Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

[ReggieFlare]

Everything about marriage sucks, at least traditional marriage. As a man when you get married you realize that even the woman who says she loves you really doesn't give a fukk about your happiness and everything is conditional. Nothing you do is ever gonna be good because women cannot be satisfied. There is far too much of a focus on women in our culture and not enough of a focus on men and as a man you will resent that eventually.

Cold game right here

I think it ultimately boils down to their biology…they’re hardwired to prioritize themselves and their offspring so they’re always selfishly on the lookout for the best outcome even if it’s at the expense or dismay of someone else.

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

Why do a lot of married men seem miserable and dead inside?

I straight up bump into a lot of older guys that tell me unprompted not to get married and enjoy being single.

They be looking like this in the face when their "better half" is around.

#DogsetK

Seems like it's a lot of miserable unmarried men that post here.

 

[the bossman]

I never understood being in a relationship for 1-3 years, then getting married. You haven’t been through enough yet while dating, to know how that person can change due to things changing in their life outside of you.

I was in a relationship shacked up for 10yrs before getting married. OUR FAMILY WAS ON US, BUT WE POLITELY TOLD THEM TO STAY OUT OUR MIX. In that span we been through a few ups and downs, caught each other on the way down or encouraged the other to get up. Got married and we’re both our same selves, just older.

most succumb to the family pressure. did yall have kids during the 10 years?

 

[ba'al]

Seems like it's a lot of miserable unmarried men that post here.

I agree.

 

[Bossino]

I never understood being in a relationship for 1-3 years, then getting married. You haven’t been through enough yet while dating, to know how that person can change due to things changing in their life outside of you.

I was in a relationship shacked up for 10yrs before getting married. OUR FAMILY WAS ON US, BUT WE POLITELY TOLD THEM TO STAY OUT OUR MIX. In that span we been through a few ups and downs, caught each other on the way down or encouraged the other to get up. Got married and we’re both our same selves, just older.

Sounds ideal, but women largely don't want to wait that long because they fear the man leaving/it not working, and their youth being "wasted"

 

[WaveMolecules]

Hold on my guy, the juxtaposition between a broad switching up and maintenance is weak at best.

Maintenance implies if I do everything I'm supposed to it'll run smooth.

Changing into a different person is like me copping a Maserati, but ten years later I wake up and go outside to whip it and the shyt transmogrified into an Infiniti.

The scenario is regular as life, the second is devil's magic

i hear you breh. dont take it too seriously. my point is marriage hard but its worth it. idk i love my wife and its a lot of work but i never complain about her because the good outweighs the bad by far and shes clear and away the most important person in my life.

 

[Pull Up the Roots]

Why do a lot of married men seem miserable and dead inside?

I straight up bump into a lot of older guys that tell me unprompted not to get married and enjoy being single.

They be looking like this in the face when their "better half" is around.

 

[Bossino]

lol, it seems to be that way too me. So many miserable married man out there . I think it is because they lose control and feel boxed in.

They have and they are due to divorce law. Every time you concede to a woman, because you don't feel like/have the energy to argue. Imagine that but, if you piss her off enough she bounces with some of your shyt and you pay here.

Married men are simultaneously the boss and the worker not just of/for their wife, but for their family. Doing that, while walking on proverbial eggshells can drain men

 

[ba'al]

I wish I was telling ducktales. But I don't blame you for not believing me. That's actually good thing. It means you're not around as many dysfunctional mfers as I am on the regular. Like when you tell a cac about your experience with racism and they say it's all in your head.

 

[Swirv]

Marriage is heaven and hell, for me. I’m in the hell period right now.

 

[Shadow]

Folks get married for the sake of being married.

 

[Bossino]

i hear you breh. dont take it too seriously. my point is marriage hard but its worth it. idk i love my wife and its a lot of work but i never complain about her because the good outweighs the bad by far and shes clear and away the most important person in my life.

I know the bolded is the ultimate measure of if a man should deal with a woman romantically on any level. But as someone who's found it. What's the splits like? When you first me was it like 90/10 good to bad, and now it's 70/30, or what? Moreover I'm really only asking for your perspective as a man because many a men have thought shyt was 80/20, mean while ol girl feels like its 40/60 and is ready to draw up papers

I'd appreciate more insight OG

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

I’m not
Met a good woman that’s held me down through some real life storms
I know everything has an ending either in death or just natural evolution in people
I don’t sit here an pontificate about the past and how marriage was seen in yesteryears
People ain’t built for those discussions on this forum
And the argument will fall into two sectors of thought
GMB
You hate women
Oh forgot the third
A single mother will make a baseless rant on why she’s “happily single”
A femcel will write some garbage about black male patriarchy
Another will write a dissertation full of hoe babble
Reformed stripper bih will write an inflammatory/gaslighting post
And play obtuse triangle when you call out the bullshyt
The others I don’t pay attention to because boy their opinions are pretty much big trash on anything
It’s only one that understands both sides and doesn’t placate to either
As you where
I hate my momma

 

[BlackBall]

I did my 20 year bid and bounced. No kids

 

[Atlrocafella]

I did my 20 year bid and bounced. No kids

Sheesh , what caused the end of it?