Women Taking Too Long to Respond to Texts is Now a Deal Breaker for Me.

[ThrobbingHood]

What does this even mean?!

If you got a phone in at least one hand and see a message, you can respond in a matter of seconds. A quick I'm busy I'll talk to you later suffices.

Didn’t I say right at the start of this thread the women on Here would start Juelzing? I’ll say no more and let them carry on proving my point.

 

[Deuterion]

I may open my pone in a meeting and see your text or read it on the way to a meeting and not have the ability to respond. It’s easy AF to see someone texting in meeting, it’s hard to hide, while just Looking at a text on your phone laid flat on the table is much easier to do. I can also read a text while running on the treadmill but can’t hold a phone and reply...again, another activity I’m not stopping just to text.


I also don’t text while driving, again, easy to glance down an read something but I’m not responding to it until I’m at my destination. If you text while I’m on the way to work or the gym, then you definitely might not get a reply for hours.

Some of y’all literally must have no lives or responsibilities where every text warrants an immediate response

Your posts make no sense and it’s because you’re trying to deflect from the fact that women respond right away to people they are interested in. You have yet to present a scenario that justifies waiting 5 - 6 hours to respond. If you have time to check your phone while walking into a conference room you have time to say “ttyl I’m in a meeting”. The only reason you don’t is because you do not want to or because you feel that the person is unimportant, period. Everything else you’re saying is hogwash...

I think we need some context to this discussion.

If she takes hours to get back to you only rarely , or during hours that you know she is really busy( work, School, Gym) then of course any mature person can understand that.

But if it happens habitually, seemingly every time you reach out to her, then there is no excuse. Dead her and move on please.

It can’t be stressed enough, and I really want my young brehs to understand this:

People make time for who they VALUE!!!

That SAME girl that got you tight cause she takes hours to get back to you is MAD AS FUKK that a dude SHE ACTUALLY VALUES is taking hours to GET BACK TO HER!


The best example for this is OURSELVES, we all know we would put way more effort into consistent communication with a girl we look at as a dime, as opposed to some jump off that we deal with when everything else is dry.
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Great post!

 

[Killigraphy]

But the thing about this grand text (which is appreciated) is that I have women in my phone right now that are the total opposite. Attentive, engaging, and carry on a conversation. I also prefer to use the phone as merely a tool to set up face to face engagements but when the convo is like:

Her: I’m free tomorrow I’m up for drinks or coffee.

Me: Tomorrow works for me, what time are you available?

*4 hours goes by*

Her: Around noon.

Me: Ok cool how about 12PM at the Coffee House?

*6 hours goes by*

Fuuuuuuck all of that.

Yeah see she's just being disrespectful....if we're planning something, I expect speedy replies. Anytime I planned anything with a bird, they were quick to respond, and I agree, I use my phone the same way. And while I've had flakey women, I've also had the same excuse laden replies of; "I'm dealing with family issues", "At work" and my favorite "Going out". I've had one girl who literally showed me her a$$hole, not reply in days. I'm sitting there like "Is she really busy with her family?", but over time it became clear to me, that women are vacuous by design. And only become attentive when its something selfish, or having to do with a relationship....basically any time they want a guy to compromise....


fukk all that, I'm with you, if she's not replying quickly enough for a date, then she can't be that serious about swallowing my sword.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Your posts make no sense and it’s because you’re trying to deflect from the fact that women respond right away to people they are interested in. You have yet to present a scenario that justifies waiting 5 - 6 hours to respond. If you have time to check your phone while walking into a conference room you have time to say “ttyl I’m in a meeting”. The only reason you don’t is because you do not want to or because you feel that the person is unimportant, period. Everything else you’re saying is hogwash...



Great post!

No, you don’t. If I also have a laptop and my water bottle in my hands - which is always the case plus I might have food in my hand as well - I don’t have the dexterity to text. And not every text makes sense to reply to “busy ttyl”. If I get a text that requires a real reply, I’m not sending an extra empty “busy” reply. Furthermore as a grown ass person juggling multiple things, having multiple thoughts, it’s easy to get out a meeting, the gym, etc and forget about the text you read an hour ago until later in the day when you’re fukking with your phone or get another messsage.


Bruh, I don’t know where you are with this chick, but you said you’re dating a lot of people and have other women that reply faster, this denotes she’s one of many, which women can sense and they deal with you accordingly. Her not texting to confirm the time is annoying, yes, but other general chit chat texts, a delay is reasonable. Have y’all gone out, how was she? Has she hung out other times you’ve set things up? If so, stop tripping, she’s clearly somewhat interested. She said she was out, to be honest she either was just having too much fun with the friends she was out with or met some dude for the night and whipping out a phone during their convo to text you wasn’t taking precedent. In any case, until y’all are serious, you don’t warrant her changing her communication style at the moment.

That passive aggressive text you sent about how booked up your are all week was wack too. Definitely could have let her know you made other plans today, made a joke about how she was too slow and just jumped to trying to set something up on Thursday, not slide in how you’re booked every other day that week too. But yea, do you. If this is a deal breaker, then stop dealing with her, otherwise you just sound hurt that she’s not feeling you the same (just yet...never know, it might change)

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

Chicks stay with the games. If you find a good one that's not with the games and she prioritizes you you better marry her because someone else will. Most of these broads are full of shyt and ain't worth the chase.

