Why successful black men are a$$holes

[Opus]

Wait a mintue, so dudes are saying that NO BLACK WOMEN AT ALL wanted them when they were broke? That black women only date ballers?

Let's be real. You n#ggas aren't talking about black women in general. No, you're not. You're talking about the Instagram models, the XXL hoes, the wannabe video vixens who clowned, ignored and laughed at your attempts to get in their pants.

Cute, nerdish, suburbanite Ashley wanted you. Yea, she was the Delta who was studing Chemical Enginerring with the slim, non-Coke bottle body and the afro. Oh, she was smiling every time you walked in the library. She sat next to you in class every day. She offered to "come over" and study....even when there was no test. But you didn't want her.

No, you wanted the big booty, DD titty-having, tattos on my neck and back b#tch who shops at the store you worked at part-time while in college. You know, the chick who looked like she just got done at the latest rap video shoot. The one whose social media has pictures that you spend alone time with just you and your bottle of lotion.

Dudes can't tell me black chicks didn't want them. The ones they wanted, and always want, didn't want them.

Newslfash: Those types of black chicks still don't want you. They don't care IT certs. They don't about a $100K 9-5 J-O-B. They don't care about Argygle socks. They don't care about Bitcoin.

So, don't hold your breath on Bria Bette dating Tyrone the Financial Analyst. Or Amber Rose getting with Hakeem the Regional VP of Sales. Or Miracle Watts cupcaking with Jerome the IT Manager.

Those types tend to date pro athletes, entertainers or hustlers. For those types, it's not just about money.....it's about how you get the money and the swag you have. So, no, they're not going to date a CPA even if he's making $250K. And no, they're not going to date an IT Analyst even if he makes $150K. Why? Because those types of women are not impressed by job titles.

And it's not a black thing.....it's a shallow, pumpkinhead b#tch thing.

Peace

I dapped you but the end is wrong. Reality is most professional black dudes stop wanting that. They are scary. You can't present then to colleagues or friends or family, and they are ratchet. At some point you've worked to hard to be with someone who doesn't have an idea of what's at stake. As a youngin dudes do like that shyt though, but at a certain level most nikkas with sense avoid them.

We want the grown up equivalent, which is educated or demure and modest women that have aged well or are younger, looking good, and on the ball. And yea a lot of those younger, good looking, and on the ballwomen were out of alot of dudes reach back in the day. Dudes like me now was approaching them back then offering a lot more than I could or even knew to offer back in the day. It's just the cycle of life.

But yea I can't relate to this talk that no black women wanted black dudes. I think we ignored each others struggles, used each other, and did each other dirty, but there was also good. As a whole though, this entitlement to each others wealth and to a mate of your own age and race doesn't pan out to me. Some people just going to be left out.

 

[Opus]

Let me hold a mill then

Since it ain't that much

@mamba , you still posting in here This thread 50+ pages.

I usually fukk with your posts, but I'm calling BS on bruthas not having hobbies. I race my SS and my G8GT, attend and write theater/arts/plays, do rec swimming and run. I see brothers doing a few of those things too.

Only dap I can give you on that, is most dudes I know don't do much other than play ball, work, and pass around the same women. Warehouse working blue collar type dudes.

Why you going so hard homie?

She said it like it was mythical. In a conversation about successful men it shouldn't make people ghasp. I'm now questioning people definition of success. Is it just a job?

 

[Scott Larock]

So, are you saying that black women have no evidence of dating broke men? Or men who are not financially stable?

That's odd because it seems at least once a week there's a thread, on this very forum, brow-beating black women for dating men based off "swag" or some other personality trait rather than things like career and financial stability.

So, as an ignorant minded-man, I'm confused. Which one is it?

Peace

There's a lot of evidence stating that, for me I couldn't date sisters till ingot something going but I'm older breh than most guys on here, but since you want me to elaborate sisters usually don't have a middle ground and alot of these poor dudes are thug and very masculine. I'm not a thug and I look pretty harmless for a older breh secondly sisters tend to either want a thug or a highly educated brother. I'm working on being the later. I go to school and I'm a bit past 30.

I will say what I met in terms of women usually isn't a black women, the majority will not want me like that. The ones who do are very old and child ridden.

Black women like leaders thugs can lead and rich nikkas can lead you won't see too many sisters with the average brother who shops at Marshalls though. What Hispanic women take black women ain't taking this is true.

