We know it aint happening like that because the highest intermarriage group is white and Hispanics.
Statements like "expand your options" "date white men" are disingenuous because it's always from a position that Black Women are the only group of women available for white men and as if White, Hispanic and Asian women don't exist and aren't also in competition for the same men.
For this to work Black Women have to hold the highest value for their buyer (white men) compared to other currencies (white, Hispanic, Asian women)
Black Women are the weakest compared to the others. So finding marriage is still going to be difficult regardless.
White Men deciding not to marry Black Woman isn't happening because Black Women say "no I'm only interested in brehs". It's happening because The Average white man is not interested in Black Women in the first place.
This is more likely to still leave black women alone, single and without a marriage.
But is the bolded really the position it’s coming from? I think the argument is that only focusing on one group of men limits your options as opposed to being open to all men. Once your open to all, the number of options increase and there isnt the same fierce competition as it is for a small pool of men.
statistically speaking there are a significant number of wm in this country. There is actually a large enough pool of wm, that wm are over represented on dating sites, in the workplace, and even in certain cities where there are more men than women.
I recall when I visited Williston ND, I saw an equal number of bm married to ww, as I saw wm married to bw. I saw some black couples, but far more IR on both sides, that area had a good amount of black people (more than I thought). The wm were hollering and approaching very aggressively.
I realized that in certain areas of this country where there are far more of them, and fewer of us, it’s far more likely for black people to date and marry them based on sheer proximity and abundance. But that’s only if the black person isn’t set on only dating and marrying other black people.
Every year a list of cities where there are more men than women is published, but that surplus is always about the population of wm. If a bw lives in an area where there are more men than woman and she is open to any race of man she actually has less competition because of the surplus of men compared to women.
Even if she doesn’t live in those areas, in many locations across the USA there are far more wm than bm. she is actually facing less competition being open to all races of men than by only going for a much smaller pool of men(bm).
to illustrate, say in given community of single men there are 10 bm, 100 wm, 8 Asian men, 6 Latino men. If she only focuses on those 10 men, because they are low in number, she has to hope that she can appeal to at least one of those ten men. Meanwhile those ten men are dating bw and nonbw, so she’s competing with a lot of women for a smaller number of men—that makes competition fierce for those men.
But if she were to be open to every race of men—her chances go from just a pool of 10 to 124. So she’s still competing, but now she’s competing for a larger pool of men.
The thing is, if we are using dating surveys to assess who wm value the most it is true that they date and marry other groups more than bw. But the same can be said for Brehs. Based on the surveys y’all are not desired as partners by anyone but bw, but despite that, it isn’t stopping y’all from dating, proposing and marrying other women, and isn’t stopping those other women from giving you chance and saying yes when you do propose even if they generally don’t prefer you. Those other women prefer wm, and Hispanic men over you, creating more competition for you to appeal to them over others. Yet knowing that they aren’t even interested in y’all very much, somehow, someway, by going for every woman instead of just bw, y’all are able to secure relationships and marriages with them.
The author advocates for bw to follow that approach. Does it mean every wm will propose? No. But he’s telling bw to put themselves in a position to be open to all races of men to increase their chances of marriage(whether that be with white, brown, yellow, or black).
Save your outrage for him. He wasn’t asked to write that article or that book, he did both on his own.