And no, I'm not down with the MGTOW shyt, I'm just saying the average woman has too many guys in her rotation to not be full of shyt.

 

[RTF]

How quickly do you respond to the women that respond later several days at a time? Is it just shooting the shyt text messages, or more important ones that they don't respond to for days at a time?

Depends on my mood.

If i'm talking to a girl that responds sporadically, we aint saying nothing deep anyway. Mostly check up shyt, some banter. What i'm really doing is measuring when it's a good time to call. When the frequency picks up a bit, then I call a bit later.

 

[Deuterion]

No, you don’t. If I also have a laptop and my water bottle in my hands - which is always the case plus I might have food in my hand as well - I don’t have the dexterity to text. And not every text makes sense to reply to “busy ttyl”. If I get a text that requires a real reply, I’m not sending an extra empty “busy” reply. Furthermore as a grown ass person juggling multiple things, having multiple thoughts, it’s easy to get out a meeting, the gym, etc and forget about the text you read an hour ago until later in the day when you’re fukking with your phone or get another messsage.


Bruh, I don’t know where you are with this chick, but you said you’re dating a lot of people and have other women that reply faster, this denotes she’s one of many, which women can sense and they deal with you accordingly. Her not texting to confirm the time is annoying, yes, but other general chit chat texts, a delay is reasonable. Have y’all gone out, how was she? Has she hung out other times you’ve set things up? If so, stop tripping, she’s clearly somewhat interested. She said she was out, to be honest she either was just having too much fun with the friends she was out with or met some dude for the night and whipping out a phone during their convo to text you wasn’t taking precedent. In any case, until y’all are serious, you don’t warrant her changing her communication style at the moment.

That passive aggressive text you sent about how booked up your are all week was wack too. Definitely could have let her know you made other plans today, made a joke about how she was too slow and just jumped to trying to set something up on Thursday, not slide in how you’re booked every other day that week too. But yea, do you. If this is a deal breaker, then stop dealing with her, otherwise you just sound hurt that she’s not feeling you the same (just yet...never know, it might change)

I responded to my baby mama in a scissor lift 30ft in the air using a rotary hammer to drill a hole into the side of a concrete building. You making yourself sound like you can’t walk and chew bubble gum just to make a point. SMH.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I responded to my baby mama in a scissor lift 30ft in the air using a rotary hammer to drill a hole into the side of a concrete building. You making yourself sound like you can’t walk and chew bubble gum just to make a point. SMH.

Ok, good for you. I can’t text with my hands full and mind on something else more pressing. If you can’t understand how I’d put my performance and engagement at work ahead of replying to all of your texts within the “don’t hurt my feelings” response time zone, then we don’t need to deal with one another.

This really seems to have you bent, in which case you should address it like a rational adult. But you won’t, you’ll ghost her and life moves on

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

Come on bro.

Though what you say may have some truth to it, it's terrible advice.

Let's say you come across a woman out and about, you talk to her for 5 minutes, get the digits and call or text her. No reply.

You can't really figure out why she didn't respond to your phone call or text

You talked to her for a whopping 5 minutes! She can't really see your personality, who you are or what you are about after 5 minutes of conversation.

It's 2018, women are texting and dating multiple men. So they can ignore a couple or a lot without blinking an eye, ain't got nothing to do with your approach, level of thirst or what have you. Though those can be factors.

Dude. It’s one woman. Do you know how many women exist in this world?

If you are constantly getting rejected by a large amount of women, the constant in the equation is YOU.


You’re fishing in the wrong pond guy. Find a different pond to fish instead of fishing in your own stream of tears because women you like aren’t giving you the attention you feel that they owe you.

Your mom didn’t hug you enough as a kid bro?

 

[Deuterion]

Ok, good for you. I can’t text with my hands full and mind on something else more pressing. If you can’t understand how I’d put my performance and engagement at work ahead of replying to all of your texts within the “don’t hurt my feelings” response time zone, then we don’t need to deal with one another.

This really seems to have you bent, in which case you should address it like a rational adult. But you won’t, you’ll ghost her and life moves on

Like another poster said...you dropping paragraphs in here in minutes but we supposed to believe you won’t drop a one sentence text. Girl please.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Like another poster said...you dropping paragraphs in here in minutes but we supposed to believe you won’t drop a one sentence text. Girl please.

Because I’m currently surfing thecoli and can see my mentions as they come in. I reply to texts quickly when I can and want, and don’t when I can’t or don’t want to. What does one have to do with the other?

 

[Deuterion]

Because I’m currently surfing thecoli and can see my mentions as they come in. I reply to texts quickly when I can and want, and don’t when I can’t or don’t want to. What does one have to do with the other?

Have a good day boo.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Dude. It’s one woman. Do you know how many women exist in this world?

If you are constantly getting rejected by a large amount of women, the constant in the equation is YOU.


You’re fishing in the wrong pond guy. Find a different pond to fish instead of fishing in your own stream of tears because women you like aren’t giving you the attention you feel that they owe you.

Your mom didn’t hug you enough as a kid bro?

lmao you're a terrible troll.

No one said anything about a guy who's always getting rejected.

 

[A1aaa]

i hateeeee keeping up text convos... for a girl i'm dating, i only respond once every few hrs myself.

only for urgent plans or necessary promptness do i respond immediately

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Have a good day boo.

You too. I heard “waiting to exhale” is a good movies when you have hurt feelings, have a good Sunday Netflix and chill