Why successful black men are a$$holes

[Maximus]

That's what they don't understand. They don't want to put in the work and build with a man. They just want the finished product. But, they don't want to be there as he was grinding toward success.

Successful Black men see right through that phony mess.

They want to be able to ignore the aspiring doctor, engineer, etc when he's building, then jump in after the man has made it over the hurdle, and lay claim to his success and finances without playing any part in helping him build it. But they hate being perceived as golddiggers, though. Go figure.

Did you not understand what I wrote. Why ask me to proofread after you've clearly read it....so annoying.

I still don't understand what you're trying to say. What point are you trying to make?

 

[philmonroe]

Yes. Which is why people should build and come into marriages on comparable financial footing, not looking for upgrades.

I agree with this but its kind of hard because people of differing income levels usually hang in similar places. Its also hard because you get some dudes that know they aren't at a certain level then will be online saying that's the only reason they can't get dates instead of staying in their lane. Women do the same thing too. Point I'm trying to say is people don't want to stay in their lane.

 

[Yup]

Most are. You ask most of these women what they're looking for in a man. Definitely sounds like they want to be upgraded.

They aren't looking to build. They want that "stay-at-home-run-errands" lifestyle of cac women.

Black women just are afraid to articulate that shyt.

lol. So you want a career woman but some men want a housewife.

 

[mamba]

They want to be able to ignore the aspiring doctor, engineer, etc when he's building, then jump in after the man has made it over the hurdle, and lay claim to his success and finances without playing any part in helping him build it. But they hate being perceived as golddiggers, though. Go figure.

It's so demonic, breh.

Successful Black men are free to do whatever they please. Black women feel they are entitled to his money. That's the crux of the argument.

 

[Yup]

Most are. You ask most of these women what they're looking for in a man. Definitely sounds like they want to be upgraded.

They aren't looking to build. They want that "stay-at-home-run-errands" lifestyle of cac women.

Black women just are afraid to articulate that shyt.

You acknowledge here that this is a lifestulyle common among white women. So are these wealthy marrying non-Black wonen who have built with them and are not stay at home wives.
My thing is this...black men will have a list of requirements on what black women should be or do before he can grace them with their presence cause he has a bit change as if black women have not worked most of their lives.
But have none of these expectations when dating other/non-black.

Eg/ oh she needs to know how to cook but marries a woman that can't follow a recipe.

 

[HoloGraphic]

It's so demonic, breh.

Successful Black men are free to do whatever they please. Black women feel they are entitled to his money. That's the crux of the argument.

And when you come up your an a$$hole cause you have attained that freedom and no longer need to answer to crabs.

 

[Yup]

It's so demonic, breh.

Successful Black men are free to do whatever they please. Black women feel they are entitled to his money. That's the crux of the argument.

I disagree that black women feel entitled to black men's money. Too few black men for black women to feel entitled.

 

[mamba]

And when you come up your an a$$hole cause you have attained that freedom and no longer need to answer to crabs.

Yep. I think we forget that a free Black man isn't just a threat to cacs and non-Blacks.

He's also a threat to the Black woman's ego. Successful Black men are Black men that are not easily tamed. We're free to do whatever the fukk we want. That causes a lot of frustration for Black women.

 

[kayslay]

No its not like going back in the past. It's reaching the future. You're the one talking about building a nation. Well, the next generations going to need direction. Grade school and how we treat each other matters.

The youngins are good with burgers and milkshakes. I was dating a 23 year old dental student. She just wanted a place to study and groceries to cook. Mostly I smash them and move on. nikkas not dumb. At that age chicks have alot of growing to do and I'm not getting wrapped up in that. And lol at you knowing 3 women not about shyt but all these young broads tricking 2, 3 older dudes at a time.

I lie too though but I already know there are instances I ain't about shyt. I look young and have a six pack and do the nae nae. I keep my Tinder age at 29 lol

6-8 years younger works. It's really about where you're at in your life and career. In any event 35 year old man >>>> 35 year old woman any day.

I agree with that no doubt.
teaching our kids to value themselves, their communities, and their education is VERY important!
AS for the women, one is my Blood cousin and the other is my childhood friend. My friend has family/financial issues so i refrain from judgement, she just trying to get through school.
I'd say 3-6 years is a better range.
Why do yall insist on comparing yall selves to women?
I never said women were equal to men genetically.
Black women dont have to worry about aging as much as others but im not going to get into that.
But since you and many like you feel like a women over the age of 30 should be thrown to the bushes, what do you suppose the women your age do? date out?
I would say date down but BW already overwhelmingly do that.

 

[mamba]

You acknowledge here that this is a lifestulyle common among white women. So are these wealthy marrying non-Black wonen who have built with them and are not stay at home wives.
My thing is this...black men will have a list of requirements on what black women should be or do before he can grace them with their presence cause he has a bit change as if black women have not worked most of their lives.
But have none of these expectations when dating other/non-black.

Eg/ oh she needs to know how to cook but marries a woman that can't follow a recipe.

Everyone has stupid policies and standards. That's not news.

For example:

Black women's logic says Ray Ray can get the p*ssy freely, as it's just sex and she sees no future with him. But, she'll hold off on giving it up to Roger because he's a catch and she doesn't want him to think she's easy.

Black woman also relax their standards for cac men. We all know this. Black women even date down when dating cac men. We've seen the stats.

 

[kayslay]

Yep. I think we forget that a free Black man isn't just a threat to cacs and non-Blacks.

He's also a threat to the Black woman's ego. Successful Black men are Black men that are not easily tamed. We're free to do whatever the fukk we want. That causes a lot of frustration for Black women.

all that "success" and the biggest fukk you you want to send is not to white supremacy, but to BW?

 

[Maximus]

It's so demonic, breh.

Successful Black men are free to do whatever they please. Black women feel they are entitled to his money. That's the crux of the argument.

I agree that successful Black men are free to be with who they want, when they want, how they want. If you didn't help him get to where he is, then you have no say so over his lifestyle choices - and that includes his choice of woman.

Also, successful Black men have no problem marrying the Black women who actually did ride with them when they were trying to build something; it's always the women who played no part in a Black man's success that do the most complaining about Black men supposedly turning their backs on them.

 

[philmonroe]

A 40 yr old man is old and most will not marry 20-25 yr olds.

True but seriously who you think has a better chance on avg to accomplish this? We all know the answer to that.

Most will not. I simply pointed out the fact that most 40 year old men have more options than 40 year old women.

I agree on avg

 

[Yup]

Yep. I think we forget that a free Black man isn't just a threat to cacs and non-Blacks.

He's also a threat to the Black woman's ego. Successful Black men are Black men that are not easily tamed. We're free to do whatever the fukk we want. That causes a lot of frustration for Black women.

You are trying to piss of the wrong group. And most black women know black men do what they want...its hardly a surprise.

 

[HoloGraphic]

Yep. I think we forget that a free Black man isn't just a threat to cacs and non-Blacks.

He's also a threat to the Black woman's ego. Successful Black men are Black men that are not easily tamed. We're free to do whatever the fukk we want. That causes a lot of frustration for Black women.

It's also very seductive. Women naturally want to trap the free man and be taken on a ride with him. But I ain't mad, those are our women and they should want to be with us. It's only natural.

Envy is bred amongst those that see their perceived inferior rise above them and seek to destroy that which they can never be. Jealousy is one thing, envy is truly an unfortunate trait