Truthfully speaking we socialize much differently than other races and it's a culture thing, hate it or love it.

 

[kayslay]

I'll answer your question when you show me where I said that.

the 50+ page thread, im not about to go through all this.
But you and Mamba stated that BW feel entitled to BM money, thats around about way of calling us gold diggers.
how are bw who are in the same tax bracket "gold diggers"?

 

[philmonroe]

We are talking about successful people.

If you've been making 6 figures for 10-15 years and you do not have a million in assets you are doing it wrong.

If you are smart with real estate or stock market it happens a lot quicker.

Yeah right when most people on here talking about successful they might be talking about 6 figures but keep it real if only 15% of people are making six figures that's not the realistic thing. We are also I'd think talking about people mainly in their 20-30's and now most of them millionaires too? I know cats don't want to be wrong but come on fam I think most people talking within reason and to most regular people if you making 60-70k or more you good money esp in the black community.

I agree with the other two sentences though.

the 50+ page thread, im not about to go through all this.
But you and Mamba stated that BW feel entitled to BM money, thats around about way of calling us gold diggers.
how are bw who are in the same tax bracket "gold diggers"?

Im pretty sure I never said BW feel entitled to BM money. If anything I said women period but maybe you can't read and or this shyt blurring together. That's not around about way of saying nothing. Again I ask show me where I not mamba said that regarding BW without mentioning women in general. When you answer that I'll answer your question. Truth be told I wouldn't care cause I'm not fukking with chicks long term that aren't on my "level" anyway so why would I worry about "gold diggers" and haven't even been co signing much of,this stuff that's why what you talking about sounding real unfamiliar right now.

 

[Opus]

Yeah right when most people on here talking about successful they might be talking about 6 figures but keep it real if only 15% of people are making six figures that's not the realistic thing. We are also I'd think talking about people mainly in their 20-30's and now most of them millionaires too? I know cats don't want to be wrong but come on fam I think most people talking within reason and to most regular people if you making 60-70k or more you good money esp in the black community.

I agree with the other two sentences though.

Im pretty sure I never said BW feel entitled to BM money. If anything I said women period but maybe you can't read and or this shyt blurring together. That's not around about way of saying nothing. Again I ask show me where I not mamba said that regarding BW without mentioning women in general. When you answer that I'll answer your question. Truth be told I wouldn't care cause I'm not fukking with chicks long term that aren't on my "level" anyway so why would I worry about "gold diggers" and haven't even been co signing much of,this stuff that's why what you talking about sounding real unfamiliar right now.

the context of the discussion was a 40ish year old guy marrying a young chick. She was like sure if he's a millionaire. I said that's not that much money. After all, we are talking about successful people. If you are early 40 ' s and don't have a million in assets you aren't that successful. We can get existential about what success is but money is what we've been talking about itt. Plus DC metro median income is 80k so 60, 70 egh. It's all relative I guess.

 

[Mr.Forte]

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[GrindtooFilthy]

A couple of my uncles are millionaires bruh. They're both married to asian women.

and yet you were homeless for some time in your life?

 

[Mr.Forte]

and yet you were homeless for some time in your life?

My uncles don't give a fukk about me bruh

Them nikkas got rich and got GHOST

QUICK FAST AND IN A HURRY

 

[Mr.Forte]

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[Midrash]

When I was younger the top shelf popular black women made fun of me for being a cornball and an effeminate nerd when I had classmates who were in the 7th grade who looked like they played varsity football at HS.

I use to chase after the top shelf black women but a lot of them now are single mothers bullshyting around or random instagram thots. A lot of the nerdier black kids both male and female, myself included all did something with our lives whether it was the military, college, work, etc. I honestly think it's like that for a lot of people regardless of race. Even in HS I still was able to eat off of the nerdier black girls who thought my awkwardness/dorkiness was "cute".



I FINALLY did get a chance to get with a hot and popular black girl my senior year after struggling so hard those four years of HS to become "cool" but I realized it wasn't worth it and I did a lot of dirt climbing the popularity ladder and cut off some people because they weren't "cool enough".
Not only did the girl have a shytty, bytchy and mean personality(stole cash from her best friend, tried to sleep with another friend's boyfriend before we got together, was a black Regina George, etc) but all the "popular" friends surrounding her were just as cruel/immature if not more-so. There was a few cool people but we had to "keep up appearances" as to not lose any popularity. I definitely regret just focusing on being myself in high school rather than trying to fit in.


