Why successful black men are a$$holes

[PFranco]

Lol shut your dumbass up.

 

[PFranco]

That's BS Im in my "early " 20s and dudes my age dont want to build a damn thing they want to fukk as many women as possible.
i know that, and you know it too!
You BSing nobody having fun doing dikks, BW are trying to solidify their future just in case that Black Knight don't show up.
It seems to me like BM are trying to out do Black women more so than build with them.
The way yall talk about BW and frame the conversation like ALL unmarried/Uninvolved Black women over 30 are ex Hoes is not only dishonest, but disrespectful.
You have SEVERAL men in this VERY thread saying how they pass over quality BW of ALL ages, for no good reason.
Most women i know are Awesome, and Im not just saying that because i know them.
out of my entire family/friends i only know 4 women that really aint shyt at their core.
Framing the conversation as YOU have to convince him to marry you is BS and you know it!
You can be the PERFECT women and then some, it doesnt matter.
Men have always had the power to decide when to get married. You even said it yourself that MOST men simple DONT want to!

I live in the Bay Area and study computer science, holla at me in a couple of years I will treat you fine, chocolate.

 

[mamba]

That's BS Im in my "early " 20s and dudes my age dont want to build a damn thing they want to fukk as many women as possible.
i know that, and you know it too!
You BSing nobody having fun doing dikks, BW are trying to solidify their future just in case that Black Knight don't show up.
It seems to me like BM are trying to out do Black women more so than build with them.
The way yall talk about BW and frame the conversation like ALL unmarried/Uninvolved Black women over 30 are ex Hoes is not only dishonest, but disrespectful.
You have SEVERAL men in this VERY thread saying how they pass over quality BW of ALL ages, for no good reason.
Most women i know are Awesome, and Im not just saying that because i know them.
out of my entire family/friends i only know 4 women that really aint shyt at their core.
Framing the conversation as YOU have to convince him to marry you is BS and you know it!
You can be the PERFECT women and then some, it doesnt matter.
Men have always had the power to decide when to get married. You even said it yourself that MOST men simple DONT want to!

No. There are dudes in their early 20s who want to build. They connect with women who want the same thing and they get married. Most women who make it to 30 and have never been married usually have some underlying issues. Men typically wife up a quality woman.

Just because you say you know awesome women doesn't make them awesome. Men ultimately decide if they're awesome enough to wife up.

Until women start courting men and proposing, men will always have that power.

 

[Opus]

That's BS Im in my "early " 20s and dudes my age dont want to build a damn thing they want to fukk as many women as possible.
i know that, and you know it too!
You BSing nobody having fun doing dikks, BW are trying to solidify their future just in case that Black Knight don't show up.
It seems to me like BM are trying to out do Black women more so than build with them.
The way yall talk about BW and frame the conversation like ALL unmarried/Uninvolved Black women over 30 are ex Hoes is not only dishonest, but disrespectful.
You have SEVERAL men in this VERY thread saying how they pass over quality BW of ALL ages, for no good reason.
Most women i know are Awesome, and Im not just saying that because i know them.
out of my entire family/friends i only know 4 women that really aint shyt at their core.
Framing the conversation as YOU have to convince him to marry you is BS and you know it!
You can be the PERFECT women and then some, it doesnt matter.
Men have always had the power to decide when to get married. You even said it yourself that MOST men simple DONT want to!

Oh my you're bitter for a young one.

I'm going to give you some unsolicited advice. The dude whose nose you get wide open and your first instinct is oh that's nice but he likes me too much and oh I don't know I don't think so. You know, that guy? If he looks halfway decent, has ambition, and is nice, keep him around and see what happens.

 

[mamba]

Seriously. They keep blaming cacs. It's the young jawns that have their shyt together that are making it hard for brehettes.

It's always the chicks in their late 20s or early 30s writing these blogs and shyt about the lack of good Black men.

If you ask those Black women to give you a rundown of their early 20s, they will admit that there were a few nikkas who wanted to wife them up and build. If a woman isn't wifed up by 30, it's usually her fault. Unfortunately, it gets progressively more difficult for them once they hit 30. Men aren't rushing to marry 30+ year old chicks like that.

They know she's going to want to have kids almost immediately to beat the shot clock, which will kill the romance and fun in the marriage almost immediately. Most men aren't trying to deal with all that.

 

[Opus]

It's always the chicks in their late 20s or early 30s writing these blogs and shyt about the lack of good Black men.

If you ask those Black women to give you a rundown of their early 20s, they will admit that there were a few nikkas who wanted to wife them up and build. If a woman isn't wifed up by 30, it's usually her fault. Unfortunately, it gets progressively more difficult for them once they hit 30. Men are rushing to marry 30+ year old chicks like that.

They know she's going to want to have kids almost immediately to beat the shot clock, which will kill the romance and fun in the marriage almost immediately. Most men aren't trying to deal with all that.

Seriously, I'm 35. I got my Tinder limit at 28. It's too much pressure dating chicks any older. 2nd date . . . Do you want kids? Smash. Where is this going? I dont just want to have empty sex : "BEEN THERE DONE THAT" hahaha. Hmm. Interesting. It's pretty pathetic. Date a young chick and shyts just fun. Not that I don't want serious at some point, but let's get basic compatibility out the way. It takes more time than alot of older chicks have to spend. It's like they can't blow 6 months and go nowhere and be peace. That's six less eggs.

 

[mamba]

@Yup , here's a hypothetical for you.

Would those Black women who get angry at the sight of successful Black men with non-Black women stick with him if, once in the relationship, he decided to donate 90% of his wealth to HBCUs, leaving only 10% for himself?

