Why is it so hard for some Dudes to get laid

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

It should just happen, no effort (or perceivable, contrived effort). if it doesn't happen, so be it. Life goes on...

 

[Ohene]

You're a hopeless case if you can't get p*ssy in this current times. We're in the era of "sexual liberation" women are giving it up faster than any other time period.

I'm as awkward as they come in social settings (loner/introvert) and I pull my fair share. You just have to drop the controller, get out the crib and socialize. As long as you're in shape and don't come off as a sex offender, someone will find you attractive.

guess im hopeless

 

[acri1]

Mainly it's just that a lot of people (probably including myself) just don't leave out of the crib enough and find socializing to be too much work.

I've been told that based on looks, I should easily be able to pull women, but I really only do occasionally mainly because I'm a homebody and don't really get out enough. Is what it is.

 

[sang_bleu]

I feel like it is more lame dudes getting laid.
Having sex is one thing but making love is another

 

[Kenny West]

How does the lust for casual sex correlate to this? human beings don't engage in casual sex (which is what op wants) to reproduce. They do it to satisfy the flesh.

you don't understand because you don't have a dikk

contrary to what people say it has less to do with ego, but it's like a feeling that compels a dude to seek sex. It's a very strong drive/instinct and when it isn't met you get a feeling like you gotta take a bad piss deep down. thats why a lotta nikkas masturbate, that feeling can get unbearable, read the no porn no fap thread if you don't believe me.

You probably wont understand till the first time you get dikkmatized and you leaving back to back messages on nikkas phone n shyt

Really?

I'm glad I don't live in that planet lol.

 

[LordTaskForce]

I think the availability of pornography in the high speed internet age has helped to blunt the pursuits of the modern male when it comes to the opposite sex. Nowadays a lot of men are lazy and resigned to just log on to xhamster and wack it, rather than expose themselves to the potential of rejection, emotional discomfort, financial considerations and the overall effort it takes to bag a nice looking girl and keep her:

http://yourbrainonporn.com/comedian-bill-maher-on-pornography

Of course you have cats that just arent good looking or outgoing enough to pull, but that goes without saying.

I'm gonna go ahead a disagree with you for once. Some dudes are just lame in the eyes of women. Its been that way since the beginning of time. Not everyone is charming, good looking, and has charisma. If you have those qualities you are just made in life. But i think it all comes back to confidence and self esteem.

 

[TRY GOD]

It should just happen, no effort (or perceivable, contrived effort). if it doesn't happen, so be it. Life goes on...

This 100%

Some men Are introverted, yet can hold a conversation like tavis smiley.

Some dudes are quiet, yet got more swag and confidence in their stride, than the most arrogant nikkas

If a person is not being themselves in the pursuit of getting laid, then you are satisfying only the weakest part of who you are.

 

[YouMadd?]

Women are like a job interview.
You don't go into it coming off as if you need this job.
You act like the job needs you in order to become a better company.

This is funny because with my job I always consider it the same as trying to get a female. Acting like I need a client and his/her attention will more than likely push them away.

 

[Ohene]

Mainly it's just that a lot of people (probably including myself) just don't leave out of the crib enough and find socializing to be too much work.

I've been told that based on looks, I should easily be able to pull women, but I really only do occasionally mainly because I'm a homebody and don't really get out enough. Is what it is.

yea I probably dont either lately. I really only been going to the gym, work and back lately and its all within a small radius

 

[YouMadd?]

Please, shut the fukk up.

Seriously.

MOST men don't have options.

disagree, most man have options. The problem is a lot of times, these men are not picking up on signals from the women that would actually give them a shot.

 

[Bawon Samedi]

nikkas who don't get laid are nikkas who really not applying themselves. Getting p*ssy is like hunting and if you not gonna hunt you not gonna eat plain and simply.

Yep I was like this in HS and a bit last year. But now Im like this:

And it works. Just party a lot and talk to as many girls as you can(like filling out many job applications). It works for me.

 

[TheBeigeBomber]

ive never met a girl who can smoke anywhere near as much as me amateurs tapping out after 2 grams. bytch we just getting started the fukk you doing?

 

[YouMadd?]

here is yet another theory just for consideration
it ties into the big 5 personality factors

published studies have found that promiscuity (number of partners) was connected to people with higher openness and higher extraversion

• Openness to experience: (inventive/curious vs. consistent/cautious). Appreciation for art, emotion, adventure, unusual ideas, curiosity, and variety of experience. Openness reflects the degree of intellectual curiosity, creativity and a preference for novelty and variety a person has. It is also described as the extent to which a person is imaginative or independent, and depicts a personal preference for a variety of activities over a strict routine. Some disagreement remains about how to interpret the openness factor, which is sometimes called "intellect" rather than openness to experience.
• Extraversion: (outgoing/energetic vs. solitary/reserved). Energy, positive emotions, surgency, assertiveness, sociability and the tendency to seek stimulation in the company of others, and talkativeness.

basically, people with high O and high E find themselves with more opportunities to have sex
i have high O and fairly high E myself
i am comfortable in a lot of situations and across many groups
that doesn't mean i get 100% accepted by all members of these groups
but i make inroads and get somewhat involved
which yields opportunities with nearly everything
i think a lot of people say "self-confidence" but that misses the point
a combination of curiosity and surgency is a different thing entirely

[edit for clarity]
so why do some men not get laid??
because they are introverted and locked into their world view (closed minded)
which makes it damn near impossible to get out there and vibe with women
meanwhile, one of the best ways to get close to a woman
..is to let her "teach" you about what she knows
"teach" in the sense that you just "consider" it, not that you actually change your worldview

Spoiler: more info

here are the other 3 factors of big 5

• Conscientiousness: (efficient/organized vs. easy-going/careless). A tendency to be organized and dependable, show self-discipline, act dutifully, aim for achievement, and prefer planned rather than spontaneous behavior.
• Agreeableness: (friendly/compassionate vs. analytical/detached). A tendency to be compassionate and cooperative rather than suspicious and antagonistic towards others. It is also a measure of one's trusting and helpful nature, and whether a person is generally well tempered or not.
• Neuroticism: (sensitive/nervous vs. secure/confident). The tendency to experience unpleasant emotions easily, such as anger, anxiety, depression, and vulnerability. Neuroticism also refers to the degree of emotional stability and impulse control and is sometimes referred to by its low pole, "emotional stability".

it might be of interest..
unfaithfulness is tied to low conscientiousness and low agreeableness
so to despite the "common coli claim" that a history of promiscuity leads to unfaithfulness in marriage
that is actually not the case- low C and low A are to blame
which are distinct from high O and/or high E

So is low conscientiousness is easygoing and low agreeableness is defined as analytical/detached?

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

Just by saying this you come off as a sad sack of shyt. You giving off negative energy.

I'm being a realist. Shorties rarely look my way when I'm out. I'm not going to go out of my way to talk to a chick, if she's not feeling me. It's a waste of both our time & energy.

 

[Reece]

It's because women aren't interested in sex. Not like men are. It's a fun thing for them to do sometimes but they don't need it like we do. Men want puzzy so it's value skyrocketed. Women want money, money and more money. So any man with money has options.