It turned out in college that I was a much cooler dude than I thought I was and I didn't have to be somebody I wasn't to fit in because there were 20,000+ students and the popularity ladder climbing was pretty much gone outside of the top frats/sororities. All my friends in college were people who's company I ACTUALLY enjoyed and since there is a lot less pressure to be cool in college, people that probably wouldn't have fukked with me in HS actually became close friends with me on some 21 Jump Street Jenko and Schmidt type of level. I made friends with rich preppy kids, airheaded blondes, jocks, geeky computer science guys, "brahs", party animals, bookworms, freakishly smart people, hardcore tea partiers, very outspoken libertarian, ultra religious, practicing satanist, muslim students, foreign students, the preachy atheist, the ultra rich WASPY students, the hipsters, the herbal tea crowd, the envrionmentalist, the social justice warriors, hardcore rednecks, the "My parents will KILL me if I got a B" asian/indian kids, stoners, regular/plain white kids from the burbs, the creepy dude who would definitely shoot up a school if you had to guess someone, ravers, that annoying ass, loud know-it-all white girl who won't stop raising her hand in class to show how "brilliant" she is(she isn't but no one has the heart to tell her otherwise), the wise ass, the "8 mile" white guy, etc.




I think successful black dudes get jaded from past experiences so they try to get "revenge" for the past. It's a terrible waste of your valuable time playing that silly ass game but some dudes don't care.



The best part is that a lot of the nerdier kids in HS are decently attractive now if not hot so we can't complain about how awful those 4 years turned out to be. Even the geeky 2/10 white chick that looked like Shrek in HS who the white girls would call "fugly" all the time is actually a solid and perfectly smashable 6/10 now working as a Nurse with her BSN.

 

[Malik]

I got played by alot of black chicks growing up

I also got love from alot of black chicks growing up

I don't know where I stand on this issue. I can never say I didn't get love from BW because I did. I guess what I will say is 80% of black women do in fact want a thug. Or they want the bad boy party boy swag dude. Think Trey Songz. Anybody saying otherwise is lying.....straight up. I felt like I had to play those roles growing up too....and I did for a long long time I feel like when I step to black women, I have be crazy fly from head to toe, fresh kicks, spit game, have swag and be larger than life. Whereas a white boy can wear new balances and an old plaid shirt and date Bria Myles. With other women, I've noticed, you can just be a regular dude. It's different.

A good amount of successful black dudes were REAL LAMES (according to black standards) growing up, so they experience the drought the worse. And they grow up with a chip on they shoulder. I probably would too if I didn't get female attention until after college I know a nikka now I went to high school with.....he gots no bytches......whatsoever......nunca.....we was out there getting numbers, buns, all that. Chicks didn't like him. He was into anime, comic books, corny shyt like that. But he was mad funny. Like comedian funny. I thought some chicks would like him because of that but, none did Now at 25, he's married to a white broad and has a daughter. Black women would probably diss him when I personally saw dude go through 4 years of HS without one black chick looking his way

 

[Blackout]

To all the dudes saying that black women didn't want them when they were on the come up and they're still resentful, and that somehow solidifies why they may choose non-black women.

My question is, did non-black women want you when you were on the come up? Or did they just come around when the finished product started looking shiny? And because they're non-black, and you held no resentment toward them, that them not being there either didn't bother you?

Please explain this clearly.

Peace

Non black women wanted me on the come up.

I got ignored by black women in my area cuz they thought I was too nerdy so in my younger days I was with non black women.

I used to resent black women until I realized that its only those in my area who did this because people in my area had the hood mentality. If I never realized this then I would of been a c00n with a white chick right now.

 

[Draje]

To all the dudes saying that black women didn't want them when they were on the come up and they're still resentful, and that somehow solidifies why they may choose non-black women.

My question is, did non-black women want you when you were on the come up? Or did they just come around when the finished product started looking shiny? And because they're non-black, and you held no resentment toward them, that them not being there either didn't bother you?

Please explain this clearly.

Peace

Personally, I was ignored or passed over by the majority of black girls when I was in HS but I wasn't unpopular. White girls, asian girls, and mexican girls were just a lot more accepting of my corniness. I was an ok basketball player but I was an amazing tennis player.