He'd still be the same man, just not as wealthy. Still a good man, good character, etc. and his wealth stays in the Black community.

 

[mamba]

Seriously, I'm 35. I got my Tinder limit at 28. It's too much pressure dating chicks any older. 2nd date . . . Do you want kids? Smash. Where is this going? I dont just want to have empty sex : "BEEN THERE DONE THAT" hahaha. Hmm. Interesting. It's pretty pathetic. Date a young chick and shyts just fun. Not that I don't want serious at some point, but let's get basic compatibility out the way. It takes more time than alot of older chicks have to spend. It's like they can't blow 6 months and go nowhere and be peace. That's six less eggs.

Those "where is this going" conversations are much more frequent and happen much earlier in the courting process when you're dealing with a 30+ woman. They know their time is running out.

 

[kayslay]

Oh my you're bitter for a young one.

I'm going to give you some unsolicited advice. The dude whose nose you get wide open and your first instinct is oh that's nice but he likes me too much and oh I don't know I don't think so. You know, that guy? If he looks halfway decent, has ambition, and is nice, keep him around and see what happens.

Im bitter, really?
you mfs kill me with your projections on this board.
you mfs have a whole thread dedicated to justifying your emotional abuse to BW because of a few chicks that passed you up in grade school, but IM bitter?
I have no reason to be bitter sweet heart, if i take an L or two in life i accept it and move on.

Even if my current boo tweaks on me i KNOW it's more dudes out there!
If not I can more to Africa and get married lmfao
Seriously this is a crucial time in the Black community, the decisions made now will have the greatest effect on our community more so than the crack epidemic.
Community leaders and builders are needed now more so than ever.
You can't complain about how hard it is as a black man to network and gain success then applaud the few Black men with power when they give that power away.
We cant keep doing this same song and dance then wonder why we have stifled growth as a community.
I want my future kids to marry black and continue on the AA legacy.
So when I see shyt like this thread it annoys the hell out of me because most of these people will have kids and pass these idiotic thoughts onto them about Black people.
hell some of them wont even create black kids but that's a conversation for another day.

Since we have Identified the problem why can't we move towards a solution?
Marrying a Non Black has not and will never be the answer.

 

[Yup]

@Yup , here's a hypothetical for you.

Would those Black women who get angry at the sight of successful Black men with non-Black women stick with him if, once in the relationship, he decided to donate 90% of his wealth to HBCUs, leaving only 10% for himself?

He'd still be the same man, just not as wealthy. Still a good man, good character, etc. and his wealth stays in the Black community.

Would any woman be ok with a man donating 90% of his wealth without her consent? Why are you making rmthis a black female specific issue. Why would you give that much money when you can oass it on to your children?
It's most like you are indirectly saying black women have no right to be with black wealthy men. Only non black women can enjoy wealth.

 

[Yup]

Seriously, I'm 35. I got my Tinder limit at 28. It's too much pressure dating chicks any older. 2nd date . . . Do you want kids? Smash. Where is this going? I dont just want to have empty sex : "BEEN THERE DONE THAT" hahaha. Hmm. Interesting. It's pretty pathetic. Date a young chick and shyts just fun. Not that I don't want serious at some point, but let's get basic compatibility out the way. It takes more time than alot of older chicks have to spend. It's like they can't blow 6 months and go nowhere and be peace. That's six less eggs.

Dang 35? Despite what y'all may think even men have an age limit.

 

[Opus]

Im bitter, really?
you mfs kill me with your projects on this board.
you mfs have a whole thread dedicated to justifying your emotional abuse to BW because of a few chicks that passed you up in grade school, but IM bitter?
I have no reason to be bitter sweet heart, if i take an L or two in life i accept it and move on.

Even if my current boo tweaks on me i KNOW it's more dudes out there!
If not I can more to Africa and get married lmfao
Seriously this is a crucial time in the Black community, the decisions made now will have the greatest effect on our community more so than the crack epidemic.
Community leaders and builders are needed now more so than ever.
You can't complain about how hard it is as a black man to network and gain success then applaud the few Black men with power when they give that power away.
We cant keep doing this same song and dance then wonder why we have stifled growth as a community.
I want my future kids to marry black and continue on the AA legacy.
So when I see shyt like this thread it annoys the hell out of me because most of these people will have kids and pass these idiotic thoughts onto them about Black people.
hell some of them wont even create black kids but that's a conversation for another day.

Since we have Identified the problem why can't we move towards a solution?
Marrying a Non Black has not and will never be the answer.

Yea ma, cursing, lengthy screeds, returning back to cacs again and again - bitter. So young too. I haven't seen too many men itt talking about marrying outside the race as a solution. So again, why the cac refrain?

Also, solutions have been presented. One having each others back early on but you don't like that one because it considers experiences in grade school. And two and it works for most men just marry a younger black chick.

 

[Yup]

Those "where is this going" conversations are much more frequent and happen much earlier in the courting process when you're dealing with a 30+ woman. They know their time is running out.

Any woman that has any sense young or old should know the status of her relationship. Why she chooses to do with that knowledge is hers and hers alone.

 

[mamba]

Would any woman be ok with a man donating 90% of his wealth without her consent? Why are you making rmthis a black female specific issue. Why would you give that much money when you can oass it on to your children?
It's most like you are indirectly saying black women have no right to be with black wealthy men. Only non black women can enjoy wealth.

Consent? It's his money.

That's got to be the most hilarious thing I've read, today.

 

[Yup]

Consent? It's his money.

That's got to be the most hilarious thing I've read, today.

I am talking in a marriage.