Why do so many men not take care of their kids?

[marcuz]

I don't have kids and I've never been pregnant. I made this thread cause it's the truth

see how its now about you personally and your actions, while ignoring the collective problem same way i feel when you bytch about deadbeats.

 

[Raava]

another myth is that black women prefer safe sex. truth is, y'all get offended when nikkas pull out condoms. hell, all of a sudden, BW get latex allergies or claim they're on some form of BC.

but yeah, you're right. both partners are still responsible and men still have condoms.

If a person is putting preference about safety again, its on them. The one that suffers in the end is the child...

I wish there was more birth control options for men, I am still skeptical about the use. Just like with women. All these options and people still don't use them.

 

[KinksandCoils]

another myth is that black women prefer safe sex. truth is, y'all get offended when nikkas pull out condoms. hell, all of a sudden, BW get latex allergies or claim they're on some form of BC.

but yeah, you're right. both partners are still responsible and men still have condoms.

I don't get offended.

Lump every woman in the same category just cause you've experienced it . Or your boys told u some

 

[beanz]

Regardless of the women's fault, men are the leaders, breh. We're supposed to step up no matter what. That's what being a man is all about. To try and put half our responsibility on the woman is some bytch shyt. Just saying.

Men and women are not the same although it's really hard to tell the difference these days.

I feel u 100%. But some women know these dudes are dirt bags and still chase them hard.

At the same time, like u said, we supposed to be leaders.

I just think it's not as black and white as we think. Every situation is different and sometimes women are just fooled by dirt bags in disguise.

 

[Rawtid]

They werent worried about getting a record?

Im all for ensuring relationship with kids but being in jail aint it.

Even more reason to be careful who you skeet in.

 

[kevm3]

Nobody is 'caping for' these bum men. We're calling them what they are. They're losers who are irresponsible. The reason they are the way they are is because they keep getting rewarded for their behavior regardless of that fact. If your dog pees on your couch and you pat that dog on the head and give him a treat, do you think that dog will ever change it's behavior?

 

[I'm Billy FUCO!!]

I don't know how some of y'all nikkas do it. I don't even mean the deadbeats, I mean the ones who actually get to see their kids every now and then, pay the child support and spend some significant time with them. Still.....you got your kid out there with the mother most of the time.....you only see them like once a week or month on average....you missing all kinds of moments in their lives, all kinds of opportunities to teach them about life and the world yourself, and keeping other idiots from filling their heads with garbage......you don't know for sure if the mother's new man is a creep who might mess with your kid on the low, sexually or otherwise......

If I had a kid, that shyt would bother me. It's probably the only reason I MIGHT still get married someday......because unfortunately for men, marrying the chick seems to be the only guaranteed way to be able to live with the kids without any long-ass 'break periods' where the mother has them, since the courts otherwise automatically give the woman the kids unless she's a proven TERRIBLE mother ......in which case, even if you get custody, you still fukked up because you the one who seeded up that bytch and caused her to become your kids' mother.....

I know this thread is technically about the deadbeats who rarely take care of the kids/don't take care of them at all, but I just had to mention that because I don't understand how nikkas can even GET to that point. You got some clowns out there who LOVE playing Mr. Loverman and fukkin' a buncha chicks, and the hoes love him for it....but the numbers game eventually catch up with dude, and he learns that he got one of them pregnant through his escapades..... and decides "ain't nobody got time for that....she can handle that shyt ". Suddenly, that same chick ends up realizing the hard way that a real man is one that takes care of his kids once he makes them.....too bad she realized it AFTER she chose to let him hit

Both men and women know the risks of sex....even with condoms/other forms of protection, shyt happens. Any time you fukk anyone, you risk having a kid with them, even if it is highly unlikely based on whatever form of protection you're using. Men have to realize "hey, if I smash this chick and she somehow ends up having a baby for me.....I gotta take care of that and help raise it, even if me and the moms ain't compatible outside of bed" (this is exactly why I've NEVER fukked a chick without getting to know them for a while first and/or being in some sort of legit relationship with them....my body count is lower than most because of this, but I'm proud of it. At least I know I won't end up like one of them nikkas who got unattractive/annoying baby mamas, who they only fukked back in the day because the ass was fat, and they gave no fukks about what type of person/potential mother she was, and if they would still be cool if the relationship ended)

Women also have to think "OK, he look fine as hell, I bet he could dikk me down right .....but if I had his kid, would he take care of his, no matter what our relationship is in the future? ".....and that's where getting to KNOW him first before smashing, comes into play. Could he act like some good guy ready to play daddy, then heel-turn on you in the future after y'all have a kid? It's possible.....but not likely. Most of the nikkas who are deadbeats, you can tell from early on that's the kind of dude they're gonna be, based on their reputation and how they live their lives.....

Too many chicks are only fukkin' nikkas (and even intentionally gettin' pregnant by nikkas) because they're tall, good-looking or an exciting thug......then when reality sets in and they realize that kid they're having for him actually needs a daddy, THAT'S when they decide to consider looking for a man who's willing to fill that daddy role. Sure, the deadbeat is an ass for not taking care of his.....that shyt ain't even up for argument. But the women have to take some blame in that situation, too......

 

[Canon]

why don't you go find some deadbeats and ask them instead of us?

ill wait for the answers

 

[Higher Tech]

We should stop generalizing and see some statistics

 

[Mountain]

I know women who are shamed too, at least where I come from. Why can't we just say they are both responsible? This was a bait thread anyway and has gotten far off topic from the OP. I never took blame off of women in the situation or said men had more blame. I simply said they have equal blame.

Yea I agree dead beats and some single moms should be held equally responsible, in fact I said that in the other post.

Problem is general society doesnt see it that way and continues to pretty much ignore women that make poor choices in fathers whilst focusing most of their attention on dead beats.

 

[Bunchy Carter]

It's the same topics every week, can yall passive aggressive women come up with something else.
That's some oxymoron shyt, ask a bunch a men who don't have kids; why don't some men take care of their children. Why don't you ask the men that are not taking care of their kids that questions? You will get you answer, hoes just want to argue

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

They're married with kids already. Court statistics show that of the paternity tests taken, 30% of the tests discover that the accused are not the fathers.

 

[mamba]

The question really answers itself. You are essentially asking why are bum men engaging in bum-like behavior. Because that's who they are. The real question is how are these men able to get to the women and have kids in the first plac.

LOL! Exactly! These chicks are the same ones who'll go to the zoo, stick their hands in the tiger's cage, and then look confused when he bites that shyt off.

 

[Born2BKing]

Low key... you're getting your answer in these replies.

nikkas hate to take responsibility for their own actions. Buncha absentee fathers and they blame the women. It pisses me off because the stigma stains the entire demographic of black men and I can't even defend it. I can't even say it's not true because far too often it is. It's embarrassing, despicable, and pitiful.

The only solace I have is knowing these aren't black men. Men are accountable. These guys are just big ass boys who need to grow up. Which raises the next question: Where are all the black men?

Great post. This thread is making me shake my head and look We as men are supposed to lead our women. Miss me with the bu bu but bullshyt. Step up and be a leader, be a MAN and be in your fukking kids lives.

 

[Born2BKing]

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