Why successful black men are a$$holes

[Yup]

Black women are just more blatant and short term with it, they want money upfront i.e. expensive drinks and meals, bills paid. Non-black golddiggers play the long con, they want to get married and get half.

I agree with you. And out of the two situations where does the men stand to lose more?
Shoot Id take the women who show me who they are from the beginning than the one who will string me along.

 

[Yup]

Gotta step out, this was a real ass thread... many cats can relate to this shyt alot of sisters do.

Truthfully average nikkas are better off dating non black, they'll appreciate you more since they socialize at a lower level, real talk let's keep it 100.

I go to a black event, everthing is about the grown and "established" whites and others just party to party, nikkas gotta show off to the world they got something.

Let's be blunt, we gotta get over that shyt, if you a average nikka, don't even bother

Ok, I wish you the best.

 

[Opus]

I look at my past and black women of my generation have hurt me and acted as obstacles. Honest to god truth. Black women 10-40 years older have given me jobs, cared for me, and looked out. If it wasn't for them, I probably would not be very loyal to black women. I keep looking for them nurturing ones but it's hard brehs. Success is double edged because it's so easy I probably unfairly dismiss people

 

[Kenny West]

@Reality hit it on the head

A lot of young black women....at least majority of the attractive ones have a type....the same way men like pretty girls with curves, breasts and booty....they like bad boys/swagged up dudes. I have a theory that BW don't care for the middle guys. They want one end or the other end. Extreme polarity. On one end is the rich ballers. They can be rappers, athletes, actors, doctors, lawyers, the lames they dissed before who are now successful. Any black dude with money. On the other end are the broke dudes. They broke as fukk but, they fulfill a physical requirement they crave. They have a big dikk. They're a bad boy. They have the arrogant swag they love. They're handsome. These dudes are broke but, fulfill one of those requirements. BW deal in polarity....rich nikka or poor bad boy. Now........the middle guys. The average guys. The nikkas who don't fit the status quo for what a black man is supposed to be is shyt out of luck. He's a lame. He doesn't have the natural physical qualities black women crave (thugs, bad boys, pretty boys, swag boys). The only chance he has is to come up financially but, that's years away. My theory is ALOT of black men fall into "the middle guy" zone which is why you hear so many successful black guys say the same story.

As others have said, it's much much easier for that average middle guy to get a woman of another race. She sees your potential. She's not tryna to date the next Wiz Khalifa. A lot of things that's lame to our women is normal to them. I'm rambling now but, I want to add this, I remember one of my roommates had a girl. Let's call him Lamont. The girl he was seeing looked like Victoria Allure (porn broad). My roommate was the kinda cat a lot chicks would love. Player. Arrogant. Swag. Anyway, girl was head over heels for him. She'd come over and cook all us (4 suite mates) dinner. She'd vacuum clean the spot. She'd buy that nikka shiit all the time. I remember asking him where his girl was at once and he was like "don't call that bytch my girl nikka We just cool". This broad would bend over backward for duke and obviously thought they were in a relationship while this nikka could care less. I looked at her with disgust eventually cuz I know she gonna be that chick that says nikkas ain't shyt or there's no good men 10 years from now when she spent her prime chasing dudes like him. No shade being thrown at my roommate. I ain't want her. I forgot her name already. It just made me disgusted nonetheless. And I hate when chicks lie online like we don't be around y'all everyday and see how y'all move.

This whole post full of that real but if the bolded aint some of the trillest shyt

I look at the shyt some of these chicks on this site post like who are you kidding. I just feel sorry for the nikkas on here who buy that shyt

I look at my past and black women of my generation have hurt me and acted as obstacles. Honest to god truth. Black women 10-40 years older have given me jobs, cared for me, and looked out. If it wasn't for them, I probably would not be very loyal to black women. I keep looking for them nurturing ones but it's hard brehs. Success is double edged because it's so easy I probably unfairly dismiss people

IDK how a successful dude manages to find someone to settle down with. Though I haven't experienced it myself, only second hand, but when you get on that successful level the game really changes to some shooting fish in a barrel shyt. No chasing, no flakes, no getting chose over, no attitudes etc. My rap homie showed me his FB inbox when he was starting to bubble. It was chicks that curved THAT WEEK in that jawn dikkeating hard.

It's like how how can you trust one when all of them all playing nice for the same reason? How can you buy the sweet innocent act when you know how it really was before you were the bait? Guess that's why nikkas just run through them

 

[Yup]

I look at my past and black women of my generation have hurt me and acted as obstacles. Honest to god truth. Black women 10-40 years older have given me jobs, cared for me, and looked out. If it wasn't for them, I probably would not be very loyal to black women. I keep looking for them nurturing ones but it's hard brehs. Success is double edged because it's so easy I probably unfairly dismiss people

The responses in the problack thread makes sense now. I also see why many black women don't like to deal with black men as well...there's definitely hurt on both sides. But so much so to cape for other races?
People can only speak from their experiences and if I let mt experience dictate who I allow in my life than I wouldn't associate with young black men at all romantically.

