. Just say you made other plans.

And her other plans was another nikka

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

Casually dating is exactly the reason you’re owed no immediate text. Casual dating means you’re not putting in effort to be serious, so I don’t need to show you the same levels of commitment as people I have serious relationships with in my life.

I agree. Life is about leverage, I just know how it works. If you meet someone you're highly interested in today and they text you tomorrow you'll respond as soon as you see it. Commitment or not.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I agree. Life is about leverage, I just know how it works. If you meet someone you're highly interested in today and they text you tomorrow you'll respond as soon as you see it. Commitment or not.

That’s another thing...as soon as you see it can be hours. There are also plenty times I read a text when I can’t respond, and forget to even respond to it until the next time the person texts or some other text draws me to my messages hours later. Y’all need to chill.

If the person is getting back to you (even after hours to a day) and meeting up with you for dates or to hang, they clearly have some interest. If they avoid your texts and never commit to meet up, then move on. Very simple equation.

 

[SheWantTheD]

That’s another thing...as soon as you see it can be hours. There are also plenty times I read a text when I can’t respond, and forget to even respond to it until the next time the person texts or some other text draws me to my messages hours later. Y’all need to chill.

If the person is getting back to you (even after hours to a day) and meeting up with you for dates or to hang, they clearly have some interest. If they avoid your texts and never commit to meet up, then move on. Very simple equation.

What does this even mean?!

If you got a phone in at least one hand and see a message, you can respond in a matter of seconds. A quick I'm busy I'll talk to you later suffices.

 

[10bandz]

So the shorty I was talkin’ bout responded back to me this morning (about a half a day later) to confirm plans for today. I told her I made other plans which is true cuz I’m about to scrub my place from head to toe and make a big ass pot of Posole. Now if we proceed she knows what kinda dude I am and that she needs to be punctual and responsive or she will get bushed. I don’t know in what alternate reality this is considered being insecure but that ain’t a reality I want to exist in.

she knows she fukked up

 

[Serious]

The reason nikkas is in their feelings is because they're delusional. They feel entitled to taking priority in woman's life who's basically a stranger because they want to fast track the time it takes to get to the point where they're fukking.

The most ironic part about this is, once these nikkas finally smash, they won't give a fukk about text response times and may even start taking longer to text HER back.

 

[Serious]

@Gil Scott-Heroin

Well a woman receiving messages from random cats on the internet who like her pics, is different from a woman receiving messages from men that shes actually met out in the world and taken the step of voluntarily exchanging numbers with. For whatever reason the internet makes black men unashamedly thirsty. You see it here on this site and its kinda disturbing. Chics who wouldnt make ppl look twice in real life can post touched up pics on the internet and gain a following.

The avg woman isnt talking to 5-10 men that shes actually met out in the world tho.

 

[Blankthawtz]

usually i'm the one that takes long to respond to a chick....on some "oh i forgot u even existed" type of shyt....

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

What does this even mean?!

If you got a phone in at least one hand and see a message, you can respond in a matter of seconds. A quick I'm busy I'll talk to you later suffices.

I may open my pone in a meeting and see your text or read it on the way to a meeting and not have the ability to respond. It’s easy AF to see someone texting in meeting, it’s hard to hide, while just Looking at a text on your phone laid flat on the table is much easier to do. I can also read a text while running on the treadmill but can’t hold a phone and reply...again, another activity I’m not stopping just to text.


I also don’t text while driving, again, easy to glance down an read something but I’m not responding to it until I’m at my destination. If you text while I’m on the way to work or the gym, then you definitely might not get a reply for hours.

Some of y’all literally must have no lives or responsibilities where every text warrants an immediate response

 

[SheWantTheD]

I may open my pone in a meeting and see your text or read it on the way to a meeting and not have the ability to respond. It’s easy AF to see someone texting in meeting, it’s hard to hide, while just Looking at a text on your phone laid flat on the table is much easier to do. I can also read a text while running on the treadmill but can’t hold a phone and reply...again, another activity I’m not stopping just to text.


I also don’t text while driving, again, easy to glance down an read something but I’m not responding to it until I’m at my destination. If you text while I’m on the way to work or the gym, then you definitely might not get a reply for hours.

Some of y’all literally must have no lives or responsibilities where every text warrants an immediate response

No one said anything about an immediate response.

In a meeting you shouldn't have your phone out in the first place, and is the meeting gonna be several hours long that you couldn't respond? Driving, sure, but are you driving several hours a day everyday? And same thing with the treadmill, are you on the treadmill for several hours?

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

I agree. Life is about leverage, I just know how it works. If you meet someone you're highly interested in today and they text you tomorrow you'll respond as soon as you see it. Commitment or not.

My grandmother was back in the 60s hounding my grandfather, went out her way to see him as often as she could and that was way before technology, that's why she had 5 of that nikkas kids



Can't blame technology for being a social leopard...Then again this a forum of people who celebrate being introvert so none of this surprising

 

[Goat poster]

I think we need some context to this discussion.

If she takes hours to get back to you only rarely , or during hours that you know she is really busy( work, School, Gym) then of course any mature person can understand that.

But if it happens habitually, seemingly every time you reach out to her, then there is no excuse. Dead her and move on please.

It can’t be stressed enough, and I really want my young brehs to understand this:

People make time for who they VALUE!!!

That SAME girl that got you tight cause she takes hours to get back to you is MAD AS FUKK that a dude SHE ACTUALLY VALUES is taking hours to GET BACK TO HER!


The best example for this is OURSELVES, we all know we would put way more effort into consistent communication with a girl we look at as a dime, as opposed to some jump off that we deal with when everything else is dry.
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[SheWantTheD]

Okay. You can’t cry out for attention and then turn around and shun rational advice.

You are literally crying on the internet because a woman isn’t showing you attention. Worse off, you are openly rejecting logic because you are too busy being married to your emotions to realize the dimensions of the world we live in.

Be concerned with why a woman won’t text you back brehs...

Be concerned about female attention and cry about it instead of looking within.

The universe is sending you a simple sign that you need to change something about your approach. My senses and logic prompted me to come to the realization that it’s probably the level of your thirst.

Come on bro.

Though what you say may have some truth to it, it's terrible advice.

Let's say you come across a woman out and about, you talk to her for 5 minutes, get the digits and call or text her. No reply.

You can't really figure out why she didn't respond to your phone call or text

You talked to her for a whopping 5 minutes! She can't really see your personality, who you are or what you are about after 5 minutes of conversation.

It's 2018, women are texting and dating multiple men. So they can ignore a couple or a lot without blinking an eye, ain't got nothing to do with your approach, level of thirst or what have you. Though those can be factors.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Yeah it's fine.

There's girls that will hit me up in minutes every single time.

There's those that take a few hours.

And there's some, who will take days.... days.

I don't sweat it at all. I've moved girls up from barely texting back and answering my calls to calling me every day.

When a girl hits me up frequently i'm nearly always smashing or she really wants. She'll drop things to make time - that can be cool for awhile.

The few hours girls. Often working with big careers. When they have time they'll get to me. These are highly interested in me or i've smashed before.

The days and days girls. Probably either barely interested or have other mens dikk in their mouths - taking their time. Could be busy with real life or a combination of the aforementioned.
That's fine. There's a decent percentage of these that can join the interested ranks - the others will filter themselves up over time.

But for me, I need girls at all these stages. I need those take days to respond girls to see what really works or circumstances that work well.

How quickly do you respond to the women that respond later several days at a time? Is it just shooting the shyt text messages, or more important ones that they don't respond to for days at a time?