Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

[Hathaway]

Married for 5 years been together 11 years.

I struggle with this. My wife and I are both still very good looking and youthful despite 2 kids so it's not the physical attraction. Our intimacy is better than it's ever been so it's not sex. Sometimes, you just realize there was so much more you wanted to accomplish or try to accomplish before settling down and starting a family; atleast in my case. And the realization sets in that you no longer have the time or resources to devote to those former goals you had prior to marriage. And by the time you get that time, after the kids have grown and started their lives, you may be too old or uninterested.

Marriage is a rollercoaster. It has its many ups, downs, loops, twists and turns. But ultimately, it's a beautiful thing when both people are crazy in love. I think, despite my regrets, my family thrives because we got married for the right reasons and were very mature about it.

 

[levitate]

Nagging ass wife.

 

[Pseudonym]

 

[ItzRailT]

Damn near every older dude I run into be same way and tell me the same thing never get married now I know every situation is different but it just seems way too common.

 

[ba'al]

Married for 5 years been together 11 years.

I struggle with this. My wife and I are both still very good looking and youthful despite 2 kids so it's not the physical attraction. Our intimacy is better than it's ever been so it's not sex. Sometimes, you just realize there was so much more you wanted to accomplish or try to accomplish before settling down and starting a family; atleast in my case. And the realization sets in that you no longer have the time or resources to devote to those former goals you had prior to marriage. And by the time you get that time, after the kids have grown and started their lives, you may be too old or uninterested.

What would you haved like to accomplish before you got married? I want to get married someday but my career and dreams come first.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

lol, it seems to be that way too me. So many miserable married man out there . I think it is because they lose control and feel boxed in.

 

[ba'al]

Damn near every older dude I run into be same way and tell me the same thing never get married now I know every situation is different but it just seems way too common.

@portcityplaya I got another witness. Oldheads be trying to warn brehs.

lol, it seems to be that way too me. So many miserable married man out there . I think it is because they lose control and feel boxed in.

SO I'm not the only one? A lot of married men look so defeated bruh. Of course not all I don't want the "all police" or "whatboutism police" to come in the thread but a noticeable amount got the thousand-yard stare look to em.

 

[Booker Carver]

lol, it seems to be that way too me. So many miserable married man out there . I think it is because they lose control and feel boxed in.

Or maybe they’re making excuses for why they aren’t where they want to be. We had a saying, “if it is to be, it’s up to me”.

 

[In The Zone '98]

Open marriage.

Give a little to get a little.

 

[Goat poster]

Hmmm.. I would imagine they bought into an idea that society sold them but didn’t truly fit for them.

It’s a huge sacrifice having to spend every day with another person and having to often put their interests before yours. If you aren’t truly compatible (shared interests, hobbies, values, similar temperaments, libidos) everyday is a constant push and pull between your own self-interests and the interests and well being of someone else. That can quickly become overwhelmingly exhausting.

And that’s not even adding how much KIDS change the dynamics as well.

Folks need to think long and hard before they make those commitments

 

[BunchePark]

Man I love being married

 

[desjardins]

They don’t seem anymore miserable than single dudes who sound bitter as hell constantly talking bout women not being shyt

 

[Poetical Poltergeist]

It's a double edged sword like anything else. My brother has been single for a grip now and I think he's loving it. He knows women will hold u back and give you mad stress. Im sure he gets lonely and at a recent wedding he had no date and looked a bit sad. but he does whatever he wants when he wants and he knows us married bruhs are not happy all the time either. Thank God it's football season.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Open marriage.

Give a little to get a little.

LOL no man is surviving an open marriage. She will fukk 100 hundreds dudes before you fuk 5.

 

[In The Zone '98]

LOL no man is surviving an open marriage. She will fukk 100 hundreds dudes before you fuk 5.

We not asking for fairness.

We just don't wanna come home on Tuesday.