Why do so many men not take care of their kids?

[beenz]

my baby daddy was a player and cheated but he still stepped up and takes care of his child. he didnt have a daddy in his life either. we argue alot. i joked once that i was gonna take our son and leave and he choked me out and told me he'd kill me first before i take his son away. theres no excuse for being a deadbeat. nikkas find a way to do what they want if they want to. stop coddling these nikkas.

that is the kinda shyt you say for a joke?????

 

[KinksandCoils]

no, the women who fukk them are going hard for bum ass nikkas. i just dont want to hear y'all bytch about your choices after you've made them.

instead of hoping a nikka can find some type of gainful employment AFTER the fact, it would be wise to look for those qualities BEFOREHAND.

You're kinda changing my thread. We all know women choose dumb partners sometimes but that's not the question so please stop trying to make my thread be something it's not. Save your argument for another thread.

A man can be a bum and still love his kids, wants to see them and try to give them the little resources they have. I'm talking about the man that doesn't try to do anything. It doesn't matter if he had a child out of a one night stand. That kid would be just as much his as to man that had a child with his wife. Y'all dudes are pathetic going back in fourth still trying to say that a woman should choose wisely. How about a man just take care of his kids and this won't be an issue.

I'll wait for you to continue to say the same dumb shyt.

 

[Taadow]

now all of a sudden you're completely retarded and unfamiliar w/this type of NORMALIZED behavior

This is a question I posed to the women because I want to know...

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

We bout to start negging people who make these redundant ass threads

Tomorrow: Why do women only like dudes with money

Yall nikkas fukkin up the quality quotient

 

[KinksandCoils]

The question really answers itself. You are essentially asking why are bum men engaging in bum-like behavior. Because that's who they are. The real question is how are these men able to get to the women and have kids in the first plac.

U must not have read my entire first post cause we all know that not Every man that doesn't take care of his kids is some broke worthless nikka. So men have great jobs and still don't do for their own.

 

[Blackout]

U must not have read my entire first post cause we all know that not Every man that doesn't take care of his kids is some broke worthless nikka. So men have great jobs and still don't do for their own.

We can only guess so much though.

Eventually your best bet to getting an answer is to ask those men themselves.

 

[Taadow]

A man can be a bum and still love his kids, wants to see them and try to give them the little resources they have. I'm talking about the man that doesn't try to do anything.

...so going by your title, you seem to believe that there are more of the latter type than the former.

Is that accurate?

 

[beenz]

Folks will do anything for a plat thread

yup, they stay hitting the same old played out "hot topics" in here.

 

[MayQueen]

I didn't read this thread yet, but here in black man land I'm sure you will get a whole lot of excuses and deflecting instead of people actually answering why most black men don't care for their kids.

 

[marcuz]

A man can be a bum and still love his kids, wants to see them and try to give them the little resources they have. I'm talking about the man that doesn't try to do anything. It doesn't matter if he had a child out of a one night stand. That kid would be just as much his as to man that had a child with his wife. Y'all dudes are pathetic going back in fourth still trying to say that a woman should choose wisely. How about a man just take care of his kids and this won't be an issue.

I'll wait for you to continue to say the same dumb shyt.

once again, just a testament to the type of men y'all willingly let pollute your womb. then to make it laughable, these single mothers upgrade their standards after every b*stard baby they have.

i dont get the point in asking non-deadbeats the behavior of deadbeats. y'all sleep with them, why dont you just go directly to the source.

 

[Raava]

Ok, but you do realise that the reason nikkas here focus more on women choices is because dead beats are already shamed heavily by society whilst single moms that make bad choices in men are rarely addressed, right?

I dont think the blame should be one sided (obviously both the mother and the father are at fault) but lets keep it 100, every one shames dead beats, the media, celebrities and the rest of general society have been on dead beats asses for 25+ years, yet single moms that make bad choices in men are rarely held accountable in comparison.

Thats why there are so many threads addressing single mother compared to dead beats on this forum and most other male dominated forums, men are beginning to hold single moms accountable because the rest of society wont.

I know women who are shamed too, at least where I come from. Why can't we just say they are both responsible? This was a bait thread anyway and has gotten far off topic from the OP. I never took blame off of women in the situation or said men had more blame. I simply said they have equal blame.

Where did I say that was my solution?

My solution made NO mention of blame.

I blame both as Ive said before.

My solution was focusing on stop future cases of his happening. My solution has nothing to do with blame.

^Read this many times until you understand.

This has nothing to do with me. Im doing my part by not being a dead beat and influencing males to take care of their kids. I just need women to do their part and stop giving these bad men chances to do what they do.

Do you realize the conversation is going in circles, Do you need to win here or what is it? It has nothing to do with you so why do you keep talking about yourself? If every time we brought up solutions and you said nothing about men I did assume you thought that way because you continued to turn it back on women. If when I said both are responsible and you go and say "But women". Yes I am going to assume that. We started this about the initial responses to the thread. Not about you until you put yourself in it. I don't even know why after I said we can agree to disagree the convo turned to this.

If you blame both then why are we still talking? That was my whole point. You made assumptions initially and at this point I will just say that I did to because I no longer see the point in this convo. There you go.

its not flawed, its 100% spot on. men get demonized for something women have the option to avoid.

if y'all dont want the kid, abortion or adoption. if we dont want the kid, tough break, nikka

Men have the same option to avoid it. No one is strapping me down and injecting their sperm into women. They have control right there.

 

[KinksandCoils]

We bout to start negging people who make these redundant ass threads

Tomorrow: Why do women only like dudes with money

Yall nikkas fukkin up the quality quotient

This thread has never been made. I'm on the Coli a lot and it's always the shyt on single moms in some way or fashion. It's never why do men not take care of their kids it's always focused on the woman.

• A redundant thread is y'all posting a pic of some girl asking the guys would they wife.
• The shyt on a fat girl thread
• The he won thread cause he got a pretty woman.
• The lets brag on how many women we smashed.
• The lets call some woman a thot thread.

 

[Chris.B]

I didn't read this thread yet, but here in black man land I'm sure you will get a whole lot of excuses and deflecting instead of people actually answering why most black men don't care for their kids.

bullshyt.
responsible black men will always care for their kids.

It's the women who pick the irresponsible ones

 

[KinksandCoils]

once again, just a testament to the type of men y'all willingly let pollute your womb. then to make it laughable, these single mothers upgrade their standards after every b*stard baby they have.

i dont get the point in asking non-deadbeats the behavior of deadbeats. y'all sleep with them, why dont you just go directly to the source.

Again

 

[MayQueen]

bullshyt.
responsible black men will always care for their kids.

It's the women who pick the irresponsible ones

Thanks for proving my point. What other excuses can you come up with? Alien abduction? The white manz? Immigration? Oprah?