Why successful black men are a$$holes

[Scott Larock]

How many blaxl women are waiting for a black man to upgrade her though? Are there even enough black men without a record lest we talk about those with wealth.

I think some of yall gon date down and like it

Yall gonna be rolling through the hood looking for a strong back and triceps, buy this nikka a lawnmower and cut the grass and I hope you good with kids

 

[Yup]

A lot of women are making a lot of money in the United States.

When they enter a marriage, are they putting all their assets on the table?

For the most part, it's still husband's money = family's money. Wife's money = wife's money.

If they are not than they are wrong too. Marriage unites two people into a unit which includes finances....id it becomes a tugowar of this is mine and this is his then the marriage is bound to crumble.

 

[mamba]

What I am saying it's you are married and that is your household income and no longer falls under my money his money. So what's the point of marriage then?

Yes. He can contribute to the household. If you come in with $100K, he can contribute $200K to the household income. The rest is his to do whatever he wants. It's his money.

If you had no input into the amassing of his money, you have no right to it.

If Black women want that, they should build with nikkas early on.

 

[Scott Larock]

A lot of women are making a lot of money in the United States.

When they enter a marriage, are they putting all their assets on the table?

For the most part, it's still husband's money = family's money. Wife's money = wife's money.

Marriage ain't even popping like that no more, I see more freely happy women and men than ever, not everyone is built for that married life. I wouldn't take yup seriously, she might get married and have a change of heart.

 

[Yup]

Seems like enough if they always want to throw a fit when they see a successful Black man with a non-Black woman. We've already established that it's all about the money. Those Black women are mad they didn't get upgraded.

Lol at upgraded. There are barely enough black mwn to go around for relationships, mot black are not waiting on black men to support them. And I am not tryong to diss black men. Many black women who want established blaxk men are professional women who you claim to be past their expiry date because they are 30 or over.

 

[mamba]

If they are not than they are wrong too. Marriage unites two people into a unit which includes finances....id it becomes a tugowar of this is mine and this is his then the marriage is bound to crumble.

Yes. Which is why people should build and come into marriages on comparable financial footing, not looking for upgrades.

 

[Yup]

Yes. He can contribute to the household. If you come in with $100K, he can contribute $200K to the household income. The rest is his to do whatever he wants. It's his money.

If you had no input into the amassing of his money, you have no right to it.

If Black women want that, they should build with nikkas early on.

Interesting.

 

[kayslay]

@Yup , here's a hypothetical for you.

Would those Black women who get angry at the sight of successful Black men with non-Black women stick with him if, once in the relationship, he decided to donate 90% of his wealth to HBCUs, leaving only 10% for himself?

He'd still be the same man, just not as wealthy. Still a good man, good character, etc. and his wealth stays in the Black community.

You keep trying to make this about money like BW havent always dated men of less means.
The better question would be do you think you NON black spouse would?

Yea ma, cursing, lengthy screeds, returning back to cacs again and again - bitter. So young too. I haven't seen too many men itt talking about marrying outside the race as a solution. So again, why the cac refrain?

Also, solutions have been presented. One having each others back early on but you don't like that one because it considers experiences in grade school. And two and it works for most men just marry a younger black chick.

Oh please miss me with your respectability politics!
IIm not bitter, Im sorry i hav to be the one to burst yalls bubble when it comes to women and how we think.
Grade school has passed No ONE on this site is in grade school. we can't erase that past.
that's like saying the solution to slavery and Jim Crow was to go back into to Africa before our Ancestors were captured
I have seen it SEVERAL times on this board and thread you are free to look for you self.
"asian and white women respect and appreciate nerds more so than BW" and variations of that statement have been regurgitated many times on this board.
Its just as big a crock of shyt as when BW claim white men appreciate black beauty more than Black men.
What makes you dudes think women my age are checking for yall like that is beyond me.
yall really think that Jay Z/Beyonce Solange/Husband shyt happens in real life...and yall say BW idolize Beyonce too much. smh
Im not trying to belittle men of a certain age but What was is no longer.
Young chicks dont want to be with no dude 10-15 years older than them for the rest of their lives.
It may be cool for a minute but forever, nah.
That kind of pairing has it's issue once you hit that 5yr mark, That generational gap become very apparent.

