Why do so many men not take care of their kids?

[FTBS]

We need to bring marriage back into the equation and the problem would be solved overnight, thats confirmation that the guy doesnt view the woman as nothing more than a quick come up. Otherwise, he most likely views the women as a slut or an object which contributes to the 0 desire to stick with her and some b*stard child for 18 years.

Dudes demean and leave their wives every day B. Forcing or cajoling a man into marriage isn't the answer. The problem is that this generation and the couple of generations before it treat commitment, settling down, sacrificing of self, and family like some sort of plague to be avoided. And the results of this are children who are often unplanned, growing up in an unstable environment lacking proper role models and values. The kindergarten level us vs. them mentality rife with defensiveness and "bu...bu...buts" doesn't help either.

 

[Born2BKing]

that's not a real discussion then now is it? you just want men to fully blame themselves and pretend women have no choice in the matter.

It was a simple question breh. Why don't some MEN take care of their kids. Answers should have been about why MEN don't take care of their seeds but all you saw was bu bu but women coulda shoulda woulda. We are MEN, we are leaders to these women, not fukking followers. Right?

 

[marcuz]

You still not getting the point of the thread. The thread is not about picking the right person the thread is why men aren't taking care of their kids? Why aren't they loving them? Geez shyt is simple but u are still missing the point.

i'm not a deadbeat dad, and i think you women who sleep with these dudes would be more versed on these issues than we would.

but if i had to guess, they arent "loving them" because they never loved them OR you. that's what happens when you get pregnant by a flavor of the week, instead of building a strong relationship first.

 

[Poetical Poltergeist]

Theres no excuse. Raise your kids. some women make it very hard but never give up being in your kids lives. i worked in child support services and seen the same shyt erday. men making excuses , women making excuses. just stfu and raise your kids.

 

[Blackout]

Seriously? You are being willfully ignorant if you don't see the responses are putting more responsibility on the women. Which is what my initial post was about. They didn't even address the OP. Also please show me where I said that their were post that defended deadbeat men?

Yes the responses are not answering her question, I agree.

Maybe its because there arent much deadbeat dads here to answer.

Where are the posts putting more responsibilities on the women though?

 

[Blackking]

Because being a parent is hard work and most of us had no role-models to show us how to get it done. So, imagine going to work everyday with no idea as to what you're supposed to do because you never got trained but EVERYONE expects you to know how to perform your duties and NO ONE gives you any help even when you ask for it.​

Yes. Ive seen plenty of young fathers get told they aren't shyt... and are dissed by all the women they know. Plus women spread this perception of sry black men. , when there are plenty of black men doing their part.

 

[151_Pr00f]

This is what ever single male poster should have said. But instead it went right back to the women should have picked a better man as if we didn't already know that.

It's a circular argument that doesn't go into any reasons why men can't change and it's irritating as hell.

 

[Born2BKing]

Yes the responses are not answering her question, I agree.

Maybe its because there arent much deadbeat dads here to answer.

Where are the posts putting more responsibilities on the women though?

80% of the threads in here are deflecting to the women. Does that not correlate into putting more blame onto them?

 

[Raava]

Yes the responses are not answering her question, I agree.

Maybe its because there arent much deadbeat dads here to answer.

Where are the ones putting more responsibilities on the women though?

Are you trolling me? By saying if women should just chose better it wouldn't happen, while making no mention of men at all or saying both parties could exercise birth control is saying that. If you don't see that, then refer to the second sentence of my previous reply

 

[Smoke]

You can't blame it 100% on the men. bytches will give it up to nikkas who already got multiple kids he not taking care of, get pregnant, and then be on some "nikkas ain't shyt" like she didn't already know.

MY theory is that the not shyt nikkas who not gonna take care of their kid, are the nikkas that women are generally attracted to.
Which leads me to believe...a good chunk of the female population is stupid.

 

[The ADD]

This won't end well

 

[Theraflu]

No-one is actually answering the question.

Why are some men not taking care of kids.

Why do some men feel comfy having seeds somewhere in whatever state and give no fukks how they're doing etc.

This is a genuine question I want to know the answer to......my only guess is when some dudes don't fukk with the kids mum they could give a fukk less about the kid.

This isn't exclusive to baby mama situations either. I've seen men who DIVORCE their wife, take off with a new woman and abandon their first family and never look back.

I know women who were married, happily so, husband cheats and husband runs off with a new woman, leaving the kids to grow up fatherless. Let's not pretend this is a 'single mum' issue. Cos it happens after divorce also.

And no-one is answering WHY ?!

 

[Theraflu]

Theres no excuse. Raise your kids. some women make it very hard but never give up being in your kids lives. i worked in child support services and seen the same shyt erday. men making excuses , women making excuses. just stfu and raise your kids.

Likewise, I've heard some men give the dumbest excuses for not taking care of their kids.

 

[Kitsune]

Dudes demean and leave their wives every day B. Forcing or cajoling a man into marriage isn't the answer. The problem is that this generation and the couple of generations before it treat commitment, settling down, sacrificing of self, and family like some sort of plague to be avoided. And the results of this are children who are often unplanned, growing up in an unstable environment lacking proper role models and values. The kindergarten level us vs. them mentality rife with defensiveness and "bu...bu...buts" doesn't help either.

children born in wedlock would still curb a large segment of the potential single parented households; thats progress regardless if the circumstances may not solve the problem entirerly. Otherwise I agree with the rest, at the root of it all, its a cultural problem and until that gets addressed then these problem will continue to thrive; a cultural shift is what we really need

 

[Blah1991]

why do women ask nikkas that arent dead beats these questions? why dont they go to whatever jail or street corner, to find the nikka they let cum inside them raw, and ask those dudes why their deadbeats?

You guys are constantly asking women who aren't single mothers to answer for women who are. What's the difference?