i curated a list of answers from posts #1-130 so no one in the world will ever have to ponder this question again
1. unsuitable personality - inability to hold a conversation - "weak game" - poor communication skills - "no personality"
2. social antipathy - unrealistic expectations - thirst - too much ego - live in fantasy world - hate
3. fear - being psyched out - procrastinating due to lack of confidence -
waiting on her to do everything
and honestly?? i strongly suspect #2 and #3 are a byproduct of #1
so "
unsuitable personality" is the answer- there you go