Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?
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Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
They gave up their power and are basically Yes, Dear ass nikkas
there is ritual marriage and then there is literal marriage
literal marriage is sexual relations. A woman's true husband is the man she conceives with.
ritual marriage is declaring woman your light and that you serve them before God (consider all the imagery)
literal marriage is sexual relations. A woman's true husband is the man she conceives with.
ritual marriage is declaring woman your light and that you serve them before God (consider all the imagery)
I never understood being in a relationship for 1-3 years, then getting married. You haven’t been through enough yet while dating, to know how that person can change due to things changing in their life outside of you.
I was in a relationship shacked up for 10yrs before getting married. OUR FAMILY WAS ON US, BUT WE POLITELY TOLD THEM TO STAY OUT OUR MIX. In that span we been through a few ups and downs, caught each other on the way down or encouraged the other to get up. Got married and we’re both our same selves, just older.
I was in a relationship shacked up for 10yrs before getting married. OUR FAMILY WAS ON US, BUT WE POLITELY TOLD THEM TO STAY OUT OUR MIX. In that span we been through a few ups and downs, caught each other on the way down or encouraged the other to get up. Got married and we’re both our same selves, just older.
IIVI
Superstar
It's funny, saw this today:
End of the day, you got to pick the right one. Know your capabilities and your partner's.
When you married with a good spouse, it's like you can split yourself in two and get more done, reliably. If you don't have the same strengths, but they're reliable they can cover you in other ways.
Got to be careful with false positives.
Basically you ask unhappy people and many times they'll blame someone else for their problems on a decision they made.
End of the day, you got to pick the right one. Know your capabilities and your partner's.
When you married with a good spouse, it's like you can split yourself in two and get more done, reliably. If you don't have the same strengths, but they're reliable they can cover you in other ways.
Got to be careful with false positives.
Basically you ask unhappy people and many times they'll blame someone else for their problems on a decision they made.
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Economics would be my guess. Many families are struggling and financial issues always put a mental and negative strain on marriages and relationships.
People can change at any point. 1 year, 5, 10, 15, 20, etc.
Hazel Brown
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I’ve got a simp type of personality.@Hazel Brown you wouldn’t
My fathers words to me growing up were to marry someone like your mother. My parents been married 44 years and I’ve always had that as my example.
I’ve known my wife for 23 years. We’ve been together for 21 years. Been married for 17. We’ve grown up together. Been with her over half my life. She’s definitely changed. But so have I. It’s not always been pretty, but this is hard work. But it’s work that we’re always trying to improve on. We get to chase dreams together. On the same page with parenting. Haven’t always been on the same page with sex or finances but again, that’s the work we endure. But we’re building towards something. Our incomes are both high and growing. She’s a great cook. She handles her biz with the kids. Couldn’t ask for a better partner in that regard.
My advice to any young breh (like others have said) is to choose wisely. I had a great example of a mother to find in a wife. Not everyone can say that. I look at some of the homies parents, and now who they’re with and
. A wife is a multiplier. Choose poorly and act crazy towards her, she multiplies negatively. Choose wisely and cultivate her, she multiplies positively.
Ultimately I look at marriage as a business. I have the vision and set the tone for the family. She oversees the operation of that vision and makes sure we stay on task. Except with the finances. That’s all me.
I’ve known my wife for 23 years. We’ve been together for 21 years. Been married for 17. We’ve grown up together. Been with her over half my life. She’s definitely changed. But so have I. It’s not always been pretty, but this is hard work. But it’s work that we’re always trying to improve on. We get to chase dreams together. On the same page with parenting. Haven’t always been on the same page with sex or finances but again, that’s the work we endure. But we’re building towards something. Our incomes are both high and growing. She’s a great cook. She handles her biz with the kids. Couldn’t ask for a better partner in that regard.
My advice to any young breh (like others have said) is to choose wisely. I had a great example of a mother to find in a wife. Not everyone can say that. I look at some of the homies parents, and now who they’re with and
. A wife is a multiplier. Choose poorly and act crazy towards her, she multiplies negatively. Choose wisely and cultivate her, she multiplies positively.Ultimately I look at marriage as a business. I have the vision and set the tone for the family. She oversees the operation of that vision and makes sure we stay on task. Except with the finances. That’s all me.