 

[Yup]

This whole post full of that real but if the bolded aint some of the trillest shyt

I look at the shyt some of these chicks on this site post like who are you kidding. I just feel sorry for the nikkas on here who buy that shyt



IDK how a successful dude manages to find someone to settle down with. Though I haven't experienced it myself, only second hand, but when you get on that successful level the game really changes to some shooting fish in a barrel shyt. No chasing, no flakes, no getting chose over, no attitudes etc. My rap homie showed me his FB inbox when he was starting to bubble. It was chicks that curved THAT WEEK in that jawn dikkeating hard.

It's like how how can you trust one when all of them all playing nice for the same reason? How can you buy the sweet innocent act when you know how it really was before you were the bait? Guess that's why nikkas just run through them

That's the same face I make when I see what is being posted full of bs and duck tales.

 

[Ohene]

I consider myself a successful black man, but I've never had issues getting with black women even when I had nothing. I think the problem is delusion on both sides. Women thinking looks alone should bring them a wealthy man, when there are way more pretty girls than rich men. Men thinking money can get women, then getting mad when they use money to attract women and only catch golddiggers.

I always think about one of my friends, who never has girls and his money aint right. He was like "yo when i get a nice car like you imma have all the bytches too". No, your just going to be a nikka with no bytches in a benz. When we go out, he wants the baddest girl and never gets her, then gets frustrated and starts bytching all night about black women aint shyt.

To both women and men, it's time to be honest with yourself. Maybe the problem isn't everyone else, maybe it's you.

good post

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Gotta step out, this was a real ass thread... many cats can relate to this shyt alot of sisters do.

Truthfully average nikkas are better off dating non black, they'll appreciate you more since they socialize at a lower level, real talk let's keep it 100.

I go to a black event, everthing is about the grown and "established" whites and others just party to party, nikkas gotta show off to the world they got something.

Let's be blunt, we gotta get over that shyt, if you a average nikka, don't even bother

Pathetic

 

[GoPro]

I really hope you dudes are trolling with all this white/asian woman worship, as if their shyt don't stink. You think dime white/asian women are chasing ugly/lame men (especially black men) with "potential"? Yea, they'll hook a football stud in college, but other than that they are no different than the black women yall lambaste. The majority of dimes of any race wants either a dude with money or one with swag

Thread is one big clusterfukk of

 

[Dr. Acula]

22 pages made in relation to this shytty threadstarter? Damn.. This thread is wack as fukk.

 

[philmonroe]

It's always oh my white girlfriend/asian girlfriend saw my potential but black woman were ghost when I had nothing.
Then you ask him when you met the girl, after he has already made it but she's average but the black girl has to be a stunner to get any consideration. Lol

Yeah this happens when most dudes was probably unattractive, insecure, etc before having the bread which got them more confident.

All the successful brothers I know, who are not in relationships with the ones they came up with, are on mode.

They go on dates/meet women and inside they're just

I'm getting there myself. I cut this chick off last week cause she questioned where I parked when we went out to Navy Pier.

Her: Why you park right here? You couldn't park on the 3rd level?

Me: Get in the car. *deletes number while driving*

I aint even think twice about her once i dropped her off, then I pulled up to the gas station and another one struck up a conversation with me about my car, and put her number in my phone. Wants to come over and cook for me and go to The Art Institute later.

It's a revolving door now, and I know it's got nothing to do with me, it's the things I have. I didn't have these things 10 years ago. I was fresh out of HS and broke.

Now, I'm turning into an asshhole and Im getting away with it because there's an endless amount of women in this city and they're socialites who only care about appearances/vanity.

Hopefully I get a grip before I turn into old boy from the Best Buy thread. I'm already cutting chicks off over parking spaces and dinner selections. But there's always another one ready to replace them, so until that changes, I'll keep envying the ones that got their queens already.

No fronting they love is on another level, but the GMB movement is staring me down too. I don't want to end up on the wrong side of that situation either.


shyt is just internally taxing, and I don't know what the answer is.

Honestly you sound like a lame that got success and that made you feel more important than you are. I don't know you just going off this post. I mean who getting rid of chicks over parking spots and shyt? That's some ole power tripping stuff that usually comes from cats that's just starting to have that option to do something. Sounds like before you would have put up with her stuff but since you hot right now you smelling yourself. Good for you but the answer you seek is stop being bitter and treat people how you'd want to be treated. Guarantee if a chick did you like that esp before you got all confident you be bytching probably starting a thread complaining how women ain't shyt or some other dumb shyt.