Get your shyt together man, i dont want you to be out here on that Still trying to pick up chicks.
My cousin and one of my friends play old men like that for their money all the while having 2-3 dudes their age that they fukk with.
It's a generational thing not a BW thing btw. We are in the sugar baby generation.

 

[mamba]

Lol at upgraded. There are barely enough black mwn to go around for relationships, mot black are not waiting on black men to support them. And I am not tryong to diss black men. Many black women who want established blaxk men are professional women who you claim to be past their expiry date because they are 30 or over.

There are enough good Black men to go around. There aren't enough wealthy Black men to go around. That's the root of the frustration for Black women.

Established Black men aren't trying to wife up women past their primes. No man of any group wants that.

 

[Yup]

Yes. Which is why people should build and come into marriages on comparable financial footing, not looking for upgrades.

What you are talking about is barely an issue among black communities. I can aee if we are talking about chinese or even indians, etc...but blacks, nope.

 

[Yup]

There are enough good Black men to go around. There aren't enough wealthy Black men to go around. That's the root of the frustration for Black women.

Established Black men aren't trying to wife up women past their primes. No man of any group wants that.

First it is insulting to talk about primes as if women become expired after a certain age. Womem and men should marry at a suitable age. A 40-45 year old man getting married is old I don't care how much money he has. I have no interest in marrying someobe 10-15 years my senior. Some women do but lets mot be delusional and act it's the norm.

 

[mamba]

First it is insulting to talk about primes as if women become expired after a certain age. Womem and men should marry at a suitable age. A 40-45 year old man getting married is old I don't care how much money he has. I have no interest in marrying someobe 10-15 years my senior. Some women do but lets mot be delusional and act it's the norm.

Women progressively lose the ability to reproduce once they hit a certain age. That's the closest thing to an expiration date we have in the human form, brehette.

Men have the freedom to marry when we please. Women don't determine what's a suitable age for men, as we control the proposing part of the process.

 

[Maximus]

Yes. Whatever he brought into the marriage is his.

Are you saying women are owed a man's assets?

That's why a Black woman should find a man to build with, not expect a nikka who has already made it to upgrade her.

When you build together, assets are shared. That's clear.

If I come into the marriage with $10 million and you come in with $100K, are you saying you should have a say over my $10 million?

A lot of women are making a lot of money in the United States.

When they enter a marriage, are they putting all their assets on the table?

For the most part, it's still husband's money = family's money. Wife's money = wife's money.

Yes. He can contribute to the household. If you come in with $100K, he can contribute $200K to the household income. The rest is his to do whatever he wants. It's his money.

If you had no input into the amassing of his money, you have no right to it.

If Black women want that, they should build with nikkas early on.

Yes. Which is why people should build and come into marriages on comparable financial footing, not looking for upgrades.

This. Too many chicks interested in riding the gravy train, but don't want to put in any work to get there. What's mine is mine and what's yours is yours. 50/50, right, ladies?

 

[mamba]

First it is insulting to talk about primes as if women become expired after a certain age. Womem and men should marry at a suitable age. A 40-45 year old man getting married is old I don't care how much money he has. I have no interest in marrying someobe 10-15 years my senior. Some women do but lets mot be delusional and act it's the norm.

40 year old men get married all the time. Quite often, it's their 2nd or 3rd marriage. A woman at 40 has a very difficult time remarrying. It's just nature, brehette.

 

[Yup]

That's why a Black woman should find a man to build with, not expect a nikka who has already made it to upgrade her.

When you build together, assets are shared. That's clear.

If I come into the marriage with $10 million and you come in with $100K, are you saying you should have a say over my $10 million?

Y'all acting like black women are preying black men with money just because they are displeased that wealthy black men are marrying non black. Again you've got rhe wrobg race of women. Black women are not waiting on black men to fund their lifestyles. There are more non black trophy wives than blaxk ones. I see nothing with black women wanting a wealthy husband. I don't understand why blacl men feel that black women should only accept broke men.