I was a smart, corny dude and other types of chicks were just a lot more accepting of my lame ass so I was bitter. I ended up going to a HBCU and I realized that I was just a lame ass dude who blamed black women but even then....I got a little more confidence and black women noticed more but I still feel it's a little harder for me to get a black women's attention.

Wait a mintue, so dudes are saying that NO BLACK WOMEN AT ALL wanted them when they were broke? That black women only date ballers?

Let's be real. You n#ggas aren't talking about black women in general. No, you're not. You're talking about the Instagram models, the XXL hoes, the wannabe video vixens who clowned, ignored and laughed at your attempts to get in their pants.

Cute, nerdish, suburbanite Ashley wanted you. Yea, she was the Delta who was studing Chemical Enginerring with the slim, non-Coke bottle body and the afro. Oh, she was smiling every time you walked in the library. She sat next to you in class every day. She offered to "come over" and study....even when there was no test. But you didn't want her.

No, you wanted the big booty, DD titty-having, tattos on my neck and back b#tch who shops at the store you worked at part-time while in college. You know, the chick who looked like she just got done at the latest rap video shoot. The one whose social media has pictures that you spend alone time with just you and your bottle of lotion.

Dudes can't tell me black chicks didn't want them. The ones they wanted, and always want, didn't want them.

Newslfash: Those types of black chicks still don't want you. They don't care IT certs. They don't about a $100K 9-5 J-O-B. They don't care about Argygle socks. They don't care about Bitcoin.

So, don't hold your breath on Bria Bette dating Tyrone the Financial Analyst. Or Amber Rose getting with Hakeem the Regional VP of Sales. Or Miracle Watts cupcaking with Jerome the IT Manager.

Those types tend to date pro athletes, entertainers or hustlers. For those types, it's not just about money.....it's about how you get the money and the swag you have. So, no, they're not going to date a CPA even if he's making $250K. And no, they're not going to date an IT Analyst even if he makes $150K. Why? Because those types of women are not impressed by job titles.

And it's not a black thing.....it's a shallow, pumpkinhead b#tch thing.

Peace

Is it so wrong to want the Miracle's, Bette's, or the best that black women have to offer? Yeah, most everyone ends up settling but dang...let us dream that we can get fine females instesd of basic looking broads.

 

[Wild self]

I got played by alot of black chicks growing up

I also got love from alot of black chicks growing up

I don't know where I stand on this issue. I can never say I didn't get love from BW because I did. I guess what I will say is 80% of black women do in fact want a thug. Or they want the bad boy party boy swag dude. Think Trey Songz. Anybody saying otherwise is lying.....straight up. I felt like I had to play those roles growing up too....and I did for a long long time I feel like when I step to black women, I have be crazy fly from head to toe, fresh kicks, spit game, have swag and be larger than life. Whereas a white boy can wear new balances and an old plaid shirt and date Bria Myles. With other women, I've noticed, you can just be a regular dude. It's different.

A good amount of successful black dudes were REAL LAMES (according to black standards) growing up, so they experience the drought the worse. And they grow up with a chip on they shoulder. I probably would too if I didn't get female attention until after college I know a nikka now I went to high school with.....he gots no bytches......whatsoever......nunca.....we was out there getting numbers, buns, all that. Chicks didn't like him. He was into anime, comic books, corny shyt like that. But he was mad funny. Like comedian funny. I thought some chicks would like him because of that but, none did Now at 25, he's married to a white broad and has a daughter. Black women would probably diss him when I personally saw dude go through 4 years of HS without one black chick looking his way

I believe that black brehs in high school who don't have cars have it the worst. You know why? Because you trapped in a HS filled with people that are into other people's business TOO DAMN MUCH. Like, if you got into a fight in a secluded hallway and just ONE person saw it, by the end of the school day everyone will know about it. In a black HS, nikkas talk about swag, fast money, bytches, jail records, and all that soer. Add the fact that most HS students in general are broke and can't travel very far outside their immediate area, you are fukked. No money, no transportation outside of the school bus and public transportation, no game/ experience, same stagnant students, and you feel about life.

When they go to college and start fukking hoes regularly and grow into their own swag, is when some brehs be acting all @ bytches that turned him down years prior.