Bullshyt. I never needed a dime. Cute always been good enough for me. Alot of good black men don't get women until AFTER they're successful and AFTER the woman has had her fun and her b*stard children. 70% of black children are born to single mothers. That's fact. I know 83% of black men are marrying black women. You're not teaching me anything. We know that. But I bet a good number of those men are putting up with hella baggage. Statistics say so. Don't bullshyt me. I'm 26. Most the (black) girls my age have baggage. Bytches hella ran through. Don't bullshyt me I can have one of them too if I wanted....they on me every time I go to church.....stop acting like BW are this rare commodity .....I just have no desire to raise your b*stard children or be a rest haven for a girl who would've acted like she was too good at 19/20. I'm open to meeting a good black chick though. The problem is finding an attractive black chick (that's not ran through) that's childless, not overweight, reasonably educated, isn't crazy, cooks/cleans, loyal and doesn't have unrealistic standards is like finding a fukking unicorn. Unless you're on a college campus. But you can easily find this in "other women"

A lot of black men don't get that woman you speak of before because they are some mix of unattractive and insecure period. You can get nice look or "cute" girls before you make it but some dudes like to over compensate then try to blame it on women for things they did to themselves. You sound like one of them dudes what your problems unattractive and now girls giving you play so you skeptical, money still not right, insecure to the point that its fukking you up with girls,what? It never fails when I hear a dude or chick speaking all this stuff it comes back to some previous hurt that they haven't let go yet.

OP is dancing on the line of fukkboy but this is a real ass thread.

It's not just the women. (they are the main culprits tho) but black folk in general be on this bullshyt. Basically if it ain't tangible or material nikkas don't fukk with you. If you on the come up EVERYONE doubts you. If you aren't rich or wasting your money pretending to be rich then folks label you broke. Nobody respects the journey, most are hoping you fail or are trying to drag you down with them. This is why so many black folk turn their back on the "community" when they make it. nikkas asking you to "give back" to the community when the only thing the community gave you was hate.


As far as the women go, birds gonan chase the material shyt. Cause that's what they do. nikkas will on here heavy for their interests, but you know it's wrong and fake, I know it's wrong and fake. No point in trying to change em, just get rich and dog em out

We usually agree but on this one not so much. Moreso that's just human nature in general on most of the stuff you said. Maybe you don't have many friends of different races but if you do you'd see the same shyt happens with them too regarding that whole first paragraph. Its also what type of circle a person hangs in also. If you kicking it with the tree hugging group that material shyt don't matter (some other stuff we could care less about will though) but if you hang around the avg group material stuff is a big thing. As far as dogging women out that sounds like words of a person that didn't have success with women honestly. Why would somebody want to dog a chick/dude out? That's some hurt stuff cats gotta get right before dating. If the relationship don't work it don't work but I'm not in the dogging chicks out business but I also think that comes from not having bitterness towards them. We usually agree so I know this just one of them things that just happens since nobody agrees 100% of the time.

I consider myself a successful black man, but I've never had issues getting with black women even when I had nothing. I think the problem is delusion on both sides. Women thinking looks alone should bring them a wealthy man, when there are way more pretty girls than rich men. Men thinking money can get women, then getting mad when they use money to attract women and only catch golddiggers.

I always think about one of my friends, who never has girls and his money aint right. He was like "yo when i get a nice car like you imma have all the bytches too". No, your just going to be a nikka with no bytches in a benz. When we go out, he wants the baddest girl and never gets her, then gets frustrated and starts bytching all night about black women aint shyt.

To both women and men, it's time to be honest with yourself. Maybe the problem isn't everyone else, maybe it's you.

Yeah I don't think people are honest with themselves esp online. Its too much victim stuff going on. I was wronged so I'm going to take it out on everybody that comes after flow. Cats need to get their mentality in order

I didn't quote it but @Emperor_ReinScarf most dudes aren't happy to have no fukking civic. Stop the lies and the quickest way to prove that bullshyt wrong is ask anybody if money was no option how would you live? Bet driving a Civic isn't a popular answer at all. That's some ole slackers dream life.

 

[Yup]

Aren't you a troll poster?

I only deal with college educated/ professional/entrepreneurial women, from all sides of the city and surrounding suburbs. I'm not fukking with hood rats,no way.

There are some malicious dudes out here though, that's another story, my attitude is based more off of reception. I'm not out to get back at or play anybody.

I am no troll

 

[Draje]

For emphasis....directing to you @Draje

I get attractive white chicks and latinas as an average, corny dude so why change it up?

I'm never not gonna be a tennis playing corny dude with a baby face so I'll focus on woman who are attracted to me.

If I got the choice between cute non-black vs. average black chicks...

 

[Ohene]

this thread \has gotten way too out of hand. it isnt that serious

 

[Opus]

As double HBCU I've always been around black chick's so it's always been easier to be with them. In high school I was around whites but I shut them down. I've always had choices and fans but seemed to have trouble nabbing the ones I really desired. At some point that changed.

It really is quite ridiculous these days. 23-44 are my self imposed limits. In my mind I want to marry a chick under 30 so I'm really wasting chick's time. As a breh you really have to have focus out here.

I'm scared I'm going to fukk around and miss capitalizing on my peak. I stay exercising and eating right to extend my prime. I'm scared if I go too young the chick will change on me. If I go too old won't get as many kids as I want or that youthfulness I like.

It's like a playground out here brehs. I'm not bitter, but brehs just want to have fun. Brehettes did too at some point, but around 28 shyt gets serious for them. I sympathize but didn't quite